How vain are you?

Ooooo!  Wish I could get rid of that guilty feeling!  My hubby is a watch whore.

Amy, my DH is a watch whore too!!!!!!! He's gone all the way up to a gold president Rolex and then sold it when he realized he had to wear it all the time or get one of those 'rocking' cradles so it would self-wind! hehehehehe

I do like to pick up the occasional top when we are out and about and he doesn't say, boo! He knows I'm not a big shopper so if I feel like trying something on then I must really like it. He also knows that I wear my clothes to death. 

You MUST learn to not feel the guilt! My DH's obsessions are a LOT more expensive than mine! We have it ingrained in us to think of others first, but I'm able to get over that now my kids are married with kids of their own.

Someone I've met on other threads is currently suspended from the boards for 3 weeks. It's her opinion that the mods make up the rules as they go. Could be. I'm not familiar with your issue, just as well. But if I'm understanding you, it's the old, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink".

Please don't go dark forever!

Whoa - selenawolf, hope you weren't thrashed for trying to help someone.  Ok to go gray, but plz not black - or else we'll all have to start asking Larry for advice again... 

The only reason I do not get too exercised over the famous BCO self-DX is that by her own account she has had BC for 50 years. Anyone who has successfully lived 50 years with untreated BC is probably going to be ok.

SW - remember Warrior Woman can only support and nurture those women who are OPEN to receiving that support.  PLZ do not ever give up Warrior Woman - she's too important as aspect of ALL our natures...

lmg - ba in english, you are joshing us, yes?

Selena,

I agree with you on all counts but one; we are not a community that supports self dx. I would venture to guess that far less than 1% of our members do. You stay right here, my friend.

Momine,

You forgot that she contracted AIDS, at least 2x, and cured herself as well. No testing, of course, but if you believe you have AIDS...

Sorry, I tried to read her posts - Abigail??? I'm having trouble understanding what she's saying because she doesn't speak ENGLISH!!!!!!!! What friggin' island is she from????? She seems very happy with dr.google....

I was on that other thread with the lady drinking the black 'salve' they are talking about. I pretty much said what Selena said and I got booted off of bco.or for 2 weeks. But then there was such an uproar for the mods to actually read my posts and they re-instated me. It's not the mods that delete you, it's if 3 (5?) people "Report this post" and then you are automatically cut off.

People refuse to read the actually wording in a post, they just jump in and post when their knee jerks!! I recently quit a Facebook Group that I was very excited to join as it was called "Flat and Fabulous!" Right up my alley, eh?? It was even recommended to me from a bco gal. Anyway, those ladies just wanted smoke blown up their asses every time they bought a new foob but avoided recon. Huh???? What part of FLAT is that???? I questioned it and funnily enough, they took umbrage at the fact I didn't think they were "fabulous"!!!!!!!!! hehehehehehehe I was just wondering why we were spending so much time talking about foobs and foob cammies and foob weights and all that crap. What happened to being fabulous and FLAT?? So now I'm not with them, the last time I posted I was actually supporting the OP and I got REAMED by  the other sheeple that "assumed" I was against her!!! Finally the biggest mouth actually admitted, "Oh you are right" and then disappeared leaving the destruction in her wake as more sheeple jumped on the band wagon....sigh. I have NO patience for that.

READ what is written! Don't assume you know what is being said unless you read the words! So many posts were misconstrued as some of you ladies tried to explain what you had posted. You have more patience than me! That thread is going no where fast.

wow, that is reallyawful. i read where Selena had been, and that is just horrible!

(i am just a lazy typist and hope you will forgive me for that, i do know the rules but pretty much ignore them)

i really really want to know how she cured herself of aids twice.

i think i want to go find the "black salve" episode. much more fun than dishes and chores.

Bronx, thank you. Was that the chillipaddi that they were referring to there? i did not know her, and still i am sorry that she did not try conventional treatment sooner anyway. I was watching a woman who had been posting on you tube, that had i forget, triple neg, or IBC, and was refusing treatment till it was too late too, and it WAS horrifying to watch as she tried to explain to family and friends the how and why. i have nothing against natural ways, but certainly do believe in the standard of care, because they do know how they do help, and then the more natural way after, if it pleases anyone. Another trainwreck! i was more terrified of chemo, than any other aspect of tx, and up to the last minute was ready to bolt like a colt, but... i have lived thru the misery of watching friends die from this.

and i love my life, small and imperfect as it is.

Kathy, yes you are correct about the person. She was given a very hard time when she decided to use the black salve and subsequently stopped posting. I had been pm'ing her and eventually found her obit after a long silence. She tried to explain, numerous times, that the black salve was a choice of last resort as she was so far gone that the conventional docs had nothing to offer her. She was still hounded about her "choice". Clearly, it was far too late to rehash her earlier rejection of conventional tx and I thought she should have been left alone. Some were convinced that the black salve would indeed save her and couldn't wait to show the world how amazing the stuff was. They urged her to document her progress to demonstrate this miracle cure. Sadly, that was not to be and it was difficult to see her suffer. I don't wish for her to be held up as a cautionary tale, though some may look at it that way, I just want her to rest in peace.

sorry that you were attacked, Barbe. You are correct in that people don't always read through things completely or emotions just take over. She was definitely on emotional overload as her situation became dire. I had an ongoing pm relationship with her for a while. I was really saddened by her passing. Again, I hope we just let her rest in peace.

sunflowers,

I understand what you're saying. I just have such strong attachments to so many women on bco, and sweet memories of those who have passed, that I find it hard see posts from someone who has decided on her own that she has bc. I know I should let it go, but it seems so disrespectful to those who have really have bc. You all are amazing.

Caryn

me too, melissa! so i do only lurk once in a while, where i once went to help. 

Barbe, i am so sorry that you were misunderstood, especially for only asking an innocent question.

and Bronx, i am so very sorry that you did lose a sweet friend that you made here. there are two women i phone, not regularly or anything, but it's really nice, and i do care deeply for them & know them better than some others, but i pretty much enjoy anyone here who is clever or smart or funny here, or who simply tells the truth as they see it, and hoo boy, just try not to let it rile me.(sometimes.) 

its funny, the only time i stay away from all the great wimmin here, is if i am at the beach. and when i am there, sometimes my thoughts wander to here, and wonder what everybodies up to, and miss 'em. You guys are GREAT.