The waiting game

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Scaredmama35
Scaredmama35 Member Posts: 11
edited July 2014 in Just Diagnosed

Hi everyone... Again. I guess I just want to know what people do to get through the whole waiting part of everything! I was just diagnosed on Monday with stage 1 grade 1... I want everything to happen now. I want the results of the ER/HR like right this second. Why is this taking so long. Biopsy was last Thursday, results of cancer were Monday do why wouldn't I know that yet. Also is it possible to hand a well differententated tumor and still be considered invasive? I guess I remember hearing that abouty tumor but invasive sounds bad. I don't know...by nature I am not patient with this stuff but truly this is so horrible to wake up every morning and want to be back to normal... But there is nothing normal about a diagnosis of cancer! My husband and I are going on our anniversary trip this weekend and all I want is for it to be fun and normal... And I am afraid I will just worry the whole time. Aug 8th is my lumpectomy surgery but that seems so far away!!! Thank you everyone! 

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  • Rockym
    Rockym Member Posts: 1,261
    edited July 2014

    Scaredmama, it does take a little time to get the "true pathology" report.  That comes after surgery.  If stage 1, grade 1 is what your biopsy report showed, you are starting off in a good spot.  The HER information takes a bit longer, but things can change once they look at the real mass.  I don't know if your name tells me you are 35 years old.  That will make a difference in treatment options after your surgery.

    I recall I found out about my cancer at the beginning of June 2011 when I was 46.  I really wanted to have a fun summer with my husband and kids so I put off surgery until August 2011.  I was told it wouldn't be a big deal to wait and I can tell you, I made that summer the best ever.

    Go have fun, enjoy your trip as much as you can.  The upcoming year has the possibility of being a son of a bitch, but I can tell you that at 3 years out, my life is normal again.

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  • Holeinone
    Holeinone Member Posts: 2,478
    edited July 2014

    scared, 

    All your feelings & emotions are normal, what we all feel after getting the "news". I cannot answer your ? About your tumor. Best case scenario is when the cancer is situ, meaning not invasive. Your dx is still very early, and very treatable. 

    I was dx exactly one year ago. Shocking to be stage 1 going into surgery, stage 3 coming out. Still wake up every morning in dismay. The first month or so, I would wake up thinking it was a stupid dream/nightmare, then realize, nope, it's my new life. 

    Somehow we stumble ( crash ) through it all. Good chance you will not need chemo. I was treated very aggressively, dose dense chemo. Radiation is a cake walk compared to chemo in my opinion. You will probably need that. 

    No fantastic advice here, be gentle with yourself. We expect so much from ourselves, being strong, buck up. Impossible to put it completely on the back burner and pretend its not in your thoughts. Stay busy with the stuff you find calming, for me it's gardening, playing words with friends. ( silly, huh ). Keep posting it helps cause we get it, friends & family are wonderful but they are not living it. 

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  • FightLikeAGirl72
    FightLikeAGirl72 Member Posts: 53
    edited July 2014

    Scaredmama,

    I am not going to lie to you about it being easy to go away.  I just went on vacation with my husband and two of my four kids after bad mammogram results (I am awaiting biopsy report).  It's tough to put things out of your mind.  I kept reminding myself that there is nothing I can do to change anything.  Just be you! Love your husband while you are away and let him love you!  You need this time for you, he needs this time for him and you both need the time together.  Everything will be okay,  Having his love and support, not only on your anniversary, but throughout your treatment is a blessing.  Have a wonderful anniversary trip!  You deserve it. 

    Kris

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