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  • HomeMom
    HomeMom Member Posts: 1,198
    edited September 2014

    I need to ask about exercise. I would like to start low weight training to get my arms back and I really should be walking at the very least. 

    FBN who is your team? That picture is too small to tell ! I am more of a college fan then NFL, but I do like the Steelers, and the FLorida teams

  • jbokland
    jbokland Member Posts: 890
    edited September 2014

    HomeMom...did you get any evaluation or treatment for LE?  I went and they gave me some instruction on exercises and stretching using 2 & 3 lb weights.

    Of course, the Y is helping now too....look, they even give you nifty shirts!

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  • HomeMom
    HomeMom Member Posts: 1,198
    edited September 2014

    jbok I have a PT appt at Eden spa on the 12th, maybe they will give me info on that then?  I need to call the Y near me in Winter Garden and see if they have the program. COOL shirt, I want one!

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 6,398
    edited September 2014


    homemom:  GO GATORS!!!  And if you google the Livestrong program, you can see which Y's have it. I know there are some in the Orlando area that do. I'm in Gainesville,, and we don't.   Booooo.   And there are some exercise thread in the lymphedema section, if you want to check them out. Carol and Binney over there are very helpful.

    Jbok:  nifty shirt!

  • Mulligan
    Mulligan Member Posts: 205
    edited September 2014

    Hello ladies, I guess I'm middle aged now. I was diagnosed this year at 40 yrs old but my issues started back when I was 37. I've had 2.5 yrs to prepare for this and at times I am but other times I feel completely lost especially with how I should feel. Everything just happened so fast from the time of diagnosis to surgery, reconstruction, etc that I didn't allow myself to grieve or get angry or anything. I felt like I was tossed a baton and told to run and I've just been running ever since. I'm almost afraid to stop as then I'll have to deal with any emotions since I haven't allowed myself to think about. Does that make sense?

    Now that the majority of the reconstruction will be over soon, the next steps are chemo and hormone therapy which the HT is frankly scaring the crap out of me.

    I'm so glad to be able to vent my issues or what's mulling around in my brain to you ladies even if no advice can be given. I don't want to burden my family and friends as they would not truly understand. I, at least feel comfort here knowing that I'm not the only one going through this.

  • jbokland
    jbokland Member Posts: 890
    edited September 2014

    Hi Jules! Looking through your surgery time line...you have been on a long road!  

    Vent away, sister!   We are here!

  • HomeMom
    HomeMom Member Posts: 1,198
    edited September 2014

    glennie GO GATORS!!!! How about that storm?? Glad I couldn't make the trip! DH and I agreed that we would have left around the 9-9:30pm time frame having a 90 min drive home. Thanks for the info on this site, I will check those out.

    Jules - I get ya! Never wanted to get into that "Cancer world" where I thought the unlucky had to live. I learned to look at it like something I have to fix and move on from. It's still a shock to the system, but this is where you can vent and know that EVERYONE understands!

  • ganzgirl2010
    ganzgirl2010 Member Posts: 235
    edited September 2014

    So excited for football...GO PATRIOTS !!

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited September 2014

    Looking in, I notice several new women have joined the ranks, and have been greeted already, but I will add my welcome also.  I know a few have upcoming procedures...may those go well and the healing commence uneventfully.  

    Newbies, you can be sure the others here DO understand what you go through now.  Nobody ever said you have to like it, either!  Take what you need from the ladies here.  All are willing to give.  When you can and are ready, give back what you can, on here or the many threads with so many people looking to connect and/or get answers.

    After five years, I won't be frequenting BCO on the near-daily basis like before.  Others have had the call to move on before me and my time has now come.  You'll do it too if and when it feels right.  I may show up now and again with something to say or share.  Who knows?  At the very least, someone has to change that pic at the top from time to time, eh?

  • Brwneyedgirl
    Brwneyedgirl Member Posts: 113
    edited September 2014

    Welcome to all of the newbies.  Elimar we will miss  you, happy that you are able to move on. 

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 6,398
    edited September 2014


    HomeMom, that storm was something!!  I don't think I've ever seen an entire game called off before. Oh well. They should just declare it no contest. What's the point of flying them back again?  Costs too much money in my opinion. Course the alumuni who go to every game might think differently.

    Hi, Jules, Welcome to our gang.  Vent away!!  We get it!

    Elimar,, do keep checking it from time to time!  We do need the pic changed!  LOL!! Glad things are going well!

  • Footballnut
    Footballnut Member Posts: 742
    edited September 2014

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    good morning all

    Well I rang the bell hard and loud yesterday - twice and will do so again once herceptin is done next June!!

    As far as exercising goes I went to the gym prior to cancer so have slowly returned to my routines. As I only have 1 fully developed arm I do my arm weights. I watch for swelling which may or may not start regardless of what I do. All I know is that I feel so much better doing cardio and weights

    As far as football my teams are 

    1. Broncos for PEYTON. Used to be the colts so this Sunday night will be interesting

    2  saints. Drew BREES!  He will become my main man once PEYTON retires

    3 Green Bay. Aaron Rogers. Always hated them when what's his name was qb. Couldn't stand him!!  Fabre. Ugh

    4. 49ers. Have loved them since the 70s. They are the future

    Plus I'll always have a soft spot for Miami. They were my team when I was a little girl. 

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  • Mulligan
    Mulligan Member Posts: 205
    edited September 2014

    Thanks Jbokland, HomeMom and Glennie, I'm coming out of my bat cave more and more instead of lurking and hopefully I can give back to others with some encouragement, insight or even a shoulder to cry on.
    Glad you are able to move on Elimar, please come visit us here.
    Thanks for the warm welcome everyone!

    Oh and go Seahawks! :)

  • Mulligan
    Mulligan Member Posts: 205
    edited September 2014

    Yay Footballnut! Congrats! Like you, I use to workout up to the day before my mastectomy but I haven't been back to the gym since I think partially because I loved lifting and doing weight training on my arms but since any upper body exercise is prohibited I've been unmotivated to get my lazy butt back in the gym, glad to hear you are going back to your routine. 

  • Footballnut
    Footballnut Member Posts: 742
    edited September 2014

    mulligan I think that I started light arm weights approx 6 weeks after my mx. Prior to that I did exercises like walking the wall and others. So far so good 

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 6,398
    edited September 2014


    Great pics, FBN!  Miami is my team for the pros,, I grew up there and remember the great undefeated season!!

    **sings** "Miami has the Dolphins, the greatest football team. They take the ball from goal to goal like no one's ever seen."   Those were good times!!

    Mulligan:  why is upper body workout prohibited?  Is that due to upcoming surg and recovery?  You have surg tomorrow??  OK, I can see that you would need to take it easy for a while, but then you should be able to get back to it.  Start very light,, it's frustrating as all heck.    It took me a long time to get back after my MX, and now I'm having a HX the end of this month.  Frustrating, as it's another setback, so right now, I'm just working on cardio to build endurance before surgery.

  • macatacmv
    macatacmv Member Posts: 1,386
    edited September 2014

    e, this pic is for you!

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    There's no kangaroos in Austria! This is as close to cheetos as I could find.

  • PoppyK
    PoppyK Member Posts: 1,805
    edited September 2014

    FB, Congratulations! You looks so beautiful and happy!

    This exercise thing... Last night, I swept our rather large backyard patio to remove all the dirt, fur and miscellaneous debris deposited by my boys' dogs. I couldn't believe how sore my neck, arms and back were afterwards! Unfortunately, my still recovering breasts and sides swelled up pretty badly. Guess I'll have to approach this return to activity more slowly than I had hoped.

  • barsco1963
    barsco1963 Member Posts: 2,119
    edited September 2014

    Oh Eli - you will be missed but just think of the fuss we'll make when you do pop by to say hello! Best of luck with all of your upcoming procedures. Healing vibes being sent to you. (keep em in your pocket till you need em).

    Congrats to you FBN - you did it! I think I heard you ringing the bell from here!

  • jbokland
    jbokland Member Posts: 890
    edited September 2014

    ARGH!  I am so frustrated with a friend!   VENTING

    She was diagnosed just 2 months ago.  She has carefully watched me, supported me and often commented how I inspired her through my FB posts of my journey. 

    Yesterday, she just finished her second chemo treatment and posted on FB that her and her friend left chemo and stopped  for a couple of beers.   They then went home and had happy hour.  She made it sound like a nice day out of fun after a pedicure.... REALLY? 

    a. I don't know about you, but alcohol was the last thing I wanted after a day long of chemo, steroids and benedryl

    b. WHY would you do that to your body?

    c. Why would you boast about it on FB? 

    I wrote her a private note and told her I was genuinely worried about her mind set .  Either she is in a really bad place or in deep denial of the seriousness of self-care during this.  I also told her I was disappointed with our mutual friend who took her to the bar and hosted the happy hour.  We need support from our friends for good decisions and voices of reason when we are too crazed to see straight.   I'm sure I pissed her off with my candor.  

     Ugh, obviously I am worried that this may be more of an alcohol dependency than we (or she) admits too.

     whew...thanks!

  • HomeMom
    HomeMom Member Posts: 1,198
    edited September 2014

    jbokland - I was told by my MO that the alcohol goes through the liver and so does the chemo, it could counteract the effectiveness.  I don't see how she did that if it was A/C. I was on my butt for 5 days fighting queasiness 2-3 hours afterward. You did the right thing. Someone has to tell her!

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 6,398
    edited September 2014


    jbok:  you did the right thing.  Someone needs to tell her. Chemo is no time to be drinking. Your liver and your whole body  is under enough stress without that.

  • HomeMom
    HomeMom Member Posts: 1,198
    edited September 2014

    ganzigirl2010 - Since I'm not an NFL fanatic, I usually root for the teams with a Gator in it! Can be difficult if there are players on both sides, but, when I see the Patriots I get sad - Aaron Hernandez. What a disappointing and sad story all at once. 

  • Mulligan
    Mulligan Member Posts: 205
    edited September 2014

    FBN I would love to get my exercise mojo back!

    Glennie my PS didn't want me to take any chances in rupturing the pockets he created or having the TEs shift. 

    Jbokland, you are a wonderful friend, I hope your friend will get that ah-ha moment and realize she can't do that. 

  • macatacmv
    macatacmv Member Posts: 1,386
    edited September 2014

    yes, jbok, I also think you did the right thing. Maybe it was a one time thing for your friend. I had a tech ask me if I was going out for lunch after my vacuum biopsy, I was shocked and told her I needed to go lay down and go to sleep. to each their own, I guess. 

    I have been traveling so have not responded to some of your posts. 

    Ncollet, thanks for your kind words. I am much better now, but my lungs are still real touchy. I hope you do get all checked out. Keep us posted. 

    Fbn, Yahoo for finishing that part!!!! Whoee, pace yourself, girl! Don't go wearing yourself out.  It's all good stuff, but ya don't have to do it all. 

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 6,398
    edited September 2014


    ahhh, Mulligan,, that makes sense now. After you get the implants, you should be able to return to upper body workouts, no??  Is that today?   Thinking positive thoughts for you!

  • ncollett
    ncollett Member Posts: 862
    edited September 2014

    FB yay and you look great!! I am so happy for you!

    JB awesome shirt!!

    GO COLTS!!

    1. Colts

    2. Bronco's (of course because of Peyton)

    3. Bears

    4. Giants 

  • ganzgirl2010
    ganzgirl2010 Member Posts: 235
    edited September 2014

    Homemom...yea Aaron Hernandez..very sad but Bill Belichick should've known...he had a history ! Jbok..I agree..and Im glad you called your friend out on that..my aunt had stage 2b IDC a few years ago (she just reached her 5 yr mark yay !) but she also had hep C and was still drinking during her chemo and rad ! I stopped talking to her for quite awhile because I couldn't watch her do that to herself. She actually got really mad at me when I told her how I felt ! We are ok now..shes actually been a great source of support for me since I was diagnosed and she stopped drinking :)

  • Brwneyedgirl
    Brwneyedgirl Member Posts: 113
    edited September 2014

    Football

    1. Saints (because of Brees)

    2. Pittsburg (because they are DH's favorite and they are always on the TV)

    3. Peyton Manning (where ever he plays)

    4. San Francisco (in honor of my mother in law)

    Even now with just Herceptin, I don't have any alcohol after the infusion.  I might a week or two out. But it is an individual decision.  

    Aaron Hernandez - so sad

    Eli - we will miss you.  Please do drop in often. 


     

  • MameMe
    MameMe Member Posts: 425
    edited September 2014

    The best research I have seen on alcohol intake: most healthy females appear to be able to process 1/2 oz pure alcohol per hour. That is equal to one 12 oz beer, one 1oz shot, or one 5 oz glass of wine. The factors that reduce one's capacity to metabolize that efficiently include illness, fatigue, dehydration, flying, having one's period and using various meds. My goal for nutrition in general is to support my functioning, and that of my internal organs, so I drink less than daily, and limit it to one 5 oz glass of wine on days I do drink. Sometimes it just doesn't sound appealing, or I have a metallic taste in my mouth that makes it even less so. I keep an eye on blood work, not wanting to see liver enzymes going up. The other really useful factoid for me is that more than two drinks per day, or three on weekends, and neglecting to space them an hour apart, will likely drive up my tolerance, thus needing more volume of alcohol to get the same effect. Being both cheap and unwilling to drink larger quantities, I keep that in mind when tempted to have more. The idea of having to have three or four glasses to do what one or two used to do just frosts me! I really liked what Barbe said about her decision to just stop, also. That was a snappy, cogent explanation of just making a choice that works for one's self. Her tone about that was so practical, direct and self empowering. I am definitely headed in that direction. 

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