Mom diagnosed yesterday

LilyGrace
LilyGrace Member Posts: 5
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer
The doctor called my mom yesterday to tell her her biopsy was positive for breast cancer. She is scheduled to get an MRI and have surgery later in Mid-September.

We do not have all the facts yet, but is so overwhelming. I cannot stop crying. I do not want to bring her even more down. She is very positive and says she is going to beat this. How can I get a little of that positivity? The thought of losing my mother scares me to death.

Maybe I just need a hug.
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  • brantan228
    brantan228 Member Posts: 39
    edited August 2006
    Sending hugs your way
    plus prayers God Bless And please keep us informed
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  • pumpkin05
    pumpkin05 Member Posts: 28
    edited August 2006
    I know how you feel....my mom was diagnosed a month ago today. (Whoa. Seems like just yesterday...) We still have not scheduled a surgery or chemo start date, her docs keep telling her different things (she has a surgeon and an oncologist), they order more tests and more repeat tests and...augh. It's getting exhausting.

    I don't really have any words of advice for you, as this is all so new to me as well. But I just wanted to tell you that there are many people here that understand what you're going through.

    Hang in there, and just be there for your mom. I understand how scared you are, for the first two weeks at least, I cried every day. I'm still scared; I know that's totally natural, though.

    If you ever need a "listening ear," this is such a supportive and informational place to be. And you can always throw an e-mail or PM my way.

    Keep us posted!
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  • texayn2005
    texayn2005 Member Posts: 24
    edited August 2006

    How old are you? and how old is your Mom? I was dx at 59 with Stage IV mets to the bone after 30 years of mammorgrams that revealed nothing. If your mom has found a lump that can be removed and then the cancer treated, there are so many options available treatment wise that there is good reason to have hope and lots of it. I started out where no one else wants to go and I still have hope that the treatment regimen I am on is going to work for many years to come. Keep us posted.

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  • jgrjunque
    jgrjunque Member Posts: 47
    edited August 2006
    Dear heart, it is always terrifying to be told a loved one has cancer... but breast cancer can be beat! There are many women on this board diagnosed and treated years ago who are still here and doing well. My own dearly loved aunt was diagnosed with a very advanced breast cancer eight years ago, and today you'd never know it. She was my inspiration through my own BC experience.

    So cry when you need to, come here for comfort when you can, but know that this can be defeated.
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  • Tawyna-2005Mar17
    Tawyna-2005Mar17 Member Posts: 88
    edited August 2006

    hi, i was with my mom when she was diagnosed. i was in shock. i cried all the time. she was positive. i told myself she will beat this . i focused on getting her through it so far so good . she is cancer free for 2 yrs now. god bless you and your mom. i hope she does great through this .

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  • LilyGrace
    LilyGrace Member Posts: 5
    edited August 2006
    Thank you every one for the support. I am going to be 31 on Thursday and my mom is 59. This has happened so fast 10 days ago my mom felt a lump in her breat. She had a mammogram and ultrasound 2 days later. Just last Wed. she had a biopsy and Friday it came back cancer. It is all happening so fast that I don't know what to think.

    About 3 weeks ago she thought there was something "weird" in her chest, but she did not have a lump then. She also had some routine bloodwork at the end of May/beginning of June that everything was all normal on. I don't know what to think.
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  • texayn2005
    texayn2005 Member Posts: 24
    edited August 2006

    LilyGrace, I am curious about something you said in your last post about your Mom thinking something was weird in her chest. About a year before my diagnosis I had awful pain in my chest, my sternum, rib cage, under my breast, across my back between my shoulders. Went to doc and she said it was a condition called "costochondritis". Only thing to treat symptons was Aleve to help with inflammation. She said that "costo" was an inflammation of the rib cage cartlidge and that nothing could be done for it. I have never hurt so bad in all my life and I have a high tolerance for pain. Just wondering if this was anything close to what your mom experienced. I have talked with others that have had this happen prior to their dx too.

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  • Jayne7452
    Jayne7452 Member Posts: 1
    edited August 2006
    LilyGrace,I don`t know how old you are,my daughter was 18 when i wsa dx,she`s 21 now.She burst into tears when they said i had bc,then she ignored me for many months....it`s called ..dissassociation syndrome.She was subconsciensly preparing herself for the worst.I kept positive n upbeat all the time(it was hard),however,3 trs later we are ok and i am waiting for a recon.I was alwats aware that my daughter was suffering far more than me.LilyGrace9BEAUTIFUL NAME)I think it is far better if you and your mum cry together,and openly show your emotions.The worst for me was when my daughter ignored me,we are better now. ut she will never speak about it.I hope this makes some kind of sense to you,let your mum know you are there for her.
    lOVE N CUDDLES Jayne xxx.
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  • LilyGrace
    LilyGrace Member Posts: 5
    edited August 2006
    She did not have any pain like that, she just felt something was not right in her chest. She had scheduled an appointment with the cardiologist, but before the appointment she found the lump, had the mammogram/ultrasound.

    I have asked her if she has had any pain like that and she denies it. She gets the MRI on Wed.

    I hate this waiting game
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  • yourinspired
    yourinspired Member Posts: 8
    edited August 2006
    Hi Lily:

    My mom is 67. Was dx'd in July. Had a right mastectomy on 7/25. She starts her chemo on Wed. There are so many different paths that your journey can take you down and yes it is important to stay positive, but honey it's ok to cry too! Believe me Mom and I cry, laugh, yell and rant at the world in general at the drop of a hat.

    The waiting is AWFUL. But know this, the more you know the better you can treat it. Since the beginning of July my Mom has had a mammogram, sonogram, biopsy, mri, mri guided biopsy, mastectomy, ct scan, bone scan, pet scan, and finally a port placed. In between all of those is the waiting game. Try to keep busy. Find out exactly how she will get the results from each test. Will the doc call her, does she need to go into the office? If he calls, what time will he call. For instance, Mom's surgeon called between 8-10pm so we knew we could go do things during the day instead of waiting for the phone to ring. Get your Mom a notebook to start writing all this down, get copies of the test results.

    Then sit back and remember that today this is a very manageable disease. The women on this board are proof that you can live very productive, worthwhile, wonderful lives with BC. It is not the end of the story, just another chapter.

    Blessings!
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  • LilyGrace
    LilyGrace Member Posts: 5
    edited August 2006

    Thanks Rebecca. She has a doctor's appointment next Wed. to go over her MRI results. And surgery is scheduled for Sept 12.

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