August 2013 Chemo Sisters

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  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited January 2014

    Congrats shalimar and Lisa !!  Go and have a great time you deserve it.  I would be curious about the sun as well.  I live in FL and luv doing my walks on the beach. I have not done it for six months and would luv to get back into it.  I guess I will cover from head to toe for now.  I think I have talked myself into going to the beach this weekend!!!

    As far as a bathing suit goes I think I will have to wait on that.  I had implants removed so I am totally flat chested.  Not by choice of course. I will start the implant journey in about six months.  So for now it will be a t- shirt not unless anyone knows of some cute one piece or tankini masectomy bathing suit that I can order online.

    Everyone have a great week!!

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited January 2014

    Togetherness - My best friend had a bmx with no recon.  Last summer I saw her and we went out on a boat.  She wore a cute tankini that had prosthetics in the top & it looked great.  I'm not sure where she got it from, but I can ask.

    As for sun exposure - I've read that we are not supposed to be in the sun at all without at least SPF 30 on.  Going to be hard for me... we live in Texas, have a pool in our backyard and I'm a sun worshipper!  

  • beeve
    beeve Member Posts: 71
    edited January 2014

    Hi ladies; It's been a while.  My chemo ended around Thanksgiving and my hair is so damn slow.  It also seems not fully formed, more like infant hair.  I hope it thickens up, when I look in the mirror the color is indeterminable and I still see way too much scalp.  That's not my issue though.

    I have this constant ache, I suppose it's right at the site of the tumor that was closest to my chest wall.  My MO says it's just nerve damage and regeneration but I've had that before from other surgeries.  This feels different, for one thing, it's growing and I want some sort of proof.  I did have a CAT scan last week by my RO in preparation for rads.  If there's any bad mojo going on, would that show up in the CAT scan?

    I see my MO tomorrow for the usual labs and Herceptin.  I'm going to be a pest about this ache because, well heck, it's my body and I want some proof that there's not anything bad happening in there.

    I'm glad most everyone is doing well, for the most part I am doing great except for this small concern.

  • RhodyMMM
    RhodyMMM Member Posts: 455
    edited January 2014

    Hi beeve, don't be too impatient with the hair. If your chemo ended around Thanksgiving, then it is still early in the process. I had my last Adriamycin in early November. The way I figure it, my hair growth calendar would start around Thanksgiving because any hairs would have fallen out then. I can finally see some visible hairs, but they, too, seem more like baby hair. Started out almost clear, now developing some color on the sides. The top/scalp is still very thin, but getting longer by the day. I had very thick hair before all this, so it's an adjustment. DH checks every night; I think the hair is more important to him than it is to me at this point. I think the regrowth of hair is kind of a symbol for the regrowth/resurgence of health....at least that's how I see it.

    I am also noticing some sensation/discomfort in areas that have been numb since my BMX. It is strange to me because I have become so accustomed to having no sensation. It's been a little over 7 months since my BMX. How long ago was your surgery? I think it is wise to be a pest about the ache, because that may be the only way you find out if it is or is not something to be concerned about.

    Good luck to you!

    Martha

  • beeve
    beeve Member Posts: 71
    edited January 2014

    I got back from the MO, blood work, Herceptin and such.  They finally decided that my IV port really is infected and will put me on antibiotics, if that doesn't work it will be removed.  I only have Herceptin and blood work through July or so, so it really isn't needed.

    As to the growing pain in my side, my MO and I looked at the CAT scan and I'm semi convinced it's okay and he's sending me to a pain specialist for a nerve block, see if that helps.  He said about a third or more of patients have pain at the surgery site and when I came home and looked it up I (how pompous is this?) concur with his opinion.  Maybe, I'm still worried just because the pain is there and a constant reminder.

    Has anyone else had a nerve block?  I once had a Botox injection into my elbow for some nerve problems in my hand and it was awful, the pain was still there and my fingers were semi-paralyzed for six months.  I guess I don't need the control of my ribcage as much as my fingers.

    Thanks all, and to all, my best thoughts.

  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited January 2014

    Lighthouse if you don't mind to as her that would be great.  I will be using the scarves that I used on my head on my chest area for distraction..... Lol.  I have been looking online  for bathing suits and really haavent found anything. It is just a new ball game for me since I did not plan for it to turn out this way.  I am adjusting but it is taking some time.  I sure hope the second try works for me.

    Has anyone started taking tamoxifen or Femara!  I am suppose to take Femara but haven't started it yet and how are you doing with it. Just want to recovery from this last surgery!!

    Have a great week!!

  • mankatostate
    mankatostate Member Posts: 231
    edited January 2014

    Wow a lot of action on here lately!

    Lisa-The hair looks good. You look like you have a little more than I do but you were a few weeks ahead of me. Is anyone going "topless" yet? I am not sure when is the right length to do so. I have been swimming without a cap but I still feel so subconscious about it. I worry people will think I choose to wear my hair this way. :-) I am actively now looking for a job. I had just moved a couple months before I was diagnosed and decided to deal with this without working. Now that I am done with chemo and rads I decided to start looking. I haven't figured how to go to any interviews ( if I get one) I am not wanting to look like I have cancer, yet the hair is not long enough to go topless.

    FMG- I started Tamoxifen yesterday. I have a mild headach today. Anyone know if that is a SE of it? My son has a cold so I may just becoming down with a sinus headache but don't feel like I have a cold yet. Trying not to count every little thing as the new meds but the power of suggestion is strong sometimes.

  • ycats70
    ycats70 Member Posts: 36
    edited January 2014

    mankatostate, I started Tamoxifen this week too.  I have heard that mild nausea and headache can occur during the first couple/few weeks and then generally subside.  My MO started me on 10mg for the first week to ease me into it, and so far I have not had any SEs - not really sure how long they take to show up? Today is day 4 for me.  

    I started going "topless" just last week - I, too, worry that people will think I chose this "man's haircut" on purpose! But my husband keeps telling me that I should "wear it and be proud!" so I'm giving it a whirl.  I did scarves before, and they were starting to slip around on my hair and little tufts were sticking out around my ears which looked kind of silly.  To be honest, I think most people are so caught up in their own lives they don't really pay attention to anyone else - I keep looking around for strange looks but still haven't noticed any! 

  • RhodyMMM
    RhodyMMM Member Posts: 455
    edited January 2014

    Togetherness (and everyone else!)-- you can get sew-in bra pockets that you can sew into a regular bathing suit to hold prosthetics. I did that last summer because I did not see any mastectomy suits that I liked in my size. They are not hard to sew in at all. I got mine from the American Cancer Society "tlc" website. www.tlcdirect.org, item # 7576. They come in set of 4 single sides or 2 doubles. I used one for my bathing suit and one to convert a strapless bra to wear for my daughter's wedding (I did not want to spend $80 for a strapless mastectomy bra that would not get worn very often). Worked great! You can also find mastectomy suits on line. JC Penny has them through a company called Jodee's, and of course the major mastectomy suppliers do to.....Amoena, etc.

    Good luck!

  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited January 2014

    Rhody wow thanks for the info.  I will definitely look into that and do it with some of my suits.  Being in Florida and having a pool in my backyard during the summer I am in a bathing suit a lot.  So this will be perfect I won't have to spend a fortune on masectomy bathing suits.  This is only temporary being flat as i hope to try again with the reconstruction. Plus there are no masectomy suits that I like.  Thanks for the info.

    Ycsts and mankostst I am gonna bite the bullet and start Femara.  Will let you know how it goes.  I have just started to feel better and I am dreading taking it because the fear of SE.  I will give it a shot and see how it goes.  I am going back to work PT on Monday as well.  I have been out for 6 months. Time to start the next chapter of life.

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited January 2014

    Togetherness - I asked my friend where she got her cute bathing suit and she said The Pink Bra online.  Hers was similar to this one:

    http://www.thepinkbra.com/3s0133.html

  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited January 2014

    Thank you lighthouse.  That is so cute!!  I just need something that I am comfortable in and not have to worry about something falling out..... Lol

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2014

    Hi all, Hanging in there with all the frustrating news from yesterday's drs. appts. surgery went well and I moving forward to rads asap. V 

  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited January 2014

    HVV glad you are hanging in there.  Did the dr. Give you your path report from surgery?  Glad you are moving forward with rads. Gentle hugs your way!!

  • Shalimar630
    Shalimar630 Member Posts: 100
    edited January 2014

    That is a really cute swimsuit!

    I spoke to my RO about the sun and yes, she did just say to make sure to use at least 30 sunscreen and apply often. Then I went searching for paraben-free sunscreen. It's odd though,Neutrogena 55 lists parabens, but the broad spectrum 30 doesn't. So does that mean it doesn't have them? hmm. I picked up some Aveeno. 

    Another issue. I thought I heard that having a pap around chemo could alter the results. Has anyone heard that? I finished Chemo in Oct and had pap in Nov. We discussed my situation at length and nothing was said about this. I just realized I didn't remember getting the results back, but I have a followup in a couple weeks so I was just going to ask then. Well, yesterday I got a results letter from the office saying the pap was abnormal and to return in one year. (?). I of course called the office right away and the receptionist took a message, but I didn't get a call back. I'm thinking they just checked the wrong box, but am concerned and a bit irritated. I assume if it was really abnormal they would have called sooner, and second, does it really take 2 1/2 months to get a pap result back??? 

    I saw my MO yesterday and I will be starting Arimidex as soon as I pick it up from the pharmacy. 

    Beeve, I guess I finished about a month before you. I only have about a half inch of hair and a funky-looking circle area at forehead that has even less. I was so hoping to have more for the family gathering next month. Sigh.

  • LisaSp
    LisaSp Member Posts: 253
    edited January 2014

    Hey there everyone!

    Shalimar: I was also told 30 sunscreen and lots if reapplication. I'd suggest a coverup too. I got a rash guard (50+UV screen swim shirt) to cover me because I'll be snorkeling plus a Lycra swim cap. Wherever we've had rads we have to be extra careful. I'll also be wearing a hat full time on my cruise.

    Oh and for a fuller look to help your hair before it grows in completely use a product called Toppix. It's available at beauty supply stores and is little fibers that blend in with your regular hair. Comes in different colors and works great.

  • gavinsgrandma
    gavinsgrandma Member Posts: 407
    edited February 2014

    Just stopped by to say hi, It is exciting that all of us August chemo girls are either done or close to being done with chemo and even some with rads, I have 4 more Taxotere to go I probably would have been done by now but I had a couple of delays in treatment due to low ANC & WBC'S and then it will be time to reassess and move on to Rads. Hoping everyone has a blessed day.

    Shary

  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited February 2014

    Gavinsgrandma congrats on almost being done.  I am glad to be done.  Hope cancer never comes back.  I say I am not sure I could endure treatment again.  Hopefully with time I will forget how awful it was on me.  

    I went and got fitted for my prosthesis.  Wow those things are heavy.  Never imagined they would be that heavy, uncomfortable and being in Florida sweaty.  I keep telling this is temporary until I can try for impants in abut six months.  Hopefully I will adjust to them.  I have the  lightweight ones.  Can anyone tell me other ones they have used or I will look on other threads.

    Just glad to be back living my life!  It is an adjustment to be thrown back into ths world after  6 months of treatments, surgeries, hosutalization,TE, implants, etc.  The worst part is after all of this I did not get my implants due to numerous infections. But hey the cancer is gone!

    Wishing everyone well!!

  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited February 2014

    I left out a word amoena lightweight prosthesis.  They are not lightweight...... Lol

  • gavinsgrandma
    gavinsgrandma Member Posts: 407
    edited February 2014

    Togetherness, I am so glad that you are done with all the active treatment and trying to get back into a normal life again😄I am sorry to see you had so much trouble with your expanders, that is to bad. That is exactly why my PS would not put expanders in when I had my BLM because he said the risk of infection was to high and he did not want to delay my treatment and I am glad for that decision now because I have heard of that happening to a lot of ladies. Not even really sure if I ever want to do recon anymore or not. I will be so glad to be done with chemo, it has taken so much out of me but if it did it's job and the cancer is all gone it will be worth it.😄

    Shary.

  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited February 2014

    gavinsgrandma a great forum that I have been posting on is called something like New and future flat sister questions...... They have been very helpful since I had my implants removed.  I will definitely try again.  I just don't like my image and how I feel. You are on the end of the chemo journey so hang in there.  It does take so much out of you.  I have been having some residual effects from the treatment even though I am done. My oncologist said it could take me up to 6 months to get back to the new me.

  • gavinsgrandma
    gavinsgrandma Member Posts: 407
    edited February 2014

    Togetherness, I have seen that forum andI will check it out😄 Isn't it amazing how long it takes to get over chemos effects.😝 Hope everyone has a good day.

    Shary💝

  • ForMyGranddaughter
    ForMyGranddaughter Member Posts: 294
    edited February 2014

    Yesterday I went topless for the first time.  Free at last, free at last, thank God Almighty I'm free (from-the-wig-during-non-working hours) at last!

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  • Togetherness
    Togetherness Member Posts: 202
    edited February 2014

    Formygrandaughter. Your hair is coming in very nicely!!  Looks good.  Embrace going topless!!

  • ForMyGranddaughter
    ForMyGranddaughter Member Posts: 294
    edited February 2014

    Thanks Togetherness!  Sometimes my hair is straight as a pin + other times its more curly.

  • LisaSp
    LisaSp Member Posts: 253
    edited February 2014

    Hello everyone!

    I've been gone a while because I was on vacation and then getting adjusted to being back and enduring a huge snowstorm we had recently. The cruise was lovely and I stayed nicely covered. Here's evidence:

    imageI was going snorkeling that day; the water was a bit chilly so it was good I had the longer sleeves.

    I've just started going topless for good. Around Valentines Day I went to the salon and did this:

    imageWent red! I was do tired of the gray so I got brave.

    FMG, you look great! Hair is beautiful isn't it? I am so happy to be free of that nutty wig. It was great on the beginning, but just a chore at the end.

    I'm taking tamoxifen and its been almost two months. When I started I had a lot of back aches, but I began yoga and that actually seems to have stopped it! Also has really helped with my overall range of motion. The hot flashes still happen rarely but I think they are being controlled by my antidepressant Pristiq, which actually is known to help (like the related drug Effexor).

    Hope all the August ladies are doing well!

  • mankatostate
    mankatostate Member Posts: 231
    edited February 2014

    Lisa...Your hair looks good! I wish mine would look that good. I am going topless around the house, but I just can't bring myself to venture out with out a hat yet. I kind of feel like I am cheating now though as I do have hair...mine is just not long enough or thick enough for me to go without something. The cold weather is not helping either I guess. Lucky us here in Minnesota I lose my hair and we have one of the coldest winters!

  • LisaSp
    LisaSp Member Posts: 253
    edited February 2014

    Mankato: Good to hear from you and thanks for the hair compliments. It's taken a while to get to toplessness; my hair still is patchy in some areas but its ok enough for me to be happy. I also use Toppik occasionally that will fill in thin areas. 

    But making use of all the hats that are available now is fun. I was wearing lots of hats prior to the red. I suggest going on a hunt for clearance hats at places like Kohls, Penneys, Claire's, The Icing and Sears and even Walmart and Hot Topics for fun, cheap hats. I'd go with you but we live a bit far from each other. :)

    Are you taking the tamoxifen? How are you doing otherwise?

  • RhodyMMM
    RhodyMMM Member Posts: 455
    edited February 2014

    Hi August Chemo Sisters.....haven't posted in a while! Tomorrow is my LAST chemo.....#12 Taxol after 4 rounds of A/C and multiple issues with neutropenia. I am jealous of those of you who have enough hair to go topless. Mine is coming in but still not enough to go without. I wear my wig to work but go "au naturel" as soon as I get home and on the weekends. If we go out somewhere I wear a hat. I did find some fun hats and had some given to me as well. Funny story...this morning I had to leave the house extra early and in my haste I almost left without my "hair".....would have been interesting if I got all the way to work without it! But I remembered before we left.  I must admit that I have mixed feelings about finishing chemo............I have a love/hate relationship with it. I hate what it is doing to my body, I hate how it makes me feel (and it gets exponentially worse every week with the cumulative effects of the Taxol), but I have a feeling of security that something is being done to kill the poison in my body. Since I had BMX I won't have follow-up mammograms, they won't scan unless there is a reason......I will start anastrazole for the hormone-receptor positive tumor that I had, but I also had a triple-negative tumor and once the chemo is done then it is just a "waiting game...." Time to begin a new phase of my life to "watch and wait and hope for the best."

    Martha

  • RhodyMMM
    RhodyMMM Member Posts: 455
    edited March 2014

    OK I'm done. I know there are lots of things to do. But ...............NOW WHAT? In terms of emotional stuff, etc. I feel like I am melting down.....

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