stage 1 grade 3 her2 breast cancer 70 year old mom

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helenelv1944
helenelv1944 Member Posts: 26
edited June 2014 in IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)

if getting the call that i have cancer was not bad enough it got worse as i got told the news in December right on Friday the 13th 2013. that made me feel like i was doomed and ready to die. i am a 70 year old mother with Stage 1 or stage 2 i forgot now...i keep getting told its on its way to 2. but im thinking its still stage one....BUT Grade 3 Breast Cancer. further more i am HER-2 Positive as well....i am trying not to get grade and stage mixed up. this is so much to take in right now esp for my age. i am under the impression that i have to have the very aggressive breast cancer that can spread very quickly.

the thing i am very confused about is that i feel fine. no symptoms from the cancer yet, what does this mean? the tumor i assume is small because i can't feel it and neither can any of my doctors, only tests shows i had a growth. is this a good thing that i am not sick because of the cancer?

however i have went through a battery of tests since the day i was Diagnosed and so far it would appear that my cancer is still ONLY contained in my breast. so far the plan is for me to have chemo 1st, then surgery and finally radiation. i will be put on the following during chemo

( Herceptin,perjeta,carboplatin & docetaxel) is that a good combo? is this a good way to kill the cancer i have? are all these FDA and proven to work?

i just want to know if there is anybody else who is going through the same thing or something similar to what i am ? i have since quit drinking all together. and is there any information on the survival rate? am i doomed? should i start to plan my will? what should i have to face at this point? what should i do? i have two sons and i have to be here for them both. i am very scared. i never in my wildest dreams would of heard i would be one of the many who got breast cancer. 

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  • AlaskaAngel
    AlaskaAngel Member Posts: 1,836
    edited February 2014


    Helenely, I answered you in the Stage 1 forum, if you want to follow that thread of conversation.

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  • RMlulu
    RMlulu Member Posts: 1,989
    edited February 2014

    Helenelv - Breathe!  Sorry you find yourself facing the c word...ugh. It is all so overwhelming and our minds go on overload...but this is a great site, good info, and others who get it, you will be fine brave warrior, and it us doable. Do not go to mr goggle ivegotcancerimgoingtodie.com. Stay here.

    Sounds like your BC team has got a good plan...remember we are each unique and our treatment plans while similar are selected just for you/us.  Check with your BC center to determine what services they provide and go...oncology social workers are great, support groups, exercise, meditation...just ask. 

    Set up your file, read your path report with team, ask questions, ask ask ask.  You need to understand, chose an appointment buddy to go with you, support, ears, hold hands, take notes...helps.

    Read the section on diagnois and staging and your path report, testing info, check off what you know now...as info comes in you and your team will have a better idea.

    What you stated chemo first, surgery, rads, is very doable and you will find others here ...several during my rad time and in lumpectomy lounge have gone your path...visit other threads.

    Breathe, you can do this...you're not doomed...we will be in your pocket {{{squeeze}}}. Focus on today, don't run ahead of yourself and rehearse something you may never face.  Now big breathe...go hug those boys...do things that make your heart and spirit smile...

    (((Hugs)))

    Cindy

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