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susaneb
susaneb Member Posts: 4
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

Hi, my name is Susan. I am new around here. My mom has been battling metastatic BC since 2000 when I was 14. She was very independent for a long time. She has a huge support group including friends, family, and her church group. She enjoyed going out to lunch and getting out of the house. She took care of her medication and ate when she was hungry, basically she took care of herself. Lately she has become weaker and had a week stay in the hospital which is lengthy for her. Originally it was thought that she had an infection, but eventually the doctors figured out that she had been overmedicating herself but she didn't know it. I believe there is a chance that she is in the beginning stages of alzheimers but no one will take me seriously when I suggest it. Earlier today she wanted to take a bath but she fell getting in and getting out. I don't know how to take care of her any better but I don't want to leave her in some home for other people to take care of. I love her and I hate seeing her in so much pain. I know that neither of us can care for her the way she needs to be, but how do I express this to her and to my family?

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  • yourinspired
    yourinspired Member Posts: 8
    edited August 2006
    Hi Susan:

    You did not say how old your Mom is but I am gathering that you are only 20? Wow, so young and so brave. Is your father part of the picture? Any siblings? I would suggest a heart to heart with your family. Alot of times folks go into denial when tough times come around. What is happening with your Mom could be anything from the medications, her health condition to Alzeimers. There are so many things that could be going on, it is important to get her the medical attention she needs without taking away some of her control and independence. You also mentioned her church - you could talk with her pastor and he could help you find some community resources that could help you.

    Just some thoughts. Blessings your way...
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  • susaneb
    susaneb Member Posts: 4
    edited August 2006

    Thanks Rebecca. Yes I am 20. My mom is 58. My dad died when I was 8 so it has always just been my mom, my sister, and I. I have two other siblings but they are my father's chilren from a previous marriage. My sister has spent the last two years disappearing and reappearing in our lives, which I might add makes me just a bit frustrated and hurt, but I can't change her. My aunt lives close by and has just dealt with losing her husband to a seven year battle with multiple myeloma. She helps when she can but she has 2 children that need her attention right now. I think I am going to talk to her pastor right away tomorrow, that's a good idea. Thanks!

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  • cowgirl
    cowgirl Member Posts: 777
    edited August 2006

    I would try to get her some home health care or something. If she falls or overdoses usually a doctor recommends some help to keep it all straight. Honestly you do get confused on if you have taken meds or not, it is not unusual but I am concerned about her falling.

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  • normie45
    normie45 Member Posts: 11
    edited August 2006

    susaneb - you have a lot on your shoulders and are obviously a very caring person. Your mum's best interests are obviously important to you, and I admire your dedication. I agree that I would seek the help of the Church and good luck, I have approached the Church in times of need and have found the support very helpful. I hope the same works for you. Good wishes to you and your mum, I hope you find a good solution.

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