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Christycain17 - Girl, you are never alone in here!  And you are not a baby.  It's all perfectly understandable.  I'm sincerely sorry about your mother's diagnosis.  My mother died from an aggressive form of bc over 20 years ago, so I know about that fear you speak of.  Mkkjd60 is absolutely right - the odds are in your favor, so pull up those big girl panties and take a deep breath.  Find out exactly what they're concerned about and go from there.  No matter what you're up against, someone else in here has gone through the same thing, so you won't be alone.  Sending positive thoughts your way!  Please let us know what happens...

christy, I'm sorry you found yourself here. My Mom was dx'd 20 yrs ago; going to celebrate her 80th bday next wk. Granted, not the same DX as your Mom, but she is here! I'm sure with your Mom's DX, your Dr's are being extra cautious, as they should be. It sounds like you are doing what you can getting your screenings done and helping Mom. I'm sure she is proud of you. I think all of us will have changed in some way after under-going chemo and rads. I hope your tests come back benign and your Mom continues to recover.  Don't give up on her or yourself!!! 

Christycain...bless your heart let me also echo you are not a baby. I am sure all of us felt and still feel like we want our Mommies. That's perfectly natural and understandable. What a brave young lady you are protecting your parents from your own anxiety. I too had a mother with BC in the late 60's. She died at 83 a few years ago but not from BC. I also agree the doctors are just being cautious and thorough. That doesn't make it any easier for you to deal with but at least she is getting the best care and treatment available. It truly is in God's hands. Just so you know my sister in law and sister both also had BC. My sister in law is 5 years out from Stage 0 and my sister was 2 years out last October with ILC. Obviously my sister and I are carrying the gene. My BC is IDC, Stage 2, Grade 1. All of us no matter what stage or grade we are or were know exactly what the fear factor is but we also know we are stronger than we thought and you are too. This forum was and is my lifeline and it will be yours too. Nowhere else can you go and vent and ask questions and everyone...everyone understands exactly what you are feeling firsthand. Never hesitate to bombard us with questions or just want to talk because you are feeling low. We aren't doctors so we can't dispense medical advice but we can share our own personal experiences with you. So keep the faith and we will keep the prayers coming and do let us know how  you are doing. Diane

I understand your fear!  My mom died of breast cancer and my yearly mammo scared the crap out of me all the time.  I had several rounds of biopsies required over about 3 years, all benign, til they found LCIS (a non cancer non invasive lesion).  After than I had a bilateral MX and never worried about any of it again.

In my case, and I bet in your case, they look extra hard and always go for biopsy when there is even the slightest question, because they know you have a family history.  So probably your doctors are being extra cautious due to your family history.  Most times these things are benign.  Just hang in there!!

Christycain17 - Waiting is a special kind of torture that we all understand all too well.  I saw a signature line earlier today on a post that sums it up pretty well - 'God only gives us
what we can handle, so apparently God thinks I'm a badass'.
 You're much stronger than you think you are.  Don't let fear and anxiety get you down.  You can do this! 

my sister was diagnosed with stage 4 BC May 2013 and passed away December 2013, she was only 36 and her BC was triple negative. Due to high risk, I'm 35, I had a diagnostic Mamm and u/s in July and was given the all clear. Last month in December I found a grape size lump in my right breast,  I was due for my yearly MRI anyway and had it done Jan. 23rd. I'm still waiting for the results of that. I'm biting my nails, I just can't imagine putting my parents through this pain again, and so soon after the passing of my dear sister. Hang in there, it's hard to do but all we can do is be positive. I pray your appointment has good news the 29th, for you and your mom. Take care :-)

AZ85048, I need to correct you on something you keep repeating. You keep saying 80% of lumps FOUND are benign. That is incorrect. Actually, it is far more than 80% of found lumps that are benign. The 80% refers to Birads 4 mammograms (or ultrasounds or MRIs). The vast majority of  lumps can clearly be eliminated as most likely benign (Birads 3 or lower). So only a very small percentage fall under a Birads 4 or higher rating. It is 20% of this very small percent you are referring to.

nonblondmom - So sorry for the heartache you have already experienced. I don't know why life is so hard sometimes. Crossing my fingers and toes for you as well dear girl. Hugs.

thank u all for your well wishes. I will update as soon as I know more. 

The science associated with alien gases produced by gas cookers is old, simple and not therefore complicated.

I am not able to fall in line with the notion that genetics play any part in the formation of a breast tumour. I know that women very often teach their daughters to cook using gas cookers and that alien gases can become trapped inside homes.

No I do not have breast cancer but one of my relatives did die from it. I am merely trying to point out that there are two separate issues in order that other members can consider them.