Anyone read The Silver Lining (new) breast cancer support book?
Has anyone read the book below? I saw the author on a brief segment on Dr. Phil. The book was described as something they wish they'd been able to read during their BC experience, but books "like that" weren't available; just straight medical-style books. I downloaded an Amazon sample (and even viewed the Table of a Contents), but can't tell if it would help me post 2010 diagnosis.
I do still have anxiety issues, etc. relating to my diagnosis and hope a book would address that, as well as some of the concerns we all post here. It's not cheap, though (even $15.29 Kindle version), as it just came out. I have a hold on it at my library, where it's on order. Does anyone recommend this book?
The Silver Lining: A Supportive and Insightful Guide to Breast Cancer (published March 18, 2014) by Hollye Jacobs
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ByFaith, I'm so sorry you are having so many issues with your diagnosis. I think you'd be far bettter off joining a support group than spending money on a book hocked on the Dr. Phil show. I can almost guarantee that there is some self-serving reason for the book to be hocked on his show. It will either be to generate revenue for "my son's publishing company, my son's app, my wife's foundation, my wife's app, my wife's friend, my book, my experts, my app, my collaberation with my co-authors with my collaberation with my son's publishing company, etc". The man has no incentive to help anyone unless it generates his family money or fame.
If it appears on this show, I'd be pretty hesitant to take it seriously. One woman's account of how her cancer diagnosis is her "silver lining" is not likely to help you work through something as difficult as post-diagnosis anxiety. I could be wrong and it's only my opinion, but please read it with a grain of salt.
Good luck to you.
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Leggo --Thanks for your reply. I know how self-serving Dr. Phil can be. It didn't seem obvious in this case, but there usually is a reason. I do think the book is good, but whether it's better than any reference I have is another point. Out of curiosity, I'll probably wait until my library copy is available for free rental.
Somewhat off-topic question about support groups... I seem to do just fine regarding my diagnosis until the time of each followup. I'm lucky in that my hospital has therapists who specialize in oncology available to see us at no extra cost. The therapist I saw during my initial treatment was an angel. Perhaps a followup visit is in order. I'll be honest in saying I'm afraid of what I might hear at a support group. I don't mean that to sound selfish, as I find great mutual support on this site.
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It doesn't sound selfish at all. To me anyway, there was nothing scarier than a cancer diagnosis....literally, nothing. I'd love to tell you personally that the anxiety goes away with time, but for me, it never did. Sounds nuts, because worrying doesn't change anything, but I still do. I was diagnosed in 1996 and cancer has never left my mind. On the plus side, I'm not afraid of ANYTHING else anymore.
ETA: support groups can be an iffy thing too. When I went to one after my diagnosis I ended up feeling worse. I was 30, had just given birth and every other woman there was over 60. I wanted to run out screaming. The therapist at your clinic helped you once....I wouldn't hesitate to take advantage of her services again. That's what they're there for.
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I'm reading The Silver Lining right now. I find it helpful to me, in the caregiver role, but I don't want my partner to read it prior to any treatments she might be facing. The author readily admits that she had the worst of the worst as far as side effects and I think that would cause more anxiety to someone about to face treatment.
I appreciate the information provided in the book and I'm sure I'll find it useful in the days and months to come. It's well-written and easy to read. BCO is referenced numerous times as well and that's how I found my way here.
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Amen Leggo! I can't stand to watch his show. He has some crazies on his show who do or have done reprehensible despicable things and he is all about analyzing them to death. Maybe they are just what their actions show- despicable people. He offers help - k good for him but you can bet it benefits him in some way. He is getting more Jerry Springerlike every day. Right on with all the wife, son and the like. Enough already. Probably gets a commission on the book's sales.
Diane
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