September 2013 Chemo Group

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  • bondsy
    bondsy Member Posts: 94
    edited September 2013

    I'll be starting TC chemotherapy on October 4th, next week. Very nervous. Been nervous since the diagnosis in August. I'm a kindergarten teacher so I plan to take a leave of absence the entire time I'm on chemo - too many germs!! Looking forward to the support on this forum. Thank you in advance!

  • BabyRuth
    BabyRuth Member Posts: 264
    edited September 2013

    batcatlady-you look beautiful!  You can rock it with the wig or without!

    Lighthouse- so sorry about your hair.  I hate for you to give up on using your cold caps but you need to do what will be best for you in the long run.  We are all cheering for you no matter what!  Sending you hugs!

    Even though I have been down this road before, I am having a hard time with the upcoming hair loss. Tomorrow is my third taxol treatment and my hair is still intact.    Every day when I brush it I think that this will be the day.  I thought about just cutting it but I have read where a few women have been able to keep their hair during taxol and I just keep thinking what if I am one of the lucky ones.  I will just keep taking it one day at a time I suppose.  Stupid cancer!

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited September 2013

    Babyruth - thank you for the hugs.  I'm less emotional today about my hair.  I think I'm beyond frustrated and sick of shedding everywhere.  LOL   So maybe it won't be quite so traumatic now.  Not that I'm thrilled with seeing myself bald... but the way my remaining hair looks and feels, I'd be crazy to spend any amount of time and money capping to try to save it.  (Remind me I said that when I'm crying about being bald!)  I've worn a baseball cap the last two days just so I don't have to look at it.  That's not how I want to live.

    I hope you do keep your hair!  I know a lot of ladies who used cold caps actually had their hair start growing back during Taxol!  Maybe you won't lose yours.  Smile

  • BabyRuth
    BabyRuth Member Posts: 264
    edited September 2013

    Welcome to bondsy and all the other newcomers!  The board has really grown and I have a hard time keeping up these days.  I love that we can all give each other so much support on here!

    Has everyone gotten a flu shot?  I got mine last week.  That is not an easy thing for me as I really hate needles.   The flu seems to have already started going around here so I am glad I sucked it up and got mine .      

  • batcatlady19
    batcatlady19 Member Posts: 138
    edited September 2013

    Thanks - I keep looking at the 'good bald' pic to remind me that if I put on lipstick I don't look so creepy bald :) Oh & my glasses just broke this morning, so now I have to use my old backup pair which give me headaches. It's just one of those days.

    Bondsy -- do read back thru some of the TC board, I found that really useful to prepare myself for possible SEs. Everyone responds a little differently, but at least knowing how this specific regimen goes is helpful. I'd highly recommend using Claritan if you're getting the Neulasta shot after your chemo. I didn't do it my 1st round & had terrible bone/joint pain. I used it this 2nd round & have had far less of the pain (still some, but not crippling). The exhaustion & loss of focus is what's getting to me.

    But some ppl have nausea, constipation or diarrhea, or mouth sores too, & all of those can be remedied. Your dr. should prescribe anti-nauseau meds (some should be added directly into your IV w/chemo) - if not ask for it asap! OTC stuff helps for most other problems. Don't be shy w/the TMI here either :)

  • JellyK
    JellyK Member Posts: 150
    edited September 2013

    Batcatlady you look beautiful bald, but I hear you on catching yourself in the mirror with no makeup.  When I look at myself up close I can see the beauty, and see a feminine bald woman, but when I just catch myself as I walk into the bathroom it's another thing entirely.  This hair thing is very hard, and while we do our best to put on a good positive front about it all, it's freaking hard.  Let yourself have those moments - you have every right to them - then put on some lipstick or your cute funky wig and get on with your day :-)

    Resting today to try and make sure I'm done with this cold long before next week's treatment, but now I'm also boooooorrrrrred.  When I'm busy I complain that I don't have time, but when I have nothing but time all I do is watch dumb TV, lol.

  • taguekids6
    taguekids6 Member Posts: 69
    edited September 2013

    Well, back from my first meeting with my Onc. So glad I did my research and found him. He was such a blessing, very clear, concise and informative. Making sure I understood everything and even quizing me to make sure that I did! Wonderful bedside manner as well, he actually laughed a lot at my humor. Most other doctors I've seen don't seem to get my humor and look at me like I'm NUTS.

    He actually informed me that the cancer is grade 3 not 2, still Stage IIa. He believes I will need chemo based on age, size of tumor and grade but will not make his final determination until the onco test comes back. If I fall in the low score area, he will let me by with out the chemo. High range or the gray area, he will recommend chemo. He's pretty sure I'm going to come back in the gray area, based on EVERYthing about me and my cancer.

    Debora, Jellyk, SpecialK, Jessgirl and Mankatostat, thank you all for your thoughts, insight and knowledge. Much appreciated.

    batcat, "Simply Marvelous Darling"! You are a beauty w/ or w/out the wig! Very spunky by the way, if I end up needing one, I'm thinking of something just as spunky!

    Kimberly

  • SpecialK
    SpecialK Member Posts: 16,486
    edited September 2013

    taguekids6 - I think your oncological plan sounds excellent and well thought out.  I am glad you were given the time and consideration to make informed decisions in partnership with your oncologist, and have found one who has good bedside manner and takes the time to explain treatment options, and will quantify them with test results, thus eliminating the need for emotionally based choices  - this is important as this will most likely be your longest lasting relationship amongst your treatment team.

  • JellyK
    JellyK Member Posts: 150
    edited September 2013

    Kimberly I was just thinking about you and whether you'd met with your onc yet - I'm so glad to hear you feel good with him, it means SO much to trust your onc.  I'll have my fingers crossed that your onco score comes back with clear results so that you can feel secure about your treatment plan.

    New avatar again, lol.  Still coming to terms with the baldness, and the best way I know how to do that is to make it as public as possible.  I posted a bald pic on FB and am surprised and humbled by the positive responses :-)

  • hockeymommy
    hockeymommy Member Posts: 77
    edited September 2013

    hi ladies, hope everyone is doing well!! I hear you gals about the baldness. I really didn't think it would bother me that much, but I am having a really hard time with it. I  think I look like a man. I have a wig, but feel like everyone knows I am wearing a wig , the scarves I have are ok, I mostly wear my hats....So I have just been going bald!! Sorry I had to vent....darn hair....lol...

  • soccermomof4
    soccermomof4 Member Posts: 117
    edited September 2013

    HI girls - checking in, had my 1st ac yesterday and my shot today. Feeling ok, a little nauseus.

    I hear you all about the hair  - the countdown is on for that. Even though you try to prepare yourself, I don't think you can. I have a wig I have been wearing to my work (teach preschool) cause I didn't want the kids to have to be worried or anything. But at home I will probably just do the scarves. My big issue will be going to soccer games. The season already started & I'll probably have to go with a scarf or wig on. Might be uncomfortable. How do your kids feel about you going out in wigs/scarves?

  • JellyK
    JellyK Member Posts: 150
    edited September 2013

    Soccermom, something I've noticed these last few cold & rainy days is that in cold weather no one notices anything when I'm wearing a hat.  I just look like a normal person and people assume I either have short hair or I've tucked it inside the hat - I don't get the looks like I did even last week when it was still hot.  So your soccer games probably won't be as stressful as you think :-)

  • VintageGal1111
    VintageGal1111 Member Posts: 705
    edited September 2013

    Hi soccermomof4

     I had my first infusion yesterday, all went well, no issues at all. Went in this afternoon for my Neulasta shot. Feel fine...so far LOL I did take the nausea med that first eve though I felt fine. And today I took Claritin before going for the shot.

     I ordered a wig on ebay. (just for at home)(and for some fun LOL)

    But will get a script from the oncologist to go to a shop that carries better wigs & takes my insurance. I know a gal that will shape & trim it for free. Plus our cancer center has a stylist & a make up artist that head up a free program (my cousin is the esthetician) so that will be a help, & nice. I think I will like to wear a wig through the cold NH weather when I go out.

    Get a funky hat, maybe a cap or a spunky visored one for outside. Put some bling on it! Have fun! All the best to you!

  • Viji
    Viji Member Posts: 195
    edited September 2013

    Hi Millsy1,

    "Glad" to meet you too. All the best for Friday. It is really important to remain calm and breath...gently! I have followed all the tips here  and they are great so I felt really prepared. Day 3 and counting...

    Viji

  • soccermomof4
    soccermomof4 Member Posts: 117
    edited September 2013

    jellyk - Thanks for sharing that, I am not much of a hat wearer, but I guess I will become one!! And who cares if they notice, right?  Hope you feel better soon!!

    Vintagegal - Glad to hear you are doing well!!! I came home from my shot, felt a little tired & went in & fell asleep for 2 hours! I don't know where that came from, I wasn't even feeling tired before. Keep doing good!!

  • KBeee
    KBeee Member Posts: 5,109
    edited September 2013

    My kids like my wig and also my halo wig which I wear with a hat.  Once winter hits, it'll just be a hat.  When I work out at the fitness area at work, I just wear a skullcap/do rag thing, but they have all seen me bald (since they shaved me and most of them are bald too), so it is no big deal there. I just tell them to warn me if there is a tour coming through so I can go and get my hair :)

     It's funny you mentioned Facebook Jelly K.  I was not going to post mine there, but after our shaving party, there were over a hundred pictures on Facebook, and I am in the profile pictures of about 3 different friends posing with them when we all shaved our heads...so mine is quite public too.  It is reality though, and I am OK with that.  If it were not for the fact that I hate drawing attention to myself and answering a thousand questions, I would just go bald.  It is much more comfortable and I don't have to look at myself, so I really only remember when I walk into the bathroom.  With the wig on my head, I feel like there's a cat sleeping there, and I remember all the time!  At home, it's just bald.  A few of my kids' friends have come in (I told them if they forewarn me I will wear a wig, but if not, they see me as I am), and none has batted an eyelash or given it a second glance.

  • Ekaterina
    Ekaterina Member Posts: 34
    edited September 2013

    Hi Lovely ladies

    No news form today except the weather was divine here in NYC. So put on my sunscreen and walked across Central Park to ge my Neulasta shot. I woke up and took my probiotic, L lysine, L carnitane, L glutamine, B6 and Hair, skin and nalils vitamins along with a Claritin and my chinese herbs. i had my usual brekkie with lots of flax seed oil and fruit with some Kefir then went to yoga class which actually made me feel very good. Have felt slightly quesy at times but generally ok. Worried about the next few days and losing my hair as well. But being able to post and read all your posts is getting me through this time with more strentgh than i would have had alone.Thank you thank you thank you K

  • JellyK
    JellyK Member Posts: 150
    edited September 2013

    My new favorite quote:  "God gives us only what we can handle.  Apparently God thinks I'm a bad-ass."

  • SpecialK
    SpecialK Member Posts: 16,486
    edited September 2013

    jellyk - you are

  • JellyK
    JellyK Member Posts: 150
    edited September 2013

    Now I just have to convince Him that I'm bad-ass enough to handle a lottery win :-)

  • SpecialK
    SpecialK Member Posts: 16,486
    edited September 2013

    Lol!  How awesome would that be?

  • taguekids6
    taguekids6 Member Posts: 69
    edited September 2013
  • SpecialK
    SpecialK Member Posts: 16,486
    edited September 2013

    Nice - great video!

  • diane49
    diane49 Member Posts: 37
    edited September 2013

    Evening ladies

    Guess I am on schedule with the hair loss....day 16 today and I took the dog clippers to my already short hair-technically they are people clippers but I bought them for him and he has the good sense to run and hide when I fire them up.

    He is a funny dog...wont let anyone get between us but didn't eat for a day and half once because a twist tie was next to his bowl...I was ready to take him to the vet because I thought he was sick...nope...just afraid of the twist tie.

    Anyway...cut my hair to half an inch and tried to gauge people's reactions...hubby barely even blinked,...poor son in law didn't know where to look....told him I knew it was hard to see but he would get used to it and I was fine

    Hope my own children have an easier time of it...one down and two to go

  • kjsimpson
    kjsimpson Member Posts: 445
    edited September 2013

    Blood draws today.  Chemo round 2 on Friday.  Bald as the King of Siam.

    Thanks for the good reads today, all. 

  • diane49
    diane49 Member Posts: 37
    edited September 2013

    Forgot the whole reason for my post....

    Ladies

    You Are Beautiful

    When I look at your pics I see Beauty...I see Strength and I see Courage...

    I am woman...hear me roar

    Nothing manly about you

  • 70charger
    70charger Member Posts: 963
    edited September 2013

    I see todays topic seems to be hair. My problem is when people say "I love your short hair".  I always had long hair.  The only time I would cut it short was if I was in depression.  It was like a form of self mutilation.  It was my way of showing people how ugly I felt on the inside.  But I do not feel that way now yet I have short hair.  I did not cut it because I wanted a new super short cut. I feel I was forced to cut it. Assaulted if you will. Like I did not have any say in it.  So how does one react when people like it?

  • BabyRuth
    BabyRuth Member Posts: 264
    edited September 2013

    I got my numbing cream ready and I am heading in.  Treatment number 3 here I come!

    Hoping that everyone has a great day!

  • VintageGal1111
    VintageGal1111 Member Posts: 705
    edited September 2013

    I had long hair too. People I don't even know have commented on my hair since I had it cut short 2 weeks ago. I gladly tell them why...smile & say I will be losing it soon because of Chemo & thought I'd take control for a month & have some fun spiking it up! It always brings a smile to their face & more comments. I'm all for any feel good interaction!!!

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited September 2013

    I love this board so much.  You ladies lift me up and make me smile and make me proud.  What a fabulous group we are.  Smile

    Good luck to everyone hitting the bar today (including me).  AC #3 at noon.

    The haircut party went well last night.  My daughter was sad (she's 7 and very sensitive) and kept telling me she didn't want me to cut my hair, she didn't want me to lose my hair, she didn't want me to have cancer, etc.  I told her not to be sad because that would make ME sad and I didn't want to be sad.  I told her I already was losing my hair and I was really tired of it.  Finally she was ok.  I gave my kids the scissors and let them snip away, then hubby trimmed it down with the clippers.  I didn't want to shave it since I still have quite a bit of hair & didn't want to have stubble... so now I have a very very short manly cut and you can see all of my gray.  LOL   Oh well... I have my wig ready to go and let me tell you the hot shower where I scrubbed my head afterward was heavenly!!!  (with cold caps you can only use cold water)    I don't regret trying the caps at all... I would have always wondered what if.  But I do have sort of a sense of relief, like I gave in to the struggle and now let's move on. 

    If you all wouldn't mind thinking some good thoughts and/or prayers for my friend Allyson.  She is in her third round of fighting ovarian cancer and the doctors told her there's not much they can do.  She went yesterday for testing for a clinical trial that was basically her last resort, and she texted me last night that they told her she's not eligible.  I'm heartbroken.  Her oldest son and mine are the same age and she was my first real "mommy" friend.  She's only 37 and has three boys.  I don't know if there are any options open to her now or not, so she could use some prayers for strength and wisdom to make decisions.

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