angry and scared thread closed

I think it is past time that you let this go, thus the locking, and that last statement comes across as extremely passive aggressive.

Make sure you include your attacks on stage iv forums in your speech.

I actually don't appreciate when you post this stuff that you say is not intended to stir drama - but rather to 'stick up 'for other members.   I don't need you to stick for me or be my voice and you don't represent my voice.   Every post I read from you has some challenge to either stage iv members or the mods or to the rules etc. Its tiresome..and frankly it comes across as very self centered and attention seeking

It appears as if you don't like this community.  Maybe this community isn't for everyone.  Just because it doesn't fit you , doesn't mean its bad.   If it no longer meets your needs , then please stop stirring the pot and be in a community where you feel 'safe' 

Stop, Celine.  Just.stop.  The mods locked the thread because you were upsetting people and attacking Stage IV women.  You said your piece.  People heard you.  Now stop stamping your feet and screaming.  If there is impetus for change, there will be change - but you can't force change by continuing to harangue people who aren't interested in what you have to say.  

I find it disturbing that you storm onto BCO and start telling people what is wrong about the forums and demanding that they be restructured YOUR way.  Would you go to an AA meeting and demand they run it differently because you think it should be changed?  Would you go to a brain cancer group and tell them how to run their meetings because you don't like how they do it and you think you know better?  Would you demand to be allowed to join a prostate cancer group because you don't want to be discriminated against because you are a woman - even though you will never have prostate cancer? 

Just because things aren't run the way you think they should be run doesn't mean that they are run wrongly.  You are not in charge here.   You are creating unnecessary drama and stress for people who are already stressed quite enough.  You are not helping.  And I repeat - you.are.not.in.charge.here.  

Make your suggestions and leave it alone.  People will contact the mods and give their opinions.  You are far more likely to effect change that way rather than continuing to create threads and complain about being treated badly when you are having tantrums and upsetting people.

Thank you, retiredLibby.

In the words of Elsa from Frozen, "Let it go!" You have made yourself clear,Celine.

The question was asked about someone facing death from AIDS or something else posting on a stage 4 thread.That is not appropriate. There are many women here who are facing other diseases along with their breast cancer. There is even a comorbidity topic. I face daily struggles with another condition and it will probably kill me. Does the fact that I know what it is to look death in the face means I know what Stage 4 is like? No. I am not on chemo for life. I had the luxury of stopping AIs when the pain became too severe. My stage 4 friends do not. Do I cuss? Rarely, but I would be doing it more often if I knew that cancer was killing me, every day and all treatment was doing was buying me time. Would I lecture stage 4 women on how they are to face life or post quotes that tell them how to behave. No. I only hope that when my time comes I can face the inevitable with as much grace as my stage 4 friends do. Even those who cuss like sailors or think AR could do better things with her  time.

wonderful suggestion, kayb. I'm not being glib either.

Members, We think it is best to close this thread once and for all. It feels as though it is time to re-direct energies to the fabulous support, information and compassion that you all offer one another on these boards. Thanks for your understanding. The Mods