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Cut1epie
Cut1epie Member Posts: 12
edited September 2014 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

I was diagnosed on 8/14. Haven't stop crying since.  Don't know how to reach out to others who has gone through this.  They told me to call anytime but I can't do it.  So much anxiety, can't sleep.  It takes everything I have to be around others.  Don't want anyone around but they come anyway and I feel better. When they leave I get depressed and start crying.  I'm scared, angry, scared, angry, scared, angry.  I don't know what to do.  Never ever felt like this before.  I need to know what to do.  

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  • vlnrph
    vlnrph Member Posts: 1,632
    edited September 2014

    Contact the clinic that did your diagnosis - they will have a doctor on call that you can talk to  today and maybe get a prescription for a mild anti-anxiety medication. Lack of sleep sets up a vicious cycle which the drug can help break. You will not become addicted.

    In the meantime, try some deep breathing to relax. Praying you will get through this & be able to help others but take care of yourself 1st.

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  • 208sandy
    208sandy Member Posts: 2,610
    edited September 2014

    What vlnrph said!  You definitely need the anti-anxiety meds!

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  • macb04
    macb04 Member Posts: 1,433
    edited September 2014

    I get that you feel beside yourself from the fright and trauma of being told you have c. I am still incredibly angry or scared so much of the time, despite being 2 years out. There are moments of relative happiness that occur, mostly with my girls. It does get easier.  Sorry for writing what is such a cliche.  I agree with the posters above, do what you can for now to get sleep so you can hold on to your sanity

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  • AryaS
    AryaS Member Posts: 131
    edited September 2014

    When I first found out about my diagnosis, I got very anxious as well, especially at night.  I couldn't sleep and I just would wander the house and stare at my sleeping kids and cry.  I even started cleaning my kitchen at 3am and I do not enjoy cleaning.

    Then, my friend told me about anti anxiety meds.  I asked my oncologist for a prescription and it made a world of difference.  I could finally sleep again.  

    Please consider getting something to lessen the anxiety.  You don't have to do this on your own.  

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  • LibrarianB
    LibrarianB Member Posts: 41
    edited September 2014

    Cut1epie,

    I'm so sorry.  This all sucks so bad.  I agree.  The anti-anxiety meds do help.  Even if you only take them temporarily, it helps.  Sleeping meds help too.  I started going to a group, which is great.  It's small and niche based on our age, but it's nice.  It makes me feel a little less crazy.  I made an appointment to talk to a therapist that specializes in oncology.  I go next week.  If you are near a metropolitan area, there may be some services near you.  In my area we have support services, alternative therapy, exercise classes for during treatment and after, cooking classes, etc.  Going to these is nice because you can be around people, but you are not the token cancer patient.  It's a nice excuse to get out of the house once in a while and connect with people without pressure. 

    I have no words of advice.  This is a great resource of amazing women going through similar things.    

    Hugs. 

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  • allformy4
    allformy4 Member Posts: 33
    edited September 2014

    The first thing my PCP did when I was diagnosed was give me some clonazepam.  It totally helped.  A few weeks after my initial diagnosis, I met with a bunch of survivors, and they all said they would have never gotten through w/o anti-anxiety meds. They actually all pulled out their pill purses and offered to share lol!  I weaned myself off after all my treatments, but I still have some if I have a really bad day.  Don't be afraid to ask for help.  Being on the other side of this now, I wish I asked for more help.  I always put up a good front b/c I didnt want anyone feeling bad for me.  I sometimes regret that now.  This crazy train sucks, but the group of women I found on this site were my lifesavers.  We are all here for you. All the best

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