What is lacking?

I think sometimes my doctors just assumed that I was doing a lot of research and that I was informed about everything, but that wasn't always the case for me.  My surgeon never told me that my breasts would be numb after the mastectomy.  I was also never told that a radiated breast doesn't look very good with an implant--my radiated side is not a "pretty" as my non-radiated side. 

It might be nice if breastcancer.org had a therapist or some sort of emotional counselor who was available to answer questions on a specifc message board, or monitored these message boards and jumped in once in awhile with some advice.  It seems to me that a lot of women come here to talk about about how miserable they are, then other people jump in with their stories, and the flames just get fanned into a bigger fire.  But maybe I'm wrong, and talking about it helps.  I like knowing that other people are experiening the same emotions, but then sometimes I don't know if I leave log off from here feeling better or worse.

How about foot massages during chemo?