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jimw
jimw Member Posts: 13
edited June 2014 in Just Diagnosed

Hi,
My name is Jim and I'm here because my wife was Dx'd a couple weeks ago.

I'm happy to have the support of the community and to be able to offer what I can along the way on this journey.

Before I start with any Hx or questions I was first wondering if this is the appropriate place to start a thread with questions.

I ask because one of the prime purposes I came here is for help in finding the best support for her, which is not something specific to BC types.

Would it be appropriate to simply give an introduction here and then move over to the more specific BC topics to post there - or is there a place to post generalized support questions as well?  She has IDC, DCIS, MMBC.

Thanks.

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited February 2014

    Hi Jim -- We're so sorry to hear about your wife, but really happy you found this community! This forum is as good a place as any to start!

    If you need support for yourself as well, there is also a forum For Caregivers, Family, Friends and Supporters that is sure to be a great resource for you.

    We hope this helps!

    --The Mods

  • jimw
    jimw Member Posts: 13
    edited February 2014

    Thanks!

    So here is where we are.

    1/4/14 "something didn't seem right" so my wife did a self exam and felt a lump. It took a bit of time to see the NP at her OB/GYN but then things moved pretty quickly with mammo's and such.
    ----
    1/17/14 Initial Dx
    Left Breast
    Tumor 1 

    2.6 cm tumor, IDC with extracellular mucin production involving ~80%, DCIS, solid type, intermediate nuclear grade, Nottingham score of 6, (tubule=3, nuclear pleomorphism=2, mitotic rate = 1)

    Tumor 2
    5 mm nodule, IDC, DCIS, same Nottingham score as above

    Both Tumors
    Er(+), Pr(+), HER2[FISH](-), BRCA1 & BRCA2 (-), Ki-67 27%
    ----
    1/29/14 MRI
    Tumor 1 is actually 3.2 cm with excrescent nodulations, tumor 2 is actually 6.8 mm spiculated nodule, patchy-clumped enhancement between tumors suspected DCIS. A 4 m left internal mammary LN. Left axillary adenopathy.
    ----

    3/13/2014 Surgery (planned)

    double (skin saving) mastectomy
    ----

    So from my lay reading of the reports.... so far it seems like the cancer is mixed mucinous, IDC and DCIS. Tumor grade is currently 2 and the cancer stage (estimated) is 2, with actual staging after surgery.

    Questions for now:
    My main technical questions right now are about the cancer growth and the prognostic methods, the factors influencing them, and their accuracy given medical advances since inception.

    Cancer Growth
    1.) The histologic grade of the mitotic rate is only 1, but the Ki-67 is showing 27%. That seems incongruous; is this unusual?

    2.)When the tumor is being graded are multiple mitotic tests on multiple specimens from the biopsies performed? If only 1, which cancer type is tested? Why? What influence does that have on the results?

    3.) Is the Ki-67 or the Mitotic rate a "better" predictor of actual growth speed?

    4.) Is all of this irrelevant until the surgery is done and the actual tumor(s) are tested?

    Prognostics
    1.) Is NPI still valid or has it been updated? I saw this paper showing that survival rates of patients between 1990-1999 were far superior to those in the same NPI groups from 1980-1986, which makes sense.  Has something been done similarly showing the most recent NPI survivability statistics, say between 2000 and 2010?

    2.) Is the PREDICT method accepted in the USA?  Is it more/less reliable?

    General
    So here is the big rub. My wife seems happy to place her trust in the doctors and ask few questions.  I understand - she is afraid of the answers and doesn't adhere to the "knowledge is power" adage. We are not of the same mind.  Of course, neither of us is right, and I can't ask her to leave the room so I can ask questions of the doctor(s) and I have not yet tried to see if I can get answers from the doctor or patient assistant to emailed questions.

    So far I have tried to do my own research, keep the questionable or
    negative knowledge to myself, and share the "good" knowledge that points
    to better survivability etc. with her.


    1.) So how does one get the information they want when they are not the patient?
    2.) Were any of you in a similar situation with your treatment? Your needs come first - how did you and your SO handle it?


    Thanks - I hope this wasn't too long or too many different subjects within a thread.

    Jim

  • juneping
    juneping Member Posts: 1,594
    edited February 2014

    jim,

    i am sorry about your wife....

    the grade and Ki67 are two different things

    grade being the appearance of the cancer cells, grade 1 means looks similar to normal cells, meaning less aggressive

    ki67 is the speed, how fast the cells split/grow. 27% is pretty high. i was reading somewhere here that 13% being intermediate and 20% borderline of high.

    the survival rate or the recurrent rate things. well i asked two MO and had two different answers. sometimes i don't really pay attention to those rates, bc of my age (younger women were not getting BC that often before).

  • jimw
    jimw Member Posts: 13
    edited February 2014

    Thanks juneping. 

    I understand grade vs. Ki-67, but the mitotic rate part of the grading and Ki-67 are both measures of growth speed. It is the low mitotic rate (slow growing) with the very high Ki-67(fast growing) that seems odd.

  • BayouBabe
    BayouBabe Member Posts: 2,221
    edited February 2014

    Jim - welcome, but so sorry you find need to be here.  My husband came to almost all of my appointments the first months.  We have always faced our married life as a team, and my BC was no different.  I asked what questions I felt need to ask, and my husband asked what questions he needed answered.  My medical teams were always willing to answer any questions we had.  We usually made a list ahead of time.  Talk with your wife - tell her you have need for info, maybe she will be fine with your being there and asking your questions?  Also, see if you have a nurse navigator available to you and your wife.  The navigator will almost always answer questions that a family member may have, that are not specifically confidential.  

  • juneping
    juneping Member Posts: 1,594
    edited February 2014

    jim,

    that i don't know. i didn't read that deep into my report. may be ask the BS or the MO for better understanding.

    sorry...

  • voraciousreader
    voraciousreader Member Posts: 7,496
    edited February 2014

    welcome!  although your wife has mixed mucinous breast cancer, both of you can join us mucinous sisters on the mucinous carcinoma of the breast thread....

  • Stenokim
    Stenokim Member Posts: 172
    edited February 2014

    Jim, so sorry for what your wife and you are going through.  I've been through it recently myself and I couldn't have done it without my husband.  You really realize the love you have for each other when given a c diagnosis.  My husband went with me to every appointment, he's an engineer and dove into the research end, as it sounds like you're doing, and had better questions than I did.  I believe that's what got my husband through the hard times, waiting for results, etc., was delving into research. Though he never said, I believe it was his way of handling the helplessness he felt.  Maybe you could tell your wife that it's helpful for you to talk to docs and ask questions, makes you feel that you're helping, as you definitely are.  My husband's questions were so good that he was asked once if he was a doctor by one of the docs.  :). I found I am a good advocate for others, as I went through this with my dad, but not a good advocate for myself.  I tended to take every word as gospel and not question anything when it came to myself.  My husband and sister questioned and pushed much more.  Maybe share that with your wife.  

    My KI 67 was a 3.  

    Good luck and I'll pray for you both.  Hang in there, it gets better and life will be back to normal again.

  • farmerlucy
    farmerlucy Member Posts: 3,985
    edited February 2014

    Hi Jim - Sorry you have to be here. You're right, the pieces won't come together until after the final pathology comes in from surgery.  When I was diagnosed I became a complete noodle and my husband took over. He did all the research, asked all the questions and I just showed up and cried and cried and cried. My Ki-67 was 22%. My onco doesn't seem to put much faith in it. I had an additional test called the oncotypedx that looks at the cell biology of the tumor. That score was three. My grade was 2. I was told by several doctors that grade is subjective to the pathologist and that oncotype trumps grade. Also I was able to get into adjuvant online by signing up as a medical professional (I'm not.) Honestly looking back I put way too much effort into that "survival rate" number. The only real choice I have is to live each day as fully as I can, and not to let the "what ifs" overshadow the good things. If you have an inclination to "talk" to a breast cancer husband, PM me and I'll give you my husband's email.

    Also - I wish I had gotten a second opinion on the pathology. Johns Hopkins will do a second opinion pathology consult for not a lot of money. You can find the information on their website. Also they have an "Ask a pathologist" free web service that I used.

  • jimw
    jimw Member Posts: 13
    edited February 2014

    Thank you all for your very helpful responses.

    kayb - how awesome that your tumor was so responsive to chemo! Your explanation about the heterogeneity of the tumor being responsible for the Ki-67/mitotic rate difference is quite logical. I will see if I can reach out to the "ask a patholigist" at Johns Hopkins. I'll share the results here.
    I was unfamiliar with Adjuvant Online - I will take a look; thanks. At the same time, I agree with farmerlucy that the numbers are simply that and living life is the important part. Especially when statistics are great for groups but are not necessarily predictive of a specific individual's prognosis. I doubt my wife's doc will take individual appts as she is the  but I will try and get info from the PA, she's been very nice and

    stenokim - I'm guilty of being an engineer too; so the research and technical reading is also helpful to me. I don't know if it's in search for control vs. helplessness or if it's just a need to understand what's happening and why treatment options are picked. As you know - we engineers are not quite normal people.

    farmerlucy - great advice on not living by the numbers.  If I may ask - why do you wish you got a second opinion on the pathology? Thank you for the invitation to talk to your husband. I'm doing ok so far. Unfortunately we have a lot of experience in medical difficulties (several miscarriages, family cancer and Alzheimers Hx, my son was Dx'd with Type I diabetes at age 4, etc.) between all of that and no alcohol for the past 24 years I know a bit about "one day at a time" even when the day stinks. LOL

    voraciousre... - thanks for the invitation. I'll pop over.

  • farmerlucy
    farmerlucy Member Posts: 3,985
    edited February 2014

    I am a CPA so perhaps it is my need to double check things. The k1-67 and the grade seem incongruent to the oncotypedx. My BS said with regard to grade you see a lot of 2s and fewer 1s and 3s just because "2" is the easiest call. Also there is a graph on the professional's site at Genomic Health that shows a difference in grade "calls' between local pathologists and those at larger institutions. Local may be a little more conservative. My tumor was found after the fact on a preventive mastectomy so I guess I still have trouble with that. It does seem with this stuff that the answer to one question generally leads to another question. Acceptance comes slowly. Your wife is lucky to have you in her corner.

  • Stenokim
    Stenokim Member Posts: 172
    edited February 2014

    I just knew from your initial post that you were an engineer.  Definitely a plus in my book!  I was well served by my husband's questions and persistence for answers. 

  • Kicks
    Kicks Member Posts: 4,131
    edited February 2014

    Jim - You might want to post in the sections that are for your wife's DX so you'll get replies from those dealing with the same DX - oldies and newbies.  This section is somewhat 'generic' for all newly DXd.

  • jimw
    jimw Member Posts: 13
    edited February 2014

    Thanks Kicks - I will probably break it up into a couple different topics too so the questions and answers are more focused. It helps now and in the future when others use old threads for info.

  • ziggypop
    ziggypop Member Posts: 1,071
    edited February 2014

    Hi Jim, 

    I think that you have gotten answers to a lot of questions that you have asked so I'm just going to say that I'm sorry that you and your wife are going through this. One day at a time is a great motto for dealing with it. You sound like you love your wife very much; know that the next year or two are going to be tough - it's likely that she will get mad (and maybe at you) for no seemingly good reason, be depressed when you expect her to be feeling good, be a 'fighter' one day ready to kick the cancer to kingdom come and a whimpering mess the next, not want you to 'touch' her and then yell at you because you don't put your arms around her like you used to, all while you are going to need to take over more of the care of the kids as well as caring physically for your wife, etc. 

    In less than a month, your wife is going to have an operation that can be really physically rough, more than that - it's not like a kidney operation where the physical is the only thing involved.I don't know how men deal with this, (very differently from what I can tell - I have read about women whose husbands told them that they could not stand to look at their mutilated bodies, to those who have said that their husband came in after surgery and gently kissed all along the scars) but I do know that how you deal with it will make a big difference for your wife and how she feels about herself. 

    I know you didn't ask for this advice, but sometimes I think that with all the 'treatment' and 'statistics' and everything that's going on, that we pause and treat the emotional, sensual, sides of ourselves - really as a husband, that's the 'doctoring' that you can probably best do for your sweet wife. Better than any doctor on the planet and really just as important as the physical stuff her doctor doctor does.  

  • Kicks
    Kicks Member Posts: 4,131
    edited February 2014

    Going to old threads is great BUT directly asking questions that are current with your wife/you will often get more answers directed to those questions/issues.   

    In your OP you said you did not come to get support specific to her type of BC.  Why not?    The different types are just that - different in so many ways.  

    Unless your wife has signed for you to call the Drs for info - they can not legally give it out.  Calling and asking questions of Drs is different than sitting in an appt and asking.  Why can't you ask questions with her there?

    1/4 to 3/13 before any TX?  Have you asked about adjuvant chemo and rads?  Any scans?  Hormone therapy for ER+?

    Perhaps she should come here!

  • My2-Girls
    My2-Girls Member Posts: 5
    edited February 2014

    Quick question please. I am confused for a change. My daughter had a low response to her ki67 test. The result was reported as "<10 favorable". We know she will need chemotherapy because of her young age and because of nodal involvement. So is this favorable result actually not favorable because it means she will not respond to chemo as well?

  • jimw
    jimw Member Posts: 13
    edited February 2014

    Here is the exchange from Johns Hopkins "ask an expert" site on the Ki-67 vs. mitotic rate.

    My question involves some seemingly incongrous pathology results regarding tumor growth rates.

    The
    report states there is invasive ductal carcinoma with 80% mucin
    production and ductal carcinoma in situ. The histologic grade of the
    mitotic rate is slow growing and classified as a 1, but the Ki-67 is
    showing 27%, which would indicate a much higher growth rate.

    Below are my questions.

    1.)Are the Ki-67 and mitotic rate tests done on different biopsy samples?
    2.)Is it the heterogeneity of the tumor that is most likely responsible for such disparate results?
    3.)Is either IDC or mucinous cancer "typically" faster or slower growing than the other?

    Please feel free to include any additional information that you think would prove edifying.
    Thank you.
    RepliedJHU's Breast Center Reply
    2/18/20141. yes

    2. probably

    3. mucinous usually slower growing
  • Holeinone
    Holeinone Member Posts: 2,478
    edited February 2014

    Jimw,

    Sorry you and your wife is having to deal with this horrific disease. This website has many well informed ladies that are very helpful. 

    The only thing I can add, IF your wife is experiencing anxiety, get meds. Also why does she have to wait so long for the surgery? I had my biopsy, 6 days later surgery.

  • jimw
    jimw Member Posts: 13
    edited February 2014

    My post previewed fine but posted incoherently. Another try.

    Here is what I sent to Johns Hopkins ask an expert. Their answers are in brackets.

    My question involves some seemingly incongrous pathology results regarding tumor growth rates.

    The
    report states there is invasive ductal carcinoma with 80% mucin
    production and ductal carcinoma in situ. The histologic grade of the
    mitotic rate is slow growing and classified as a 1, but the Ki-67 is
    showing 27%, which would indicate a much higher growth rate.

    Below are my questions.

    1.)Are the Ki-67 and mitotic rate tests done on different biopsy samples?
    <Yes>
    2.)Is it the heterogeneity of the tumor that is most likely responsible for such disparate results?
    <Probably>
    3.)Is either IDC or mucinous cancer "typically" faster or slower growing than the other?
    <Mucinous is usually slower growing>



    ziggy - Thanks (btw - I love Ziggy Pop; solo and with The Stooges.)  What you wrote is so very true. There are plenty of doctors that my wife will, or could see, but she only has one husband - and I'll do my best not to lose scope of my role; nor the importance of it.

    kicks - Thanks. I should have written my intentions, or pronouns, more clearly at the start. When I wrote:
      "I ask because one of the prime purposes I came here is for help in
    finding the best support for her, which is not something specific to BC
    types."
    I intended to have "here" mean "this topic", not "this website", which is what I think is the basis of your question.  Yes, she signed the form; I'm authorized to receive all medical information. I can't ask all the questions with her there because she and I have different personal preferences on the amount of research and information we want to do or have.

    My2-Girls   sorry that I can't help with your answer. Maybe someone else can, or you might get better/faster results if you start another thread with appropriate subject or try the Johns Hopkins "ask and expert".

  • encyclias
    encyclias Member Posts: 302
    edited February 2014

    Can't help with an answer, Jim, but my original diagnosis was Ki-67 @ 60% and my grade was a 3.  I remember several ladies here posting significantly higher Ki-67 results than mine.  They were also grade 3.

    Best wishes to your wife for an easy and successful treatment.

    Carol

  • jimw
    jimw Member Posts: 13
    edited February 2014

    Holeinone - she doens't seem to be too anxious, at least not unhealthily so; she is sleeping and eating,  she is not irritable, and she is talking more openly. Most of her earlier expressions of fear and anxiety were general, e.g. "I hate all of this". I've been trying to be supportive of the global fear as well as draw her to speak to the more specific fears and concerns and we've discussed survivability, recurrence, body changes, intimacy, etc..   Still, I'll keep your advice in mind.  
    Surgery date - we're told it's the concurrent availability of the OR and the doctors.

  • farmerlucy
    farmerlucy Member Posts: 3,985
    edited February 2014

    Jim - That information from the "Expert" is very interesting. Thanks for sharing. See what I mean about one answer leading to another question . . .SillyHeart

  • jimw
    jimw Member Posts: 13
    edited March 2014

    Today my wife had her surgery. In fact she still undergoing the breast reconstruction but I did receive the call from her breast surgeon. Two of three sentinel nodes removed were positive for cancer. 

    She starts chemo in four weeks. So we will be meeting with the medical oncologist and she'll have some bone scans in the meantime. I was concerned before today, now I'm scared as  can be. 

  • farmerlucy
    farmerlucy Member Posts: 3,985
    edited March 2014

    Sorry Jim. As least you have a starting point. Take it a step at a time. Thinking of you.

  • msphil
    msphil Member Posts: 1,536
    edited March 2014

    hi jim, I was diagnosed after I found my lump and it was while we were making wedding plans, so I wanted a lumpectomy, but decided on L mast, and my husband was so very supportive and was there for me, I know I couldn,t have made it thru without his and family support, she is blessed to have such a caring husband.Just be there, and hold her and love her, this got me thru and with myFaith, it has been 20 yrs this year(Praise GOD).msphil(idc,stage2, 0/3 nodes, L mast, chemo and rads and 5 yrs on tamoxifen)

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2014

    jimw, I understand you are even more scared now with +nodes. But I want you to know....

    that I am going on 10 years post-diagnosis - with 5 positive nodes, grade 3. Still NED - so there is plenty of hope that she will have many more happy years with you! 

  • Alexmatay
    Alexmatay Member Posts: 43
    edited March 2014

    Hi. Sad to say, but I am new to this site. After having a routine mammogram on 2/18/14; a repeat mammogram was needed due to a mass showing up on the film. Second mammogram done on 2/21/14; followed that same day with an ultrasound & a core biopsy. I received the news of my diagnoses of IDC on 2/24/14. No history of breast cancer & I'm 41 yo; and my results for BRCA 1 & 2 were negative.  Scheduled for a mastectomy on 4/8/14 with immediate reconstructive surgery. I honestly feel like I'm having an out of body experience & that I'm watching from the sidelines. I have good days and bad and I'm trying not to dwell because honestly there's nothing I can do to stop what is happening to me & I've taken on the attitude "It is what it is".  

    My husband has been my rock & has attended every appointment with me, but feels I needed to connect with others that are going through the same situation as me....so here I am. While reading many of the threads brings tears to my eyes (today is a bad day) it also makes me realize I am not alone in this fight.

  • farmerlucy
    farmerlucy Member Posts: 3,985
    edited March 2014

    Alexmatay - Sorry you have to be here but glad you found us. An out of body experience is a good description of this @#$%.  Believe it or not there will come a day when you don't think about BC every waking moment. Take things step by step. You might want to check out the "Young with BC" forum as well as consider joining the April 2014 Surgery group.  If things get to be too much ask your doctor for anti-anxiety meds. Gentle hug.

  • BayouBabe
    BayouBabe Member Posts: 2,221
    edited March 2014

    Alexmatey - we also have a "Ladies in their 40s" group - feel free to join us there as well.  Hugs.

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