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frankie23
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Ok here's the thing. This is my mothers second Reoccurrence with breast cancer. I don't know how bad it will become because she is determined to keep me in the dark.
Recently she started chemo and lost her hair again this causing her to be extremely depressed. She said that she's terribly afraid about her financial status.
I can't stand to watch my mother feel this way.I was wondering if I can possibly create a fundrasier and donate the money to my mom. If anyone has done this before or maybe you have some ideas please share them with me. I'm out on a limb all alone and I want to help so BADLY!!!
I appreciate your time in reading this.
Recently she started chemo and lost her hair again this causing her to be extremely depressed. She said that she's terribly afraid about her financial status.
I can't stand to watch my mother feel this way.I was wondering if I can possibly create a fundrasier and donate the money to my mom. If anyone has done this before or maybe you have some ideas please share them with me. I'm out on a limb all alone and I want to help so BADLY!!!
I appreciate your time in reading this.
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You can do a fundraiser but I would suggest having your mom work with the social workers at the hospital or talking to the local American Cancer Society. They have programs to help patients who qualify.
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Remember as well that a fundraiser is public, and your Mom may not want to be out front so much with this.
I know, I really do know, what it's like to want so badly to help and not to have anything I could easily do. But I sure learned, on this side of the needing-help equation, that just being there for your Mother and letting her know you are there for her no matter what is really a lot more than you might think.
Best of luck to you both. -
I agree with jgr...a fundraiser might be a little too public for your mom's taste.
I can understand what you're going through, though...my mom has recently been diagnosed, and she seems very sad and lost, and she seems like she really doesn't even want to talk to me these days. It's weird, because we've always been close. It hurts that she doesn't seem to want to share much with me. I have to tell myself that right now she's overwhelmed and stressed, and soon she'll come around. It still hurts, though.
I've heard that the Komen Foundation does some financial assistance of some sort. I'm researching this sort of thing for my own mom; she has no insurance and is very stressed over her finances.
Just wanted you to know you're not alone. Just be patient...your mom is dealing with a lot right now. Give her time, and just let her know that if she ever needs you, you're always there for her no matter what. -
Mymothermyhero,
Just been wondering....how are you and your mom doing?? Hope things are going okay. -
Mymothermyhero and pumpkin05
I can totally identify with both of you. My mum is having to pay for private treatment I know she can't afford. Her first call to tell me about the cancer was to say that she wouldn't be calling me as much in the future. I know she doesn't want to call me when she is down, oh I wish she would but that's mum's for you! Even at their lowest, they still have that maternal instinct to protect. It does feel like being shut out but you have to consider the strength it has taken them to reach their decision, and that has to be respected. If it helps at all, try putting yourself in their situation. I know I would try to portray a positive attitude to my children to protect them.
I'm sorry MMMH, I don't know much about fundraiser, or what charities support what you need, but will try to find out for you.
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