Anyone have a doctor with an impatient or snippy beside manner?

Not every doctor is like that BlueSky but the most important thing is your comfort zone. My BS doesn't have that great of a bedside manner either and he is one of the best too. He made a comment that no one would make me do chemo in a not so nice way that I didn't appreciate. He had just done my lumpectomy and fortunately I had a low oncotype score of 11 so I had RADS instead thanks to my Oncologist. She insisted I have the test done because she was undecided about treatment and your ONC is the one who decides not your BS. I could care less if they like me asking questions or not - that is their job to inform us. The redeeming thing for me was/is my BS has the best staff ever. Also, he seemed to react differently when my husband was with me. Speaks volumes. Bottom line you need to be able to speak freely without worrying about his reaction. There are a zillion doctors out there and the vast majority are good so he isn't the only game in town. Don't settle for less than you deserve..you are paying him for his service so you should expect and get the best. diane

The BS is my favorite Dr. on my team. He cares, listens, and spends more time with me than the others do. You deserve the best, don't settle for less. Good-luck

Sometimes there are limitations related to health insurance plan. My BS was supposedly " the best" at this facility. He had absolutely no bedside manner ( only reading your chart upon walking in the room) Did did not greet me first " dressed", but I had to sit for a looong time in a paper gown and cold room.. This is so humiliating to women. Personally I would rather have gone to a female one if my insurance had covered. I am a retied RN and have worked w/some wonderful surgeons along the way but it was not until I was the BC patient myself that I noticed the little things that count.

Bluesky - I agree they need to answer questions and listen to OUR opinions. They only deal with us for the 20 minutes or so they are in the room with us. We have to live in this body and deal with our choices FOREVER. I think our opinion has more weight. This is why I am finding a new MO.

Chevyboy- For sure they hate it when they enter the exam room and see you have a list. I just did that w/ my PCP and she made it clear she had another patient waiting. Drives me nuts , then the specialists advise to see the PCP for follow up. 

Yes Yes Yes! I so wish now that I had moved on to someone else! 2 people recommended my BS. I was warned he is not a talker and kept thinking his experience and work is more important than bed side manner. I have had complications yet do not get to see him. He leaves everything after the first follow up to his nurse. He told me at the follow up that his nurse can take out the tube and handle anything needed. 
It is so hard to move on to another doc when you are worried about cancer spreading and the work and run around trying to get all the pathology and slides transfered to another place.
The other cancer center in the same area said it would take a few weeks to get in so I did not go there. It ended up taking over 4 months for me to get surgery because the BS wanted me to be seen in personal by a doc in Anesthesiologist because of my other health issues, he told me I was going to see one, and he thought he had worked it out, but pre-op did not allow it, and then he canceled my surgery until I was able to get  the sleep study doc to get a CPAP machine.  I was glad he was cautious but I never got to see the A and it ended up taking so long I could have got seen by the other place.

Chevyboy, Thank you. No, I am not alright now. I have a skin infection that the nurse and PA thought was fungal, but now looks like Cellulitis and they are not taking it serious. They called in a antibiotic, in the past when I had it doctors gave me a shot of Pennicilion and oral antibiotics and watched it very closely. I might end up in the hospital on IV antibiotics this weekend. My new primary care doc says they should have already done that but he can not step on the surgeons toes.

Damn girl! Get those guys to take care of you! Maybe you need to get a whole new team! Maybe the emergency room WOULD give you better care than your Doctor is NOW!

I was out of town one time, and was taking an anti-biotic for Bronchitis, but I just kept getting worse! After a week of being MISerable, I got back home, went to the same team, but a different Doctor, and he put me on aNOTHER antibiotic, because it was Pneumonia.

So don't listen to then kayb! If you are sick, you need something else to help you! Kayb is right.... You have to monitor this yourself, and tell them you are getting worse!

Drats! I just hate when we can't get the right help! Go get-em' kid!

If I DID have such a doctor, I'd be getting a new doctor, pronto. All this is stressful enough, without having to also deal with a jackass that is being paid by ME (well, by my insurance, same difference.) That said, my surgeon can be a little moody, but he's a sweetheart really, just kind of socially awkward...and I'm convinced that surgeons are from another planet, anyway.

We have Kaiser. My BC medical team was awesome.... all women except for my PS. I was warned that he wasn't the warm fuzzy type, but the best at what he did.

However, DH and I figured out quickly that he's just kind of shy and geeky. He would sit patiently and answer me while I asked ALL of my two typed-up pages of questions, then make sure I had no others before he left the room.

My PCP, however, was a different story. In the beginning he was friendly, but two years ago he started rushing our appointments, misdiagnosed SEVERAL important conditions, and more recently had the nerve to argue with the recommendations by DH's Nephrologist and my Oncologist.

Sorry, Dude, but Oncology trumps Primary Care every time!

So we fired him, found a new, young woman PCP, and have been very happy. I was her last patient of the day a few months ago, and she just asked me how I was doing with my BC recovery (I was all done by the time I switched to her) and she and I just sat there chatting for maybe 30 minutes. LOVE HER!!!

On one of my first visits to my oncologists, I asked "Do all your patients ask this many questions?"  She smiled and answered "Only my oncology nurse patients!"  She is very patient with me and spends a lot of time with me. My surgeon is one that did a lumpectomy on me when I was a nursing student and he just did a BMX on Nov. 7th. His whole staff hugs you, including this surgeon, when you leave his office. He stopped by my cubicle this past Monday as I was leaving his Nurse Practitioner to ask how I was feeling. He lounged against the door and chatted for a while, never in a hurry and has the best reputation in this town of being a caring doctor. So far so good but I will not go to a doctor that is rude and mean. I've worked with many of them in the hospitals here so I know who NOT to go to. As someone mentioned earlier, "they work for us". It's "us" that are paying them.