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sloyd66
sloyd66 Member Posts: 202
edited June 2014 in Just Diagnosed


I love this site... but I now find myself on it every minute of the day since I've joined. I woke up thinking and started crying, I read some of you ladies post not just in this forum but other forums and cried. I so want to be where all the other survivors are now, telling another newbie they can do it. As positive as I try to stay something always come to mind that make me think other. Always thought I was a strong individual, but right now I think I am the weakest leak.

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  • fredntan
    fredntan Member Posts: 1,821
    edited November 2013

    its okay cry if you need to. xanax helped me a lot. later in my tx I added antidepressant. it helped a lot. am off it now. i have had plenty of pity parties. it helps to also have some numbers of survivors.  

    fill in your siggy line so we know your dx

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  • sloyd66
    sloyd66 Member Posts: 202
    edited November 2013


    hi fredntan,


    I did it was showing before let me go look,

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  • sloyd66
    sloyd66 Member Posts: 202
    edited November 2013


    ok I see it shows when I reply, but apparently not when I post an initial topic hmmmm

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  • juneping
    juneping Member Posts: 1,594
    edited November 2013


    sloyd,


    i also cry from time to time...sometimes out of no where but mostly when i think of my family. my sister and a friend call a lot, i don't have to energy to return their calls. i feel this forum is more for me right now.

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  • Swimmom2
    Swimmom2 Member Posts: 169
    edited November 2013


    I find I cry over everything. I've asked people to email and text, just not in the mood to tell my story 500x.

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  • Blessings2011
    Blessings2011 Member Posts: 4,276
    edited November 2013


    Ladies - if you are a newbie, and your story is just to hard to tell 500 times to everyone who asks and wants details and updates, there are many sites online to help you deal with that.


    When I was dx'd, I set up an account on CaringBridge.org, which is a blog for those with serious illnesses and conditions so they can keep family and friends informed.


    I arranged for DH to be my co-administrator, so he could post in case I couldn't.


    I printed up little cards (they have them online) that I mailed out and handed out to those who were interested, giving them the website, and also the password (optional) that I set up so that only those I wanted to got access.


    It saved time and energy and my sanity... in the beginning there is so much to process, not only technical information, but also our emotions... and sometimes we just don't want to be the big comforter to others who are hysterical about our diagnoses.


    It's a process. We need time to grieve the loss of our health, which most of us took for granted. Time will go by, you will learn more than you ever though you would about breast cancer, you will develop a treatment plan, it will be easy or hard, you will take things one day at a time, and you will come to terms with your "new normal".


    And one day you will go to bed realizing "I never thought once about breast cancer today!"


    Hang in there. It does get better.

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  • sloyd66
    sloyd66 Member Posts: 202
    edited November 2013


    Hi ladies,


    I have told my story, but how I do it is on my facebook page. The reason is it gives everyone close to me updates of everything which limit my doing a lot of texting, or talking on the phone. And those close to me I don't like being on the phone yapping even before this, so to have someone constantly with a bunch of questions would really drive me crazy. =) So far my update on FB has been good, and I have been giving positive and encouraging words from everyone.

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  • fredntan
    fredntan Member Posts: 1,821
    edited November 2013

    i made a private fb page for family and friends. i have new shit going on.

    your stats are good. no nodes. awesome!

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited November 2013


    Great advice fredntan and Blessings, thank you!


    sloyd66, you might want to take a look at our 5 Year Survivors thread when you want a lift too, and there are lots of other forums here to have a great connection with others who "get it," while talking about fitness, recipes, shopping and other fun stuff!

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  • ziggypop
    ziggypop Member Posts: 1,071
    edited November 2013


    sloyd66 - I doubt that there is a single woman out there who hasn't cried after being diagnosed with BC. You will be one of the people talking to the newbies soon, and when you are, I expect to hear you say - "Hey newbie, I was right where you are not too long ago, and of course you're scared, but just like me, you'll get through it and be able to call yourself a superduperly strong warrior woman with the scars to prove it and a big fat grin on my face." Many, many hugs.

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  • sloyd66
    sloyd66 Member Posts: 202
    edited November 2013


    =) I wait for that day...

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  • Ariom
    Ariom Member Posts: 6,197
    edited November 2013


    Great advice from everyone here!


    It is all so raw and new for you right now, sloyd. It takes some time to adjust, but it won't be long till you are looking through these threads and answering the newbies who are looking for support. We all get to pay it forward!

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