ADH resources & family planning

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1988jl
1988jl Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in High Risk for Breast Cancer


Hello,


I was diagnosed when I was 19 with ADH after a lump was removed. (Luckily, the tumor was not cancerous and was still pretty small.) There is breast cancer in my family on my mom's side. I haven't been tested for the Brca genes or anything. I have been told I am too young for mammography, so I have had a couple ultrasounds on the tatas to check for anything.


I'm not really a fan of taking more medicine with weird side-effects (i.e. tamoxiphen--or however it is spelled), and I do NOT like the idea of prematurely chopping off the girls in the name of "family planning."


When I was 19, I was told getting pregnant or taking birth control would create a reaction leading to the atypical cells becoming cancerous. I thought, "Whoohoo! No babies!!!!" I was 19, a sophomore in college and had my mind set on my big dreams and big career plans. Babies weren't really anywhere in my mind. I wasn't even dating anyone seriously.


I am 25 now and married. My husband & I are doing family planning things. WE DON'T WANT KIDS ANYTIME SOON but we do want them someday. We are even open to adoption &/or surrogacy if it turns out that those are the best options. (We've started a small savings pigging bank we're calling a Baby Bank in planning for those options, in case.)


The last time I was at the gyno. I was told again that it was dangerous for me to pop out kids on my own because of 3 reasons:


1. ADH (atypical cells--you all know)


2. Endometriosis (not too much yet, but still painful)


3. Apparently it is possible for a uterus to be too small. (uhm...what???)


I am asking around now for any resources or advise on surrogacy or adoption or pregancy info you may have. Let me know what you all have used and your experiences.


Thank you so much!!!

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  • MelissaDallas
    MelissaDallas Member Posts: 7,268
    edited October 2013


    I think you need a second opinion on a lot of this. I certainly wouldn't think that ADH would preclude a pregnancy. If you are anywhere close to a National Cancer Institute designated cancer center I would make an appointment with their high-risk breast clinic for a consultation and they might also want to confer with their gynecology deapartment.


    Unless they are somehow referring to your endometriosis I have certainly never heard of a too-small uterus, except in rare cases of things like septate malformations or something like that. Unpregnant they are only about the size of a pear.

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  • Zillsnot4me
    Zillsnot4me Member Posts: 2,687
    edited October 2013


    We have adopted two children. The first was a foster child. Our first and only placement. You have to take weekly parenting classes before you get a placement. It's an eye opening experience.


    The second was a private American adoption. Both required lots of paperwork and is stressful until you know they are finally yours and can't be taken away.


    It's definitely an option. You can take the classes with no obligation. You may decide it's not right for you.


    Our adoptions were finalized before any of this appeared. Good luck.

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