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  • Linda-n3
    Linda-n3 Member Posts: 2,439
    edited May 2014

    I saw a sign today that said "When I die, bury me face down, so everyone can kiss my a$$".

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  • Nel138281
    Nel138281 Member Posts: 2,124
    edited May 2014

    wish there was a big LIKE Button!!

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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited May 2014

    Just catching up with the lovely irreverence. 

    Leah- love it!  What do they do with all that stuff anyway?

    Vadre- your husband's sense of humor is right up my alley

    If you haven't already seen it, watch Five, The Movie, if you get a chance. My favorite part is the Laura Linney segment. She attends her own funeral, tells everyone exactly how she feels about them and spends all of her retirement money etc., only to find out that she is not going to die from cancer. A great line from another segment is "I hate my thighs. Why couldn't I get thigh cancer?"

    As far as inheritances go, I am spending what I can on me! My children are professionals and have good jobs and benefits. They will get certain things, like a pay off from my state pension, and the sale of my townhouse (not insignificant in Silicon Valley), my investments and my granddaughter gets my 403b. I told my parents, long ago, that they should spend their money on themselves while they could. They had already given us life, a good education and ethics so we were all fine as far as those things go. I realize that my children are grown and on their own but of course I'd be more concerned about providing for them if they were younger. BTW, they agree that I should spend my money on whatever I want and are not looking for an inheritance.

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  • carpe_diem
    carpe_diem Member Posts: 1,256
    edited May 2014

    exbrnx,

    Your funeral story reminds me of the Arlington, TX, piano teacher who was expected to die from cancer and planned her own funeral. She recovered but, in a bizarre turn of events, was murdered by a pair of teenagers she took into her home to help. I had heard about the terrible event, but was surprised to get a call at the local Youth Orchestra, where I worked, to say that she had left us a grand piano in her will, but requested that the Youth Orchestra provide a string quartet to play at her funeral. This was on a school day, and in Texas it's hard to get high school students released, so we went with a middle school group of talented 12 and 13-year-olds.  Most of the repertoire was left up to us, but she particularly asked for "Send in the Clowns." Fortunately, the violist also played piano, so he quickly worked up the piece and they played to a large appreciative audience. Then we trucked the piano off to Orchestra Hall. 

    I'd been thinking about the second movement of the Bach A Minor violin concerto, and maybe Brahms' "How Lovely is Thy Dwelling Place" for my funeral, but I really ought to add, "Send in the Clowns" to the list. 

    Not that I'm planning to check out anytime soon. But who knows? I could be hit by the proverbial bus!

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  • Nel138281
    Nel138281 Member Posts: 2,124
    edited May 2014

    My funeral song - not sure of the name -but popular now some of the words are "you'll miss me when I'm gone."   My best friend said she would have it piped out of the casket as we leave the church!  

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited May 2014

    Oh so many new people that think alike wow.

    Well I don't want a wake or anything I just want everybody to go out to lunch with a Picture sitting there of me on my best day ever--like 20  yrs. old, and want everyone to wear those big black glasses with the big nose and mustache-That will fit my personality--quirky

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  • Tina2
    Tina2 Member Posts: 2,943
    edited May 2014

    I startled the attendees at my mom's memorial service years ago by playing a recording of "Accentuate the Positive" by Buddy Rich for the recessional. They may have been taken aback, but Mom would have loved it. 

    Don't know how I can top that, but I hope I have lots and lots of time to think about it. I like the idea of a flash mob doing a really intricate dance routine to some really hot music...

    Tina

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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited May 2014

    I have a play list for my funeral, which I keep editing. It contains little to nothing that is traditional, mournful or somber. Nice mix of reggae, Broadway, some rock classics and a few songs from the new Satyricon CD (Norwegian black metal). Of course, that's just until the next edit.

    Just added this: Phoenix by Satyricon with Sivert Høyem

    http://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=kp&v=i5GhFL0OWq8

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  • Vadre
    Vadre Member Posts: 225
    edited May 2014

    yikes!  I have to get caught up. You ladies are far ahead of my in funeral planning. When I have a big, special event coming up, my first worry is usually "What will I wear."  I guess I don't have to fret about that. Though it would be fun to watch a snooty sales ladies face when I told her I was looking for something to wear to a funeral....MY funeral!  (Can you tell I have a problem with snooty people? Another thing I should work on!)

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited May 2014

    Vadre Happy

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  • Linda-n3
    Linda-n3 Member Posts: 2,439
    edited May 2014

    Yeh, I'm kind of wondering what to wear. I plan to be cremated, so should I just ask for my least favorite clothes, old ones that are falling apart, or will they just toss my sorry a$$ into the fire buck naked???? I still want a bit funeral pyre and bonfire out in the backyard, but that just isn't happening according to DH and a couple others. Something about public health laws or some such nonsense .... bunch of party poopers in my book.

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  • Mompsych
    Mompsych Member Posts: 516
    edited May 2014

    Linda - maybe you should go out like a Viking instead. Put you in a boat, light it up, push you out to sea...

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  • Nel138281
    Nel138281 Member Posts: 2,124
    edited May 2014

    Love the Viking idea!   

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  • Vadre
    Vadre Member Posts: 225
    edited May 2014

    Some where in this tongue in cheek conversation about planning our own funeral I actually started thinking about mine. I don't want to miss it!  How strange is that? All of my favorite people will be there, having a blast and telling great stories. Why would I want to miss that??  It might be just too confusing to attend my own funeral, plus people have the right to gather to mourn without me?  What about a big Farewell Party. To say goodbye to everyone. Quiet personal moments in the midst of confusion. This is beginning to apPeal to me

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  • Kjones13
    Kjones13 Member Posts: 1,520
    edited May 2014

    I know I have, in my head, how I want my funeral to go...I want it to be a celebration, but I'm just a little torn about the whole grieving thing...don't want to be disrespectful to those who need that space. Good question about the clothes to wear for cremation! Had 't even thought about that! Don't want to ruin a perfectly good dress someone else might enjoy!

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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited May 2014

    Vikings, yes! Not sure they did the ship thing for women, but google it and read about what they did with a selected thrall (servant). Speculation of course, since they weren't so great with written records. If you want to get hooked a TV series, check out H2' s "Vikings". Season 2 just ended. It is fabulous, if you can stand the blood.

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  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 106
    edited May 2014

    Amazing spirit here.... I chose my funeral song etc etc, def no religion at all, happy (ish) song.  Then get my parents (both in their 70s) to commit the ultimate crime, scatter my ashes on Thorpe Cloud in Derbyshire......... (England)  spent a lot of my childhood there

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited May 2014

    Tasha yes this is crazy but That is a great idea u have, like where u were really happy.

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  • Vadre
    Vadre Member Posts: 225
    edited May 2014

    Tasha, I've always been curious about the places people choose to be buried or scattered. Do you mind sharing why Thorpe Cloud?

    I think I'd like to be scattered on the James River behind our home because this is where I have been the happiest in my entire life. It is the place that my husband and I chose as "ours."

    Virginia

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  • carpe_diem
    carpe_diem Member Posts: 1,256
    edited May 2014

    Tina,

    I love the flash mob idea! I was actually part of one to the tune "Do You Love Me?" for the Aurora Library Benefit and as long as I give my friends some warning, I'm sure they can get it together again. It took a lot of rehearsal to make the "flash" mob to work the first time, but a good time was had by all.

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  • pajim
    pajim Member Posts: 2,785
    edited May 2014

    Vadre, one of the ladies on this board who has been in hospice did sort of have the funeral before she became too ill.  They had a big lunch, all her friends came and said goodbye.  She wrote that she really enjoyed it.

    The idea has definite merit.

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  • Vadre
    Vadre Member Posts: 225
    edited May 2014

    thanks, Pajim.  I'll look back and see if I find the conversation. Ever since it came into my head I've been pondering. I agree, I think there is great merit. 

    Hope everyone is having a beautiful, SE-free day!

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  • surfdreams
    surfdreams Member Posts: 1,132
    edited May 2014

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited May 2014

    SurfdreamsThumbsUp

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  • Linda-n3
    Linda-n3 Member Posts: 2,439
    edited May 2014


    ThumbsUp I totally agree, Surfdreams!!!!! Made me laugh!

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  • Linda-n3
    Linda-n3 Member Posts: 2,439
    edited May 2014

    "Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards."

    "A winner never quits and a quitter never wins."

    - Vernon Sanders Law (he was a baseball pitcher for the Pittsburgh Pirates, born in 1930)

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  • Wilsie2
    Wilsie2 Member Posts: 441
    edited May 2014

    this may sound odd, but I went to the funeral of a fellow Realtor, whom I had known a long time. I looked around, and discovered that I knew 95 percent of the people there. It was a nice service, well attended, and it struck me as I was walking back to the car-I will pretend that this was my funeral.  I said it out loud to an  old friend, she was shocked.  Is this odd?

    Wilsie

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  • Linda-n3
    Linda-n3 Member Posts: 2,439
    edited May 2014

    Wilsie, I kind of like your idea! Most funerals I have attended were not ones where I knew that many people, but there might be one coming up where I DO know many of them, so will keep this in mind and let you know how it goes!

    My apologies for posting those quotes earlier today - they belong on another thread, not this one. Sorry.

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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited May 2014

    surfdreams,

    Love it!

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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited May 2014

    Wilsie nothing is odd here.

    Linda don't apologize, I liked those--reminds me of O'Brien's Law Murphy was an optimist.

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