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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited September 2013

    {{ Ducky }} ♥

    (((TOL))) ♥

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  • deborye
    deborye Member Posts: 7,002
    edited September 2013

    Yesterday we had a little ceremony on Iona Island here in Bermuda, a private island owned by Nick's cousin, spread a trial size sample of my husbands ashes on the island.  He loved it there and a part of him now is close to Rebekah and Nick, they can say "HI Dad" everytime the go by or visit the island.

    Then we went to a beach resort for a buffet.  Fairmont, South Hampton, Bermuda.

    (((EVERYONE)))

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  • chrisct
    chrisct Member Posts: 2,662
    edited September 2013

    ((((((Deb))))))

    (((((TOL)))))

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  • Joan811
    Joan811 Member Posts: 2,672
    edited September 2013

    (((TOL)))
    I am sitting at my desk at work and now am crying for the beautiful things I am reading about loved ones...Deb, how wonderful that you could have the ceremony in a place you all love.  Hugs and sweet memories...
    Ducky, I believe in the butterfly...there are no coincidences.  It is bittersweet to end the summer...and every year you will face these memories.  I am glad you had good times and that your family is carrying on the shore traditions. I am happy you made the trips this year. 
    Chris, I love hearing about your DD's band performances...such a proud mom you must be!  I did not realize what a huge amount of work and commitment these public performances are.  Don't worry about the bio spill...probably not live...at least I hope not!  I would not like to hear it either. 
    We went to Yankee Stadium last Friday (DD's treat for me) and we sat 5 rows behind the NYY dugout.  We had Legends club included so first we had dinner.  There was unlimited lobster, king crab, shrimp, sushi, beef tenderloin, gourmet chicken, veg, fruit, and the most incredible desserts -- all we could eat.  In the seats, people were carrying a dozen fancy cupcakes and huge carvel sundaes.  There was a candy shop with candy bars, ring pops, etc....unlimited.  I felt like I was at Michael Jackson's never land.  The games was great...lots of home runs...my camera failed and I only got a few good pix even though we were so close.
    Saturday we packed up DD's clothes, kids' toys, TVs, outdoor stuff...and Sunday we got up at 5 AM and took off by 8 for Massachusetts.  DH and I each drove a car; DD drove the 2 girls in her car, and SIL drove the moving truck.  It went well...her town of Cohasset is beautiful...a New England rocky coastal town with a village green and sandy beach.  Her rental house is oversized with a great porch. We emptied the truck in the terrible humidity & heat.   DH and I were so tired and made dozens of trips up her long wooden stairway to the 2nd floor.  I made a treasure hunt for the kids and they were so happy...it was chaos all around. We stayed over and were happy to go home, physically and emotionally exhausted, on Monday.
    Back to work for 2 days....an unexpected payday Cool (I do not get paid in the summer) and a 4 day week end starting for me in 2 hours.  I was planning to go to US Open tennis tonight but I think I'll stay home and watch on TV.  Maybe a trip to the beach then some take out.
    I knew I would feel better once the kids were settled...but I do think about them and miss them.  It is just one year since my son moved away to Chicago. 
     I have forgotten my meds for 4 days...so my moods have been out of control! 
    Sorry ... I am rambling and it's getting long...
    (((Val, Sheila, Granny, Veggy, Ducky, Sandy, Deb, Chris, Diane, Linda, Scottiee and anyone/everyone on TOL)))...thanks for always being here!

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  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited September 2013

    Joan...just got back from the shore....it was a nice Labor Day...I left Friday night with my youngest daughter, her husband and 2 children......had a good time with them and then on Sunday my daughter older then her came with her husband, and my 2 grandsons who came in for a wedding, and then came down the shore, with her, along with one grandsons new wife.........the 3 live in Chicago just like your son..., and the wife was Chicago born and raised.....then 2 other Grands stopped in on sunday, stayed, had dinner with us, and went back home to Pa.....my youngest went home Sunday, and I stayed with my other daughter and her 2 boys till this morning..........we left around 9, cause their flight back was later today at 5pm, but check-in is 3 for security...



    It was great seeing them...I really miss the boys....growing up they were very close to me, and I hate them being far away....it was wonderful spending time with them......



    We will be closing for good in another 3 week......,.won't get own till then cause we have a baptisim on the 15th, and next week my daughter has a wedding, unless we drive down after she comes home...it is a Fri wedding......,.we will see...



    I know how you feel about your son..........it sucks.

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  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 2,329
    edited September 2013

    ((((((Joan)))))



    I have to say that my boys are 30 and 27 and I'm wondering if they will ever leave home...😱 No doubt I will miss them when they leave the nest....lol....I want to love them from perhaps two or three blocks away....ha ha ha



    Ducky.....glad you had a nice labour day holiday at your beach house. I'm sooooo jealous, I want a beach house too....😩

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  • Valjean
    Valjean Member Posts: 1,898
    edited September 2013

    Everyone has been so busy as of late......'cept me.......

    Joan ~ What a busy & fantastic time all in one! The aching we have for our children when they are far from us can not be described, can it?  

    Aw, Deb, such a beautifully sad ceremony. Brings tears to my eyes..... a gentle hug & a smile for you.

    ducky ~ The love of your family....... you are so lucky.

    Hope everyone had a relaxing weekend filled with family & friends.

    ((( TOL )))

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  • deborye
    deborye Member Posts: 7,002
    edited September 2013

    Here is the poem my DD choose:

    Those we love remain with us for love itself lives on,
    and cherished
    memories never fade
    because a loved one's
    gone.
    Those we love can never be more than a thought
    apart,
    for as long as there is memory, they'll live on in the
    heart.

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  • chrisct
    chrisct Member Posts: 2,662
    edited September 2013

    Not looking forward to the day when my kids are far away.  DS lives with me still, but he's always on the computer so I feel like I don't spend time with him.  I don't play video games...lol.  But at least I can interrupt him if I want (and hope he doesn't get so grumpy about it that I don't want to be with him anyway.)

    Joan, -glad you had such a good time at the game (even if it WAS the Yankees Wink...) - sounds amazing.  Does DD have a guest room for you so you can visit?  Will her new house have room for you?  If not, ask when she will start the project to add the in-law apartment...  My parents bought us a shed a year or so after we moved in here and my mother used to say that was going to be her in-law apartment...

    I hope you can get down to the shore again for more than closing it up, Ducky.  But once school starts, I can see how everyone might be busy.

    You've made me feel bad about not making more of an effort to visit my parents.  The live about 25 min away - so not just a drive across town, but not across the state either.  Today is their anniversary - so I will see if DS has a lot of work to do before band (don't want to overload him, but he usually doesn't have that much homework) so maybe I'll drive over there for a quick visit with him today - they would probably like that even if it is short - then maybe we can go over again on Sunday after I get out of work.  would be nice to bring DD - but she might be busy - AND might have a ballroom dancing rehearsal - lol.  I'm not that surpised that she would sign up for that, but for some reason I think it's funny. The returning members said she is a natural - not surprised about that either - she does have a good body for it - thin.  I just hope she doesn't fall behind in her coursework... 

    She told me they said she was a natural and I asked if she told them she has dance experience -she took dance class until the teacher closed up shop when DD was in 4th grade and I didn't try to find another one - plus she was doing sports and music and it was too much to do it all  so dance got dropped.  So I dug up some pix of her and posted them on FB hoping she would show her dance friends.  Now I kind of wish I hadn't posted them until I had pix of her ballroom dancing... then I could have done a Then and Now thing.  I'll still do that if I can, but I might have spoiled it a little since I already posted the Then pix. 

    I think it was Dancing with the Stars that made her want to learn how to dance like that.  She was really into that show the season Chaz and Nancy Grace did it.  She was rooting for them.  Neither won, of course, since others were better, but they did make it far, so DD was happy.

    I'm off work today - a little chilly for me.  Yesterday was amazing.  Sky was an amazing clear blue.  I ate my lunch outside and walked around looking at our trees a little (hoping they survive the damage from that freak snowstorm a couple yrs ago) before I had to head to work. 

    Hope everyone in the northeast who likes the cooler weather gets a chance to get outside today.

    (((((TOL))))))

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  • Anonymous
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  • Valjean
    Valjean Member Posts: 1,898
    edited September 2013

    Love the pics, veggy! So glad you three had a wonderful time!

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  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited September 2013

    Awwww Val.wish u were there.we never stopped laughing.

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  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 2,329
    edited September 2013

    Ladies.....wonderful pics....Isn't it wonderful meeting "our sisters"

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  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited September 2013

    Yes it was wonderful meeting our sistas

    We gotta do it more often

    Somehow we just have to make time for the best things in life.

    I think the next trip should be to get together with Mary,Mary....no one ever goes her way.We talk about it but it never comes to pass.

    Scottiee since you have the most experience with these things would you like to plan a trip to NC?gotcha.haha.

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  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 2,329
    edited September 2013

    Ok......lol......the best time for me would be in March when I have a week off school...anybody in??????

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  • raincitygirl
    raincitygirl Member Posts: 3,143
    edited September 2013

    Friday night and I am happily in pajama's on the sofa - book, tea, tv, blanket and a horrible cold.  DH has it as well.  We have houseguests who arrived on Thursday morning and we have not spent a moment with them.  They are seeing lots of friends and enjoying the city so it's fine.  We have both been sick since last Saturday so we went to see the ENT today, leaving with antibiotics, steroids, cough medicine and grateful that they squeezed us in.

    It's great that some of you have gotten together.  I will have my turn - I swear I will, somehow, someday.  Hoping I get to go see Joan the next time she hits SF and sooner or later, I will take a trip "home" where I hope to get to meet more of you.

    DH and I both have big birthdays this year and after much discussion, we decided that we would not throw big parties (surprise or otherwise) and that we would spend that money doing something special together. 

    In recent weeks, I have been spending time and a lot of emotional energy on a friend with cervical cancer.  She had been in a deep depression for many years, talking with none of us.  Her sister called me and asked me to come and I did.  She was so happy that I did.  We have the meeting on Monday where we will first hear staging/tumor size/extent of spread and plan of care.  She had been bleeding so long and so profusely that they had been unable to complete some of her testing until today. She was released just yesterday after 17 days in the hospital, 21 transfusions, and a multitude of procedures. I had a brief hallway chat with her med onc (with permission) and I already know that this is likely stage 4.  Her sister had to go out of the country on business and so I am going to the appts. The friend with cancer does not seem to know that it is this serious but she may have figured it out now that she has computer access.  I gotta say - I am really scared for her and nervous about handing this. I'll figure it out as I go, but me being me, I am worrying in advance.

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  • Valjean
    Valjean Member Posts: 1,898
    edited September 2013

    Diane, I am so sorry that your friend is going through such a difficult time. What a wonderful friend she has in you & I'm glad her sister called you. I sit here at my computer not knowing what else to say..... so I will send you a comforting ((hug)) & strength for you & her.

    ♥

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  • chrisct
    chrisct Member Posts: 2,662
    edited September 2013

    You are such a good friend, Diane.  I hope somehow it isn't as advanced as it seems. ((((((HUGS))))))

    (((((TOL)))))

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  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited September 2013

    Scottiee you can always count me in...

    Hoping the weather up in the sticks lets me outa here.

    I just go a job takin care of the GGsons 2days a week for 2hrs.tues and thurs.very unexpected but my GD got called back to the vet.clinic with a job that was hard to refuse,makin good money...her hubby will watch the kids on weekends and relieve me on the 2 days I work..I opened my big mouth tellin everyone that i was a volunteer sooo the job is mine.

    What's a GGrandmother to do????

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  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited September 2013

    Gran......lost my job....Makayla is almost 13,and Sean is 15, so this year Mak wants to come home to just Sean..no moe Nannie.........



    My daughter was working from home since June,( because of allergies in her new building), so I didn't watch them all summer either........



    Guess they are growing up......last year Sean insisted he did not need me to come over for him......just pick him up at school if it rained......lol.....



    Boring as hell being home all day...I hate it....you can only clean so much........oh well....



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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited September 2013

    Hello, everyone.  I've been keeping busy with work and just feel tired and without anything interesting to write.  

    Deb, I've seen pics, and it looks like you had/are having a ball in Bermuda.  Good for you.

    So glad you girls had a good meet-up.  I have yet to meet anyone from BCO.  As big as CA is you'd think there would be a couple of us in the same vicinity.  I haven't found one yet.

    Val, I am like you, I just don't know what to say sometimes.

    The couple who own the winery I cater dinners at are splitting and it is ugly.  We spent the day with her yesterday sitting on the grass at a park.  They are still living in the same house and it is so tense!  I seem to be one of her few close friends so I have been lending an ear frequently.  Her soon to be ex and my ex could have been cut from the same cloth, so I can truly relate.  The whole thing is emotional for me.

    Another dr. appointment today.  I'll get through it fine.

    I am looking forawrd to Friday when Patch and Lala arrive for a visit.  Oh, their parents will be here as well. Wink

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  • Joan811
    Joan811 Member Posts: 2,672
    edited September 2013

    Hi TOL,
    So happy to see the reunion pix...y'all look great and so happy !!!  We have to do more....
    FireKracker, am coming to see you next. 

    Even though I left DD's on Labor Day, I had a 4 day week end this past week and I went back.  It was better...they are mostly settled and I took one grandaughter to school (2nd day of kindergarten) and the younger to her first soccer practice.  I met the new nanny and we got along well.  We went to their beach...beautiful...and we walked in their (rental) neighborhood looking for homes for sale.  I got my hugs and even got to sleep until 9 one morning.  DD and her DH are having issues - DD is so brutally hard on him and intolerant....he doesn't have a job yet so he is going back to NJ until house closing...DD feels she doesn't need him now that she has a nanny and good job.  It breaks my heart and they better pull it together.
    HA look who's talking....my kids had to put up with DH being an unhappy angry person all through their lives...and I never had the strength courage or resources to deal with it.  My DD knows better....the kids will have a hard time adjusting if there is tension. 
    Always something bittersweet...
    Ducky, soooo glad you got to see so much of your family....that's what it's all about at the beach house....I know it's hard to see them leave.  DD was always here for our summers and I took it for granted.  Our house is quiet...
    Sandy, are you lurking?  Hoping you are feeling OK this week.
    Sheila??

    Hi Val...Chris....Meece....Scottiee...Veggy....
    Diane, so sorry about your friend.  I hope that she responds to treatments and can recover.   As hard as it is it sounds like you know what is needed for the moment.  One day at a time....can't look ahead. 
    I hope your colds are going away...those change of season URIs seem to be the lingering kind.
    More soon....classes started today and now I'm up too late...alarm goes off soon.
    Hugs and prayers,

    Joan

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited September 2013

    ♥  ♥   ♥   

    Smile

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  • chrisct
    chrisct Member Posts: 2,662
    edited September 2013

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!  ♥♥♥  Smile  So excited for you!

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2013

    Joan811- Hello! I'm glad I don't have a cold or anything nasty... just an annoying headache. Like a headache is nothing compared to chemo SEs. That's the norm now.



    Grammas to be are so exciting. I don't have any yet and don't expect to be one anytime soon. I'd be happy to be an aunt again.



    It's too hot tonight for my blood tonight. I've been drinking water and soda all day and a Popsicle just now trying to keep cool.



    Usually I never know what to say but send hugs. Hope that's ok.

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  • Joan811
    Joan811 Member Posts: 2,672
    edited September 2013

    Veggy, hang in there...yes, it will be very hot here tomorrow...try to keep cool.

    (((Sheila))) that is the best news ever!  so happy for you and your family.

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited September 2013

    Congratulations, Sheila.  Which daughter?

    Grandma-hood is wonderful.  There really is nothing like it.  It was wonderful the other night when the kids called just to have Patch say night-night (He was having a bad evening).  He was definitely upset in the background as I answered the phone, but when I spoke to him he calmed down immediately and chatted.  I felt so good!

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited September 2013

    Thanks for the well wishes

    Meece DD in NY is expecting.........

    (((TOL)))

    ♥

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  • chrisct
    chrisct Member Posts: 2,662
    edited September 2013

    Grandma to the rescue!  There are a lot of things only Grandma can accomplish.  I know my kids love their grandparents. 

    We see DH's parents every Sunday (we take them to church - mostly just FIL, MIL often doesn't get up in time - sleep apnea) and then we go out for lunch. So it isn't a long visit, but it is nearly every Sunday.  We haven't been visiting with my parents as much lately - we need to do more.  It used to be the reverse - that we'd see more of my parents than his.  But in recent yrs, we never knew what our kids needed to do, so planning a get together was hard to do ahead of time, but now that my mother isn't doing well, she doesn't care as much if we go to their house (she used to prefer to come to our house and then we'd make a day of it) so now we are trying to go for more frequent, shorter visits. 

    She was very happy when we went on Sunday for their anniversary. We skyped with DD so she got to see her and DS was there- lying on the bed with Grandma (my mother spends most of her time sitting or lying in bed watching tv (though she doesn't remember much of what she watches...:( 

    So cute to see this 6 foot tall (or nearly 6 foot) boy with his head on Grandma's arm. 

    ((((((TOL)))))))

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