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i feel really lucky because NO ONE has every said something like that to me....  at least, that i can remember.  they say all kinds of other stupid things, but no one has ever said something stupid about my decision to be flat.  

i'd also be curious as to what she means by it all came out so well. is that what she WANTED to hear from her dear auntie?  or is that what her dear auntie shared with her? makes me doubt that her dear auntie shared / bared all, if you know what i mean...

well - those are just the things that popped into my mind upon reading your post. i'm sorry you received this kind of judgement.  that makes her a jerk, if you ask me. she shouldn't have asked those questions that were beyond her "need to know" for your dental appointment - unless you invited further discussion, of course.  

like you - i had zero interest in recon... and continue to have zero interest.  but - i will admit - i do miss my nipples.... 

^{Hi glennie! & BikerLee, I am another one who had zero interest in reconstructing and I am a Uni! I actually have a "D" cup puppy to deal with on the other side and it doesn't bother me at all.}

^{I was questioned, not really judged, by a few people when they knew I'd had a Mx and no recon. I have no problem with people asking me questions about my journey.} 

^{I did have a co worker who had a UMX and recon, who floored me, when she asked me what kind of recon I'd had, and I told her I wasn't having recon, she spat out "Oh my God, how can you bear to look at yourself!"} 

^{I told her that I am perfectly happy with the way I look, as is my Husband, who didn't want me to have more surgery, unless I wanted to do it.  My Husband had boosted my self confidence when he saw my scar for the first time and said "That will heal really well! and You don't need 2 boobs to be gorgeous!"}  

^{I have discovered lingerie, foobs and clothing that suits me and} makes it easy for me to dress the way I want. I can actually snuggle closer to my Husband in bed and I can feel his heart beat through my unimpeded chest.

I think the photos I have seen of women after a UMX or BMX have a real strength and power about them.

^{I have absolutely no issue with anyone who wants to have recon, I am very glad the option is there for those who want it and I am always very excited for anyone who has it done and is really pleased with the results.} 

^{Whenever I have struck people who are very opinionated, but are only speaking from a friend or relatives experience, not their own, I gently tell them that it isn't something they could possibly have any idea about, unless they have had to evaluate and make the decision for themselves.}

^{No one truly knows what they would do, unless faced with the tough decision for themselves.}

Ariom..."I can feel his heart beat through my unimpeded chest."  That's just...magnificent.  Sweet.  Lovely.  Thank you for the poetry.

I am so with you glennie19. I do not want any more pain/discomfort. I do not want lumps of silicon stuck under my muscles. I am happy as I am. My chest looks neat - better than my belly! I like my new shape. I am enjoying buying new clothes to suit my new shape and I suspect I am finding that easier than women with large breasts.

Interestingly, I know 2 breast surgeons socially and both if them say they would probably not have reconstruction either