I needed one of you to roll my eyes at...

LOL!!!!!  I will rool my eyes for you!!!!  I wonder if "foot in mouth disease" would show up on a genetic test??????   HUMMM....THAT seems to run in my husband's family!!!My mother in law told me how hard/stressful  it was to have a child with cancer.  Poor her.  Yea, I reminded her that my own mother was dead.  From breast cancer, thank you.  And I have the BRCA gene, so I can relate to how you are feeling..

Vent away!!!  I totally understand!

Oh, and just to put your mind at ease, my mother's breast cancer was not genetic, weirdly enough.  Her cancer  was aggressive, mine was not (multiple times I had low grade DCIS)

You are ALWAYS welcome to vent here. We all have days when things roll off our shoulders and things when they don't. 

But I am also fascinated with genealogy and DNA, and I cannot imagine this person meant to make light of your testing by sharing his own.  At least I hope not.

My own genealogy DNA tests included the fact that I supposedly do not carry the BRCA gene, so I consider that a worthwhile thing to share. But of course it's important that we all remember to treat this type of info as not scientifically proven, and more for entertainment than actual health advice.  In fact, "23andme" is not even allowed to offer the health stuff anymore because it's not proven so the FDA pulled the plug (but they're still compiling info).  Some of the testing seems little more than comparing members genes with other members who self report certain conditions.  But , as long as we understand all that, it's still interesting.  And might be helpful. 

In addition to the BRCA gene info, I also have 2 copies of a gene that gives me a vastly increased risk of developing Alzheimer's.  And I show only one of a very long list of variants which I could pass on as a birth defect.

For what it's worth, the heritage reports have a lot of guesswork too.  But it's still awfully interesting. I found the tiny bit of native American proof I was hoping for, some cousins of different races, actually cyber-met people who were DEFINITELY my second cousins but whom I never knew, tried to help figure out the real parents of a couple of adopted adults who are distant relatives, etc. So, I hope you understand this person was just living their life and sharing information that can be fun, just like vacation pictures. I'm sure they did not mean to imply that the results of their genealogy in any way compared to your cell research regarding your cancer. Well, I don't know them, maybe they are that shallow, but I surely hope not.

I hope your week gets/got better!  

208sandy, wow, soo sorry about your birth mother and that you find yourself here.  I have the BRCA gene, so actually am grateful my son is adopted.  He knows his birth mother, but she is adopted as well, so there isn't much genetic history for him (or her)

Hope you are doing ok.

I've sent everyone I can on a reading quest about the "kvetching circle."  The basic rule?  You can say anything you want to anyone you want, AS LONG AS THAT PERSON IS IN A CIRCLE FURTHER AWAY FROM THE DX/ILLNESS THAN YOU ARE!  Basically, the person with the DX can say whatever to whomever, whenever they want.  My best friend can, too, but only to people who are less connected to this illness than I am.  I've lost some friends.  We all have - out of their fear, our fear, their comfort level - all kinds of reasons.  Maybe their experience with me will help them a little the next time it happens to someone they know.  That's what I hope for.  I still had to distance them to keep my balance as best I can ;-).  Thanks for sharing.  And no, I didn't drive to my friend's house and punch her in the face when she posted "are you leaving feeling a bit lopsided" the day I came home from my full right mastectomy.  That was four days ago...