Newcomer who has already made 2 new BFF's: Xanax and Valium
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Newbie here. I'm still wrapping my head around all of this. A
~Andrea
little about me. I am 33 years old, and I am married with two children,
ages 7 and 4. My mom passed away from breast cancer (when I was 9
months pregnant) but she was 70 years old. They told me that since I
was "high risk" to start getting mammograms at 35, rather than 40.
Which I fully intended to do....However, I started to exeprience the
weirdest pain in my left breast. I started feeling around and thought I
felt a lump, but wasn't even sure because my breasts are very large and
very dense. Went to doctor and she said it felt dense and cystic, and
probably nothing, but due to family history, she sent me for a
diagnostic mammogram and ultrasound. The pain got worse, but then
disappeared the day I got my period. Lo and behold, they found 2 masses
at 1 o'clock (2cm) and 2 o'clock (7mm). Had core biopsy and they also
biopsied a suspicous looking lymphnode which also came back positive.
Pathology came back triple negative, and ki67 88%, so they don't think
the cancer has been there long. They were suprised I felt pain since
the tumors are relatively small and glad I was sent right away for tests
because many OB/GYN's would have looked at a young woman with pain
(that disappeared with onsent of period) and figured it was a cyst, or
just advise them to monitor. I am thankful that the pain let me to find
it, but still in shock and traumatized that this is happening to me. I
have to go for a petscan Monday, and I am meeting with the oncologist
Wednesday. They want to do chemo first. And all I keep thinking is
that I have to do all these tests and appointments and meanwhile these
cancer cells are just multiplying and dividing like crazy and I am
helpless to stop it. I'm ready to go in the backyard and take the stupid
things off with a machete! I did read that triple negative cancers are
highly associated with glucose and carbohydrates (which I admit I have
too much) so I have stopped all of it. Even if it's a bunch of phewy, I
am still eating healthier which can't hurt. So that's my story. Nice
to meet all of you. This community is amazing and has been helping me
as I start my journey.
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Andrea - so sorry you are finding a need to be here, but welcome. Glad you have the Xanax and Valium. Many of us have used those for the short term to get us through the difficult beginning of our cancer diagnosis. Keep your kids close - mine, 10 and 11 at diagnosis - were my life ring and kept me grounded and kept me from hiding under my bed covers. Hard to hermit away when smiling faces need you! Have you considered genetic testing, with your age, mother's diagnosis, and your triple negative?Sending you hugs and peace as you figure out the road ahead. -
Andrea - sorry that you are newly diagnosed. I was diagnosed on 10/10. I am 34 years old. I felt a 2 cm+ lump on my right breast (close to the chest wall) in late September, and was referred to a breast surgeon. Long story short, she thought it was very likely to be B9 as I am young and no family history. I had a lumpectomy, and it was cancerous. I am also triple negative, Ki-67 was 91%. I am receiving dose dense chemo AC+T at the moment. Believe me, once there is a treatment plan for you, you will feel better.
Take care!
J
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