In so much pain and treatment hasn't even started

Hey Garlikbread - You are not offending anyone and I am so sorry that you are in so much pain on top of this diagnosis. There is a thread for women who are not stage IV but who have questions. The women there are wonderful and if (IF) your cancer has spread, they might be the best able to answer any questions that you have while you're trying to get through this waiting period. I am sending you just a ton of hugs. Also - has your doc prescribed anti-anxiety meds and pain meds. It doesn't seem to make any sense that you would not have these things.

garlik, I am sorry your surgeon said to you that there was a possibility that cancer had spread...you have enough to stress over without thinking the worse from the get go. After my biopsy, I was in a very weird state of pain, anxiety & distress. Some days it felt like my legs did not work...your symptoms are real but until you have surgery, they do not know the extent of the cancer & cannot stage you..

Good luck, join a thread for Jan. chemo women, or whatever your situation becomes. It is so helpful to converse with women that are going through the exact same tx or surgery. Post away, you can rant, whine & be honest with with your feelings. Family & friends are wondeful but they are not living it.

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Garlikbread...let me echo the others about anxiety and the fear factor. That is one thing we all have in common other than the BC Dx. Even though we are all different stages and grades we all still have the C word. You are, believe it or not, in the worst part of the process - the unknown. Once you go through the surgeries/treatment plans you will at least know what you are dealing with. This forum was and is my lifeline and it will be yours too. Holeinone nailed it when she said support is great and you will need it but they aren't living it. There is a wealth of information on this website and all kinds of links to specific questions. Your doctors will inundate you with information so if you can take someone with you to your appts to take notes and moral support. Remember BC is not the death sentence it used to be. Keep the faith and keep us posted. Diane

So, so sorry you are experiencing this, and because you are so young, if you haven't yet contacted them, the Young Survival Coalition may be a good resource for you.

http://www.youngsurvival.org/

There are probably women in your geographic area who are active with YSC too.

Good luck.

In the few months before my diagnosis I had noticed I was in a lot of pain.... everywhere.  My legs were weak and in pain, my back, neck, arms, shoulder.  I was wondering if it was because I was just getting older as I had just turned 58.  Then when I was diagnosed, I thought, how can I go through this treatment.  I will never be strong enough to fight this.  I think when that cancer is in you, your body knows and reacts to the inflamation of the cancer, and you hurt all over.  I did notice that after the surgeries and treatment that pain went away.  Now it's new kind of pains from arthritis, and residual bone pain from chemo and hormonals. I do feel healthier than I did before diagnosis. Treatment was not as bad as I feared it would be either.  I was given anti nausea meds to prevent nausea, and just took over the counter analgesics for aches and bone pain from the chemo and rads.  I was also given an infusion of Ativan along with the chemo infusions and that relaxed me too.  So it is all doable and you will get thru this, and your team will address your pain issues as you go along.

Oceana

I agree with Tshift.  I had a similiar situation as yours and as soon as I knew it was BC...every pain, ache and twinge was cancer spreading...it wasn't.  I felt the sameway, they are putting off seeing me and I'm dying in the mean time.  Let us know how things go and I'm sorry you've had to join us here.  Sending you hugs sweetie.