What to look for in a MO - any veterans who can help?

HI Ddkath - I originally went with the MO my BS sent me to, but switched later when I discovered a satellite clinic in my hometown. I chose a younger MO (mid-forties) because I knew I'd have the relationship for a number of years. I know I'm in the right place because of the quiet, gentle, but firm advice she gives me. Also the atmosphere at the clinic is awesome. Everyone there is really caring, and I actually look forward to my appointments because I feel safe knowing they are taking such good care of me. It was important to me that I stay in the same hospital group, and also that my PCP (who is not in the group) can share records with my MO. Best of luck. I can tell by your post that you have a great attitude and that will really help!

Hi DDkath,

When my mum was diagnosed, she read online somewhere that women who are involved in picking their own medical team had better outcomes - but we had no experience in this area and freaked out a bit. 

Her doctor had referred her to a surgeon, but at this point we didn't know if we should go with him or hunt around.

What I did (and this was before we found these websites) was contact the 2 people I knew through work who I thought were most likely to know people who might know, and they put out some feelers for me. We were so grateful to hear back through this grapevine from a number of women including doctors and patients (or both). Different surgeons names came up, but one MOs name kept coming up as being 'the best' - both by patients and by a doctor who said this onc was 'who her dr friends go to'. i figured that means she's got the expertise + the bedside manor. (and bonus, turns out she's married to the original surgeon mum was referred to). 

Other factors in their favour - involved in research, which I figure further increases the chances they'll be at the forefront of new developments, work at a specialist clinic so loads of experience in the area, and both are great communicators.

I had no idea I had such great 'networks' - it's amazing how many people have a friend/mother/sister/aunt who has had bc, and they were so generous with their advice.

I adore  mums doctors and hope you find a fantastic mo. Best wishes.

My hospital had a social worker who organized those initial appointments.  Other areas have nurse navigators.  Do you have someone like that?  If in doubt, you can call your surgeon; he or his secretary can fill you in on what happens when.  As I see you had a couple of positive nodes, it's for sure that you want to get started bombarding your MO with questions, so yes, you are absolutely right to get proactive in lining up that referral.