Formerly 44DD? Please advise about switching to flat

Anonymous · July 2013

I would really appreciate hearing from you and being able to PM you as I've been told that my 44DDD breasts are too big to have reconstruction. I wasn't sure I wanted recon anyway but am not sure what beigna flat sister means as a formerly large breasted woman. Would you please give me any advice on this situation from your perspective?

Thank you,

V

nagem · July 2013

There is a woman who posts on these boards who was an M before her mastectomy, and she's reveling in flatness after carrying all that weight on her chest. I'm trying to remember her screen name. Her real name is Barbara Bordwell. You might want to try scrolling through a couple of the other threads to find her posts. They're quite informative. As I recall, she ended up having to get a revision at one point to smooth things out. But she's very happy with her new figure and offers many ideas for showing it off to good advantage.

Anonymous · July 2013

Thank you. I would really appreciate learning more about her. I'll search around.

crystalphm · July 2013

Her name here is Starak and she has wonderful fashion ideas.

Anonymous · July 2013

Thank you!

daffyc · August 2013

I'm a 40DD and will be having a bilateral in about a month. I have thought about reduction for years so being smaller has been on my mind. Being flat will be really really different tho. Hard to get my head wrapped around it.

I won't be doing any reconstruction upfront as I still have rads to go. I don't know yet if I will reconstruct or not. I have some time to decide what I think.

I'm a bigger gal, I am currently in XL tops and 16W or 18W bottoms with a stocky, muscular build. I keep feeling like I will be so unbalanced, but who knows, maybe it will all look ok. I can't even begin to imagine how tops wll fit me. Buying bras will be really strange. No more underwire!

proudtospin · August 2013

not sure if this helps but my sister (she does not have BC) recently had breast reduction surgery,

she was a DDD and was a size 4 on the bottom.....she looks great, lost 5 pounds from each boobie and now looks balanced and can actually RUN with out her boobies slapping her in the face

bettysgirl · October 2013

I was formerly a DD also. No recon. have been flat for 5 yrs. It does pose fashion problems as most shirts and too low or have darts..you have to shop carefully. I layer shirts..but there may be times where you want to wear a prosthesis for things to look more proportioned. I tend to find that most people are acceptable to flat but there are some (mostly women) that tend to notice, or ask why you choose to be flat. I enjoy not wearing a bra, not sweating in between the breasts, there are a lot of positives. It does change the way you sleep, the way clothes fit, but there are some fashion choices that you can make that minimize the effect it it bothers you. For the most part I have moved past caring...there are some days when i would like the shape that boobs give you, but the foobies they fit me for are a joke...I wish you luck in finding what works for you.

kathylgardner · October 2013

Dear formerly 44DDD, I too was very large busted and also am a large gal, initally I had a mastecomy on the right side, I felt so unbalanced, then only 3 months later discoverd another lump and had cancer again and then had another mastectomy. Actually I was somewhat glad as the lopsidedness drove me crazy!! I too, was denied reconstruction due to my size and former breast size, it was quit a blow to be told I was too big to have any reconstruction. I guess if your fat as in my case and big busted your out of luck!!. As to the flatness, it is much more comfortable around the house to at least be even, I have adjusted to the flatness, but personnally, I can't go in public that way. I use a prosethesis that you can also adjust with fiber fill ,as I have one side that is much more concave. I think as in all things it will need to be your personal preferance as to what you want to do. I wish you the best with your healing and adjustment, first mast. was 12/ 12, the last was 3/13, so it still takes some getting used to the new me at times.

pebee · October 2013

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I was a 44 DD, most likely a 44DDD. When I met with my breast surgeon, she gave me a couple of choices:

1. Pre-surgical chemo to shrink the tumor, lumpectomy, regular plastic surgeon to reduce other and spiffy up the bad breast

or

2. Mastectomy to the bad breast, reconstruction to 44 D, reduction on the other side at the same time, by regular plastic surgeon then chemo

or

3. The same as 2, except the "stripper" plastic surgeon would get me back to a 44DDD.

I went with 1 - however, there are plastic surgeons out there who work on larger breasts. You may want to check with a local strip club for recommendations - or perhaps being located near the city gave me some options, but if you want them back at your size, it is certainly possible and doable.

If you are not comfortable with flat or a massive reduction then push back.

flat13good · October 2013

I was average size before but I did go for the reconstruction and had nothing but problems. They say they can fix you but I'm not so sure. I had my Chemo then Surgery with expanders then 33 radiation hits waited the 6 months and had the implants put in. A month later the radiated side opened and had to be closed with a new implant. I have waited but I still feel like I have rocks in my chest. Yesterday I asked my surgeon to remove them so I can be a Flat Sister. I can't have the feeling of rocks be the new normal I need to be comfortable in my skin and I'm not. Can't wait to move on with my life without breasts and I don't care what others think about my new look.

Formerly 44DD? Please advise about switching to flat

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