Living up close and personal with my biggest fear

katyand4
katyand4 Member Posts: 171
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

My mom has been diagnosed with IV breast cancer (unofficially).  She was suffering from back pain for quite some time and went to docs week before xmas.  They did xray, xray led to MRI and then they did mammo, ultrasound and bone scan.  Extensive mets seen on bone scan along with mass in right breast.  Knew she was having back issues but quite honestly never registered that it might be breast cancer that spread.  Kicking myself now that we didn't get her to docs sooner.  Mom lives with me, kids and hubby.  We have just recovered from my own treatment that was finished in 2012 and now here we go again.  I am watching my biggest fear play out right before my very eyes....scared for my mom, scared for me and so scared for my kids.  Siblings don't realize how close to home this is hitting, trying to keep mom healthy (in so much pain with back), trying to keep myself healthy, raise four kids (24, 22, 19 & 11)  and a nephew (19), do the books for our business and keep hubby happy. My big kids have been wonderful but still feeling like way too much on the plate...you girls get how I'm feeling.  Please say a prayer for my mom...meeting with my oncologist today see where we go from there.  Be well.  Katie

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  • fd1
    fd1 Member Posts: 239
    edited January 2014

    Katie, this story sounds so similar to what happened to my grandmother in the 80s.  We were diagnosed at a similar time and I know that the recovery is long and makes coping with anything extra that much more difficult. I really wish you and your family all the best. 

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  • peacestrength
    peacestrength Member Posts: 690
    edited January 2014

    Katy - many prayers and blessings to you.  Find time to care for yourself too.

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  • diana50
    diana50 Member Posts: 2,134
    edited January 2014

    Katy

    Sending you hugs and comfort. I am sorry your family is dealing with this. Know lots of peeps thinking about you and loved ones. 

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  • edwards750
    edwards750 Member Posts: 3,761
    edited January 2014

    So sorry Katy. Its enough you are dealing with your own medical crisis and now your Mom. How you have managed to do all you do is a miracle in and of itself. It would be crazy to say find some time for yourself because I am sure you are already trying to carve out a few minutes. I am glad your kids are helping because you need all the support you can get. We are praying hard for your family. Please keep us posted. Diane

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  • hopefour
    hopefour Member Posts: 459
    edited January 2014

    Katie..you have my prayers for your family!! Yes, living up close to your own fear for yourself must be so hard, while grieving for your mom! Hoping she responds well to treatment and there are lots of years of living for your mom! You have four kids, your own health issues, a business and now your mom's health issues...PLEASE take care of yourself. Eat as you should...don't stress eat, exercise even if that means you don't get something done for someone else, and rest as you need!! Please keep us up-dated !!

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