So...whats for dinner?
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Enveloping Michelle and her family in gentle hugs. Hoping for a gentle peaceful passing and comfort for her family. -
Susan,
Thanks for posting the update on Michelle here. Just still trying to get my head around all of this. Still not willing to believe that the end is near, yet knowing that it is.
Sentiments gathered from this thread in the last day or so...
Enveloping Michelle and her family in gentle hugs, Crushed, sad, life won't be the same without her, I HATE F*CKING CANCER, heartboken, praying for a peaceful, painfree passing, (Christine) losing her mother way to soon, left her footprint on this world, lived with joy in the face of sorrow and is the definition of grace, God be with you, I hate cancer, I love you, Michelle, Thoughts, as always, are with Michelle and her family, Sending wishes and prayers for a peaceful passing and holding the family in my thoughts, I hope her family can find solace and peace in their hearts, What a strong and courageous woman, and an inspiration to everyone who is blessed to know her, May that love help them through this passage, My heart goes to Michelle and her family. I pray that they have peace at such a horribly difficult time.
Thinking of Michelle and family. Sending caring thoughts to all here!
Maureen,
Glad to see you post here! Much as you all have welcomed me on the Western NY thread, please know that you are always welcome here! -
((((Everyone)))) This is heartbreaking. -
My nephew, Richie, came home on leave, he is in the Marines. His mother is my sister who is living with me and he came over to visit us. I showed him the work done in the bathroom and then he went into my bedroom with me, I said, "Say "hi" to Uncle Jack." He just looked sadly at the wooden urn and I started crying, he gave me a big hug. It has been 5 months. Watching someone die is heartbreaking. My DH died on the 29th of May at 2:15 in the morning, my DD was born on December 29th at 2:15 in the morning. -
So sad about Michelle. She was one of the first people I met on this site two years ago and she was so encouraging. I never thought she would be leaving us so soon. I'm glad Hospice is taking care of her...they are such a loving caring group of people. They were with my DA in her final days and made her so comfortable. She passed peacefully. I send prayers to Michelle and her family. -
"Die Gedanken Sind Frei". It's a German folk song that was (is) often used in protests and conveys the idea that despite the body being imprisoned, one's mind remains free.
When MIckey was having a particularly rough time with chemo and later when she was in hospice, I'd hum that song to her to remind her that despite her body betraying and imprisoning her....her mind was still free to go where ever she wanted and do what ever she wanted. It *always* got a smile from her.
Hopefully Michelle will like it too. -
Eric,
Beautiful! -
There are no words for what Michelle and her family and loved ones are going through. Yet so many of you here have done so well expressing yourselves and what is happening. Thank you to all of you for saying things in a way that has brought us comfort because we feel the same.
I am reminded, obviously, of my mothers passing. She passed at home with all of us around her. She had mets to liver, lungs, bones and brain-yet her passing was very peaceful. I pray that her family and Michelle has the same experience. I miss her terribly. But that night- the night she passed was not about me or us- it was her journey. It needed to come to a conclusion. Heartbreaking but true.
Hugs to all- I hope that made sense. -
Lsurie,
Yes, it makes total sense! -
Seaside- Some people look at me as if I am odd when I say I did not cry the night my mother passed. But I didn't. I have cried a lot since then. Yet that night, I was so happy that her suffering was over. We played her favorite music, lit candles and talked to her and told her all was well.
I think that is what it is like when you love someone more than you love yourself. I wished peace for her more than I was concerned about losing my Mum.
I don't know- this is such a hard time for Michelle and her family. I am so sorry that they are going through this. It's not right. -
Michelle, her family and all of her friends are in my prayers this evening. I am new to the boards and never had a conversation with her, but I can feel the love and respect all of you had for her and I am sorry for your sadness. I found her blog and have spent the last hour or so reading. Reading about her journey with BC and love of her family,friends and traveling. She made me laugh with her Christmas Bunny PJ's. I was excited to think of being up in a Hot Air Balloon and her travels and cry because she had so much will and life and it is not fair that after fighting so hard, the medicines didn't work.
It really isn't fair
Vivian -
Michelle- I hope you have a gentle passing, you will be missed so much. I will think of you every time I eat popcorn, or look at a hot air balloon, or see a bunny outfit, I will think of you often and will smile at the joy you brought us all. And I will miss you dearly. I am so heartbroken and have tears rolling down my face. I am sorry to all who have got to meet Michelle in person and all her family and friends. She is definitely one of a kind.
Seaside- Your words made me cry too, so beautifully written. -
Laurie, your words and sentiment make perfect sense. To be selfless as you were at the end of a loved one's life is so loving. Your family made for a beautiful, peaceful passing for your Mum. I think the same is happening for Michelle, given her caring family.
Oh, this is so hard for everyone......a courageous woman so full of life and adventure, having it ripped away by a senseless force. Strength to all who are struggling to cope with the loss of this special friend.
((((((Strength))))) -
I forgot to mention that every time I hear the promotion for The Christmas Story to be playing in Boston, I am reminded of Michelle's amusement of Ralphie, the boy in the play. I smile through the tears.... -
Laurie,
My best friend, who I met in 7th grade, lost her Mom to ovarian cancer shortly after I finished treatment.
Her Mom was an Italian momma and such a force of nature, that to see her fade away, was just unimagineable for us but, i'm sure even worse for her in that she had ALWAYS been so strong! Much of our grief was expressed during diagnosis and treatment.
And, yes, you described it perfectly! It is what it is like to love someone more than you love yourself. Where their peace means more to you than your pain. THAT is true love! -
Laurie, thanks for sharing the experience with your mother's passing. I was with my father when he drew his last breath in his bedroom at home. So was my younger sister and my mother. The hospice nurse had told us that a patient who is unresponsive can possibly hear what is being said. I will always hear my sister's voice saying over and over, "I love you, Daddy," as she realized he was struggling for that last breath. Then he was no longer struggling. It would have been cruel and selfish to want him to stay with us in that state of illness.
Life goes on. It's natural and right to grieve, but Michelle would want us all to have a wonderful day today.
The sun is shining here and the temperature is in the 50's. I'm enjoying morning coffee. Dh and I will drive to Ocean Springs, MS, for the huge Walter Anderson Arts and Crafts fair. It is an amazing fair with high end crafts that are truly art as well as crafts that don't make it to art. My dh's former co-worker Larry and his wife always have an open house for family and friends and we'll be going to their house. They prepare lots of food.
Often we stop at the Beau Rivage casino in Biloxi (pronounced buh-LUX-ee) and play the poker machines long enough to drop $20. On the rare occasion we leave with a little extra $$.
Happy Sunday. -
Rest in peace dear Michelle, it was a great pleasure to know you. Please say hi to our Apple.
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My heart is so saddened. Joyce, I know that you are just crushed. The one time I went to Michelle's house, she spoke with such love about the instant relationship that the two of you had.
This just never gets easier.
*susan* -
To Joyce, Christine, Rick and all of Michelle's family, may your happy memories, and I know there are many, help ease the pain of her leaving. She will be missed.
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I'm so sorry to hear about Michelle. Her spirit and love of family came through in all her posts. If I didn't live so far away, I would have loved to have met her (and many of you) at your Pickety Place outings. I hope her family and friends find comfort in their loving memories.
Joyce - I'm sorry you lost your best friend and thank you for keeping us informed, as hard as it must have been for you to deliver the sad news.
Gina -
RIP Michelle. Your spirit will live on.
Hugs everyone. Dont forget to tell someone you love them today xxxxx -
So very sorry to hear about Michelle. She was a truly inspiring woman. Prayers and hugs go out to her family and friends - she is at peace now. R.I.P. Michelle
Doreen
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...sigh.....
You are right Susan.....this does not get easier...
Rest easy Michelle. -
Rest in Peace Michelle. May her family and loved ones have peace.
So sad. -
Thank you Joyce for sharing that final sad news. My heart breaks for you and all who were close to this very special woman.
For Michelle, I am glad you went peacefully...with your typical grace. I hold dear the memories and lessons you've left with me.... -
Michelle now rests with the angels in a wonderful place that we can only dream about. Prayers for her family that they may find comfort in the wonderful memories they have of her. She will be missed by all who were blessed to know her. -
Laurie that made a wonderful sense to me.
And Eric, that was beautifully done and thanks for picking one with the translation included. -
A few months ago my curiosity lead me to look for that song on the Internet. The link I posted was the one I liked the most. -
Kaara, thanks for passing on the news about Michelle. She will be missed. Sympsthies to her family and friends.
There is a separate thread for Michelle so family and friends can go to one topic to see the condolences. Its title is Michelle Hall. -
Rest in Peace, our much loved Michelle.
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