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  • Holeinone
    Holeinone Member Posts: 2,478
    edited March 2014

    Alexmatay, 

    It all is a nightmare. I read when I was first dx, that it was like watching a movie about cancer, and you are the "star". Does not seem real, also you are young, which makes it scarier, I think. 

    Sadly 6 months from now you will know more about breast cancer than you thought possible. You might not need chemo, or rads. Keep posting it helps, we have all been there and still getting through treatment.

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  • Coolhart
    Coolhart Member Posts: 21
    edited March 2014

    hi Alexmatay...you and I are soul sisters..I had a routine mamogram the same day and got my diagnosis the same day..only difference being I have ILC..I will have a double mastectomy the day after you..I'm also 41 ..so we are in this together..everything you are feeling I am too..I have days where it's all I think about and others where I am like..I got this..pm me if you want..I don't even know how to do that yet ..lol..still learning a lot but this site is so helpful ..not only with info but to just to know we aren't losing our minds..hang in there..I need to go join the surgery April 2014..I just have to find it first :)

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  • eric95us
    eric95us Member Posts: 2,845
    edited March 2014

    Hi jimw. 

    I, too, am an engineer and so is my wife...electrical for me and nuclear for her.

    Feb 12, 2012 she was diagnosed with stage 3, grade 3 IDC with 8/12 positive nodes and a Ki-67 of 97%.

    Her treatments were BMX, dose dense chemo (ACT) and enough radiation to make her eyes go wide with amazement,  followed by some minimal reconstruction and Arimadex. 

    She had taken a very early retirement about a decade earlier and is now teaching high school physics...and having a great time doing it. 

    Eric

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  • MsPharoah
    MsPharoah Member Posts: 1,034
    edited March 2014

    Hi Jim,

        I had a mitotic index of 1 and K167 of 17%.  My understanding from my Breast Surgeon is that these two tests are different and can be performed on different parts of the tumor resulting in a result that can be confusing.  The mitotic index is determined by looking at the tumor through a microscope and is probably more subjective than the K167 test.

       Your wife is lucky to have you on her team.  It is great to have trust in your doctors, but breast cancer is a life-altering illness. I totally understand your need to have the details, especially if your wife doesn't want them.   They do make a difference.

    Best, MsP 

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  • Stenokim
    Stenokim Member Posts: 172
    edited March 2014

    Alex, I totally get your feelings. I was officially diagnosed on 12/12/13 and had mastectomy 12/18/13.  When getting the biopsy and them bringing in a breast cancer navigator, I felt like I was watching the whole thing from afar, even telling the nav that I can see her lips moving but only heard "cancer".  In that two weeks or so wait, I was planning my funeral, down to the music.   Lol. Hang in there, it's not a death sentence.  You'll be fine.  I started eating better and working out like a machine about a month after surgery and now feel I could soon be in a body building competition.  I feel great.  Not going to say I'm pain free, but I definitely think getting moving ASAP is helpful. I will say I have a better appreciation for everything, maybe took things for granted before, and don't sweat the small stuff now, so good things CAN come from the BC diagnosis.  I look at it as I had it, they removed it and I'm moving on and loving life to its fullest.  I hope and pray the best for you...you'll be okay.  Life is far from over for you!  Kim

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  • Alexmatay
    Alexmatay Member Posts: 43
    edited March 2014

    thank you to everyone that replied to my post. I feel joining here & venting will be a big help & it will make my husband happy to know that I've found an outlet & not by laying in bed feeling sorry for myself.

    Kim, I too thought about funeral arrangements.....I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one that's done that. 

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  • Alexmatay
    Alexmatay Member Posts: 43
    edited March 2014

    coolhart

    Pm me your email address. I can't send anymore private messages today. 

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