just dx and horrified
Just dx 3 days ago with triple Negative clinically dx stage 2.
I found the lump 9 weeks ago. Took for ever to get appts for mammo and ultrasound then biopsy. They Kept saying oh prob a fibro adenoma .it is very sore and everyone said great sign its not cancer! I really didnt think cancer.
I got the call tuesday. Wow devastating. I am 35 mom of 3 ages 2, 8, 12. The two oldest have medical issues of their own. I have been disabled after getting Lyme dz 7 years ago.
Honestly I am like really?? After all the suffering my family has endured, you are adding this to the mix??
I saw surgical oncologist yesterday. Supposedly one of the top in the us.
She told me all the options, mastectomy, the whole works.
My tumor was 3cm at biopsy 12 days ago. Now its DOUBLED after biopsy.
Her suggestion and what I thought I would do Iis to shrink the size of the tumor with chemo first. She said I will be able to feel it shrink and know its working.
Then do a lumpectomy with nodes after. Just the location I dont see the ability to get clear margins at this size.
Once I heal from lumpectomy then radiation.
Please give me any input.
My bff has her2+ and doing fine gets chemo every three weeks, no hair loss, actually had chemo yesterday and went out tonight!! So happy for her and she is helping me. We will go to same place, share our chemo dr. Weird.
I do plan a second opinion only because my pcp said not to go to this dana farber satellite clinic.
Too much to think about super depressed.
What kind of chemo do we get? Does all of our options cause hair loss?
I want to beat the best but if I could do that and keep my hair that would be good.
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Hi again Born
I too wondered what kind of chemo we get but I believe it is AC & T. Adriamycin, cytotoxan and paclitoxol. Losing hair is pretty much guaranteed with this therapy.
I haven't seen my oncologist yet, I go on Tuesday but have spoke with my friend the chemo nurse so I have a pretty good idea.
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I've just been diagnosed and like you, everyone kept telling me to expect the mass to be benign. When I saw the oncologist on June 4th, he didn't have the final path report and was optimistic. I had brought a copy with me that indicated a rare invasive spindle cell carcinoma that is triple negative. Lumpectomy with sentinel node biopsy is Wednesday. I have been told to expect chemo and radiation but not sure when it will start.
I'm anxious about what the treatment will be like, but I'm down right scared of the poor prognosis. Everything has just happened so fast! I ran across this forum and I'm grateful to have a connection with others who are going through the same emotions and physical upheavals. Trying to stay positive, but inside I am terrified.
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Hi ladies!
So sorry you're all here...
I'm 36. I was dx'd in Feb. My bc skipped radiation because I started with relatively small tumors. She did an mri and a biopsy of an area of my other breast. Turned out I had breast cancer in both. Even before we knew it was both breasts, my bs recommended a double mastectomy. Triple Negative (especially in us youngsters) has a pretty nasty having of recurrence in the first 5 years. My bs wanted to try to avoid that with the bmx.
I was also sent for genetic testing. I had no history of breast cancer in my family. Due to my age and the fact that it was triple negative, my bs ordered the testing. Turns out I am BRCA1 positive so the bmx was a great move. I will also be removing my ovaries in the future.
Once I met my oncologist, there was another surprise... I thought since my nodes were clear, there would be no chemo. My oncologist' s exact words were, "triple negative is a tricky devil and has a habit of popping up where it's not supposed to." So...they do chemo anyway to be sure they killed the bigger off.
The chemo for triple negative is aggressive if you are young and have a healthy enough heart. The reason is, triple negative is aggressive...fight fire with fire! The chemo I start tomorrow is AC/T. I do AC then a shot to boost my white counts every other week for 8 weeks, then Taxol every other week for 8 weeks. I am told my hair will fall out on day 17.
The great news is, the prognosis for triple negative after 5 years is excellent! Remember, our cancer doesn't respond to nasty hormone changes as we age!
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I responded on the other thread, but wanted to add my voice here as well. I was diagnosed with Triple Negative completely out of the blue at age 34 in 2011. I had no known family history of breast or ovarian cancers, but it turns out I am positive for a BRCA1 mutation and my daughter is as well. There is actually a sizable minority of BRCA mutation carriers with no recent family history of BRCA-related cancers. The cancers are usually there further up the family tree where diagnosis didn't exist and/or cause of death was wrongly assumed. I recently discovered that one of my paternal great-grandmothers died of breast cancer; however, that in and of itself would not have raised my risk in the absence of my BRCA mutation. I inherited my mutation from my father (who died of a very aggressive cancer) and he came from a small family with few females. As I stated in the other thread, please ask to be referred to a genetic counselor. Your age combined with the Triple Negative status are red flags. If you have a BRCA mutation, it means a sharp increase in risk of ovarian cancer as well as other cancers. If you do have a BRCA mutation, a mastectomy is strongly recommended as the risk of future breast cancers (primary, not recurrence of this one) is quite high. If I had known when I was diagnosed that I have a BRCA mutation, I would've had a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction during treatment. I am now planning my surgeries (both BMX and bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy for this year). It's good info to have should your children wish to be tested when they are adults. Your test results (if positive) would make their tests much more straight-forward. Also, if you are positive, there is growing research to indicate that the platinum-based chemos such as carboplatin and cisplatin work better for BRCA cancers. Not all MOs follow this, but it is something to keep in mind.
Yes, the chemo regimens given to us Triple Negatives cause hair loss. There are cold caps that allow patients to keep most or all of their hair. There are threads here to help you look into it. Some MOs are not supportive of the idea, but if your hair is something you feel strongly about, you may want to do some research there.
If I can answer any questions for anyone, please let me know.
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I also was 35 when diagnosed. I also had 2 small children ages 2 and 6 at the time. Doctors brushed off my lump as well. It hurt so they told me it wasn't cancer because cancer doesn't hurt. They couldn't give me a definite answer to what the lump was so I pushed for a biopsy. Thank god I did because I was triple negative. I got a double mastectomy and needed chemo due to the aggressiveness of triple negative. I did not need radiation because I had clear margins and no nodes involved. If you have any questions feel free to pm me! I am 1 1/2 years since surgery and 1 year since chemo ended.
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