August 2013 Chemo Sisters

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  • naan1004
    naan1004 Member Posts: 520
    edited August 2013

    Thank u ladies for the welcome!  So nice to be back among my sisters in fighting!

  • raynaj
    raynaj Member Posts: 236
    edited August 2013

    Welcome Lighthouselady:

    So sorry you have to be here but so glad you found us. this form is a lifeline for all of us.

    Use it to laugh, cry, bitch, scream, what ever you need. We don't judge here.



    I also have an 11 year old son, who sounds exactly like yours, he internalizes everything, I had an incident with him last year at the end of grade 5 where he was terrified to go to school and subsequently missed that last month of school. We are taking him to counselors and I think he had a terrible case of seperation anxiety, he was aftaid to leave us in case something happened, I'm hoping he will go to school next week when it starts, he says he's fine but I'm not so sure.



    Anyways, welcome and please post often

    Love, Rayna

  • SewStrong
    SewStrong Member Posts: 399
    edited August 2013

    NAAN, I love you! I was diagnosed on June 19 with TNBC. I had no earthly idea what it was, but after researching for the past 2 months, I read that what has happened to you can happen to me.  I'm a yount-at-heart, old-in-body greatgrandmother, age 69 on Nov. 4, my last day of chemo treatment. You materialized into a human body exactly what I have been thinking all along. Although my tumor was only 6mm, it was IDC. I "supposedly" had the sentinel node disection with 2 nodes removed, but pathology said there were no nodes in the lymph tissue. It was adepose tissue. The SO didn't remove the lymph nodes because they were deep within my body and it would have left me numb down my whole side. No one suggested more surgery, so I made the appointment with MO on my own, who said that my chance of recurrence was very low because of the size of the tumor. He had put my statistics into a computer program that throws out a graph that shows where you are according to statistics for all TNBC women. I was in the 10% category because they lump all tumor sizes <1cm (10mm). I was close to the middle, so he said I probably had a 5% chance of recurrence. My brain told me that if SOMEONE falls in the 5%, it could be me. He did not tell me not to have chemo. (I was only scheduled for spot radiation at that point, no chemo). He said he wouldn't tell his own mother not to do radiation because he wouldn't want me to come back in 2 years with a metastises. He said that he and I both would have to say " I wish I had chemo." I insisted that I wanted it, that I knew it was chancy at my age, but I wanted it. He referred me to Indianapolis to a specialist in TNBC, who conferenced with her colleagues and came up with a treatment of chemo TC of 4 rounds, three weeks apart, then total breast radiation. SHe agreed that it could have gone to my bloodstream in the time before it was diagnosed and the time since surgery, which ended up to be 6 weeks later. My wonderful MO had already told me it could have gone to my bloodstream. I started my 1st chemo yesterday, Aug. 26. Yours is Aug. 29.  I will pray for you, strting right now and along with the rest of the prayer warriors on this board, we will all pray daily for your success at beating this little monster. God loves you. He made you, he wants you to live to stay on this earth to do his will, that's all there is to it. We will pray you well. God bless you today and forever. Sharon/Sherry/SAB

  • raynaj
    raynaj Member Posts: 236
    edited August 2013

    BellasMomma: Sorry you are having such a rough time. I ended up with really low WBC and had Neutropenia (?) which is low Nutraphils and a fever and ended up in the hospital for 4 days getting pumped full of fluid and huge amounts of antibiotics. I hope they can get your meds under control so they get your SE under control. I know the first infusion my fatigue was so bad I could hardly walk and then not sleeping for 4 - 5 days certainly didn't help. But it is good how bad memories fade, I remember but not enough to make me want to quit this anymore. Good luck and keep us posted.



    Anyone without a port have a reaction to the needle used for chemo both times now the spot where they put the needle has become hard and infected, I showed the scar from the first one to my surgeon and she said "Oh, yeah chemo burn" I think its collapsing my veins after the fact. Good thing I only need 2 more or I would run out of veins.



    Cutiekool: So glad you posted, you will be back to your old fun self maybe not anytime soon but it will happen. I know it frustrating to be this sick and bald and boobless, no one but us could relate to this crappy disease. Please keep us posted



    Sharon: So glad to hear from you after your first, and know that you did well. Hopefully the steroids will continue to give you energy for a few days and you don't crash and burn. Keep us up to date.



    Gashgold: I think the way you told your daughter about your situation was really smart, being 19 you know she's going to Google anything you tell her so going about it slowly was incredible caring. She sounds like she is holding up well. I choose to tell my son everything now because of the way he found out and I know he won't spend too much time Googling stuff because it would take time away from his video games. lol



    Everyone starting today or this week, take care and let us know how you are doing.



    Love, Rayna

  • raynaj
    raynaj Member Posts: 236
    edited August 2013

    naan1004: Welcome, so sorry about your DX. But I have to say you sound so very confident and I think that is half the battle, is your state of mind. Good for you and professing all those positive words about beating this is great too.



    Well, if you read a bit of the posts you should know us, I tell everyone there is nothing we cannot say on here. We are the only ones who know what we are going thru.



    How did chemo go for you last time?



    Good luck and post often

    Love, Rayna

  • SewStrong
    SewStrong Member Posts: 399
    edited August 2013

    I haven't had time to fill you all in. We have to get ready to travel 45 minutes to get ashoe. The dr. said I can't let my paramedic granddaughter give it to me at home because the insurance would not pay. Don't ya' just love the regulations we have on our lives?

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited August 2013

    Thanks for the warm welcome.  Smile

  • SewStrong
    SewStrong Member Posts: 399
    edited August 2013

    Oh my gosh, people. I'm not going to travel to get a SHOE! I'm going to get my neulasta shot!!! Chemo brain already?

  • hockeymommy
    hockeymommy Member Posts: 77
    edited August 2013

    hi ladies,

    Well thursday is the big day! my first infusion. I really don't post much on this site, but I have to tell you that you ladies are great!! I feel a lot more confident for thursday because of all of you. fingers crossed all goes well.

  • naan1004
    naan1004 Member Posts: 520
    edited August 2013

    Sharon, you are too sweet, thanks for the warm welcome.  I do feel God is on my side this time more than last since he found me an awesome medical team who are agressive and fast working and got me started on treatments within a matter of days.  I also have so much support from you ladies here and friends and family from all around the world.  I feel so blessed to be able to meet all of you and share my journey with you.

    Raynaj, chemo was not pretty for me the first time around, especially AC x4 every 3 wks, "the red devil" had really bad nausea and hemorroids, constipation, neutropenic, u name it, I had it.  The Taxol was a lot better cause I had a much lower dose weekly, just had difficulty with leg/feet pain, swelling, numbness, but no nausea, thank goodness.  I learned along the way for the nausea to not wait til you get sick but just take it like clockwork, put an alarm on and it'll help.  If you take th nausea meds when u start getting sick, u just throw it all up, so no use.  Hope this helps, if there's anything else u ladies want to know, feel free and ask.  I'll do my best to answer them.  Just to warn you all though, since I do have tumors in my brain and am currently having radiation on my brain, plus my chemo brain, so my memory is not like it used to be and I may make a lot of spelling mistakes, so sorry. 

    For TN sisters, I am also on the Calling all TN thread too, u can come visit me there, as well as staring chemo in Nov 2011 and Dec 2011, radiation starting Aug 2012 threads as well.  My personal favorites are this one and the TN thread, since that was my initial dx.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2013

    hi Carol,  It's me.  today is the big b-day, 48. 

    Naan and Lighthouse lady Welcome.

    Thursday is the 3rd AC of 4.  Praying that its working to stop this recurrence and going to inquire a to how we can know that.

    My partner has been wonderful. Love her.

    This last bout of illness was mild but lasted until Sunday night: 11 days.  Not good.  Kind of apprehensive about this next infusion as a result.

    I've also decided that I need a second opinion.  I am still young, the presentation of my recurrence was unusual and I was being followed closely as I wasn't yet 1 year out fo active treatment for the first bout.  I will look for someone at Sloane  in NYC.  Is anyone being treated there?

    thanks,

    V

  • batcatlady19
    batcatlady19 Member Posts: 138
    edited August 2013

    Tick tick tick, I'm counting down to Thursday, 1st infusion. Had a fabulous weekend away & am catching up on all your posts.

    Funny, mentioning the chemo/sex talk -- who got it in front of your daughter? I heard it w/my husband & in front of my mom, lol. She came to the pre-chemo onc appt. since she'll be helping us out due to my hubby's work schedule.

    My new wig came in the mail -- LisaSP, it's black w/pink streaks :)

    Trying to setup everything in the house & at work so I don't have to worry or think too hard right after the chemo. Like clean all the things, finish all the reports, etc. Gotta go to Target for stuff on that 'chemo shopping list' -- dishwashing gloves (I never use them), new toothbrush, Biotene stuff, blah blah blah. My mom even got me face masks for crowds (she's a little more paranoid than I am).

    Been downloading music & ebooks to my iPad for when I'm sitting in the chair. Borrowing DVDs from friends for the weekend after chemo bec. my hubby moved a TV into the bedroom. If I'm gonna feel crappy, I need distraction.

  • gavinsgrandma
    gavinsgrandma Member Posts: 407
    edited August 2013

    Lighthouse, welcome you have come to a great forum for help, support and best of all randome outbursts of laughter 😄 please keep us posted on your journey as is is a long and stressful one full of ups and downs and lot's of decisions to make but trust in your gut and it will tell you what's best. Hug's new friend.🌻

    Naan104, welcome to our group I am so glad you found us and I am so sorry about all that you are facing, I have only had a small taste of that and it has knocked me off my feet. After my first chemo 2 weeks ago I ended up in the ER due to my shingles flairing up at the base of my spine( I have had them for years but chemo blew them out of the water) and while doing a CT they saw some bone mets in my lumbar spine, so then they did an MRI and conferred the Dx. I saw MO last Friday for a 1week f/u and we looked at films together and he said " I hope they are wrong, but they are really small spots so chemo should get them" They did not show up on PET CT, so after chemo we will do another PET and MRI and see if they are still there. I knew there was still cancer in the nodes from the PET but the thought of it settling in my spine scared the shit out of me, still does but I am praying with every chemo those spots just disappear. Good luck with the rads they are starting on your brain and are you going through again now too? And I am amazed that with 0/5 positive nodes that you even have any mets, how the hell does that happen. Please keep us posted and here is a flower for you cuz I think flowers make everything better. 🌹



    Shary🍁

  • gavinsgrandma
    gavinsgrandma Member Posts: 407
    edited August 2013

    Naan, I missed that you are having Tx on 8/29, batcatlady and I are Los doing Tx Thursday for me # 2 of Dancing with the Devil, if I missed anyone I apologize we have a large group and it is hard to keep up😛

    Sharonanne, hope you are feeling good on day 2, sounds like you are fairing well



  • Shalimar630
    Shalimar630 Member Posts: 100
    edited August 2013

    Rhody, about friends disappearing. Now that I vented yesterday, one actually showed up last night. So maybe once a month is what she is able to offer and I will just accept that that is the best she can handle.

    Gashgold, I finally asked the intimate questions at about the 4th visit. No one else brought it up. My 30-year-old daughter was there and I just told her she might want to shut her ears. I was told there is a chance of microsopic tearing which could introduce infection. The best time was about a three day window in the week before the next transfusion. My opinion is I really have other things to worry about right now, ha.

    Bella, I'm still waiting on results of my HRCA test which was sent in the middle of July. Maybe there is an insurance issue which is holding it up. I guess I'm not pursuing this too much at this point as it doesn't change the current choice of treatment right now. It would my choices later.

    Naan, we are here for you! Share away, prayers and positive thoughts will be sent your way!!

  • LisaSp
    LisaSp Member Posts: 253
    edited August 2013

    Day 2 of the second round of TC is fine so far. Took Pepcid yesterday and today and no heartburn. Had leg weakness last night but it went away. Slight headache but Tyelnol takes care of it.



    Neulasta today. Such a tiny little subcutaneous shot that can produce such aches. I heard someone recommend to take an Aleve along with the Claritin before the shot so far so good.



    I can't believe how well the lidocaine worked yesterday I really didn't feel the needle going into the port.



    So today I got my girl ready for school, went to breakfast with a lot of friends, got driven to the office for the shot and did a bit of shopping at Target before getting my subscription! Not too bad -- but I am definitely resting now.

  • sgyukon
    sgyukon Member Posts: 27
    edited August 2013

    Hi Ladies,

    I'm new to this board, I just had my first infusion on 8/15.  One down and 5 more to go before moving to herceptin only.  I've been told by my oncologist to expect hair loss to start 2 wks out, which means I will start losing it in just a few days.  I've been thinking about buzzing it off, any thoughts from anyone?

    Also, colgate has a new product out called peroxyl, it worked wonders on my first bout of mouth sores.

    Thanks!

  • sgyukon
    sgyukon Member Posts: 27
    edited August 2013

    Lisasp, stick with the claritin and aleve...I didn't take anything after my first Neulasta and I was absolutely miserable all weekend.  Needless to say I have now stocked up and will be premedicating with both before my next treatment!  I wish I had found this board sooner, I would have been more prepared.  Unfortunately everything happens so fast with this lousy disease you don't always have time to look into everything.

    Thank you all for sharing!!!

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited August 2013

    Shary - I know how you feel about something showing up on a scan.  I had 1 node tested and it was positive, but then my brain MRI showed "unusual uptake on front lobal bone that may indicate metastatic activity".  WHAT?!?!?!?  I have it nowhere else but my breast and my FOREHEAD?!?!?!?  My surgeon wasn't concerned at all, thought it was most likely something else, but the PET scan I had yesterday should show for sure. 

    Batcatlady - Right there with you.  Looks like my 1st tx will be Thursday, too.  Just had my hubby call to ask because they didn't tell me.  Really, I would like more than a day's notice!  Don't they know I have to get mentally prepared to poison my body?!?!?!?  Ugh.  So now I'm making a shopping list for tomorrow to get all of the goodies. 

    Lisasp - My doctor didn't tell me about the lidocaine... fortunately (for me, not for them) I have two really close friends and a sister-in-law who have been through chemo in recent years and they're giving me all kinds of helpful hints.  I used the lidocaine yesterday for my PET and didn't feel a thing!  How come doctors don't tell you this stuff?!?!?!? 

    About neulasta - is that a SHOT shot, or does it go in your port?  I'm just wondering, since we were talking about Lidocaine, if they will use the port for that too so I can be prepared.

    My husband thinks I over-think and over-research things to death, but honestly, how else would I know all of this off the wall stuff?!?!?!?!  Claritin for bone pain?  Ice chips for mouth sores?  Hmph.  You'd think all of this would be standard information they would pass along.  I guess it's like when you're pregnant and learn more from other women who have given birth than from your doctor.

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited August 2013

    So.... another bitchy post.  I am NOT thrilled with my MO.  I just had hubby call and ask (I make him do all my phone calls...LOL) about my chemo.  They said last week it would probably be Thursday.  Ok... now it's TUESDAY and I haven't heard yet.  Don't they realize we need a little notice?  I need to go shopping and get all of my chemo "goodies" so I'm prepared.  I need time to mentally prepare.  Hubby needs time so he can plan to take off work.  When were they going to let us know?!?!?  Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.   I don't know what drugs they're giving me (I'm guessing AC but don't know), how often my treatments will be, nothing.  HMPH.

  • Shalimar630
    Shalimar630 Member Posts: 100
    edited August 2013

    Hello sgyukon!

    I think everyone has been all over the board on this one. I'm only a week out, so I know its getting closer and I actually have no idea what I'm going to go. When I went to the American Cancer Society last week (they stocked me up on a bunch of free items) the gal there was a two time survivor. She mentioned she didn't shave hers off early. Her opinion was that if too early there would be some stubble left to come in which would be annoying. But maybe everyone will start sharing how theres is going and we can find out if this is true before it hits us.....? Everyones different. I can understand clipping it shorter so you won't be waking up with mouthfuls of hair, but alas, I (so far) havent gotten the nerve to do that either.

  • Shalimar630
    Shalimar630 Member Posts: 100
    edited August 2013

    Lighthouselady, my neulasta shot was just a little shot in my (ahem) fat part of the back of my arm. Hardly felt it.

    Also when I wanted to find out things, I am sorry for putting it this way, but alot of times I called the office and just acted confused. Said I'm so sorry, I wasn't sure if you were going to call me or if I was suppose to call... It sure got things going.. We are stressed enough without sitting around waiting for "the call".

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited August 2013

    LOL   That's awesome!  I'm going to remember that - I can easily play the "confused" patient!  It really sucks that we have to do this, but I know all of this is extremely URGENT for us and not at all for them.  Just another day at work with the cranky cancer patients.  Smile

  • KateW
    KateW Member Posts: 47
    edited August 2013

    Wow, lots have happened in posts today! I can't keep track. I too will have my first treatment this Thursday. Went to lunch, had a pedi and bought a ridiculously expensive wig with my best friend today. Not looking forward to my husband coming home to the receipts! :)

  • SewStrong
    SewStrong Member Posts: 399
    edited August 2013

    I typed a post this morning that sounded very similar to what I just wrote. I hit a button and thought I lost it, so if I am repeating, remember my age and just pass me by today. I'm forgetful enough, but chemo brain will probably do me in. I feel drunk, although I don't drink.

    I had a very rough evening last night. I ate chicken noodle soup and although I defatted it, I got very nauseous. I ate chrystalized ginger (very good for nausea), took both nausea meds, was only supposed to take 1/2 of one, but forgot. Felt better this morning and could eat cereal, but had to go to dermatologist w/ hubby then to get neulasta shot in back of upper arm. No big deal. I was gone in the car from 9:30 until about 3:30 and I am very tired. I tripped over everything like the slanted ramp going into the doctor's office, a rug at Kroger, you name it. I haven't felt well all day, just tired and listless. I developed a slight sore troat the day before my cemo, so that may be part of it. I laid down when we got home for about an hour. I drank a cup of my magic mineral broth, drank some pomegranage juice, and now, here I am. Barry is fixing his dinner. I thawed lentil soup that I made ahead of time with the mineral broth base for my dinner. It is supposed to help boost the immune system. I'm trying to eat while I can, but the steroids haven't made me hungry. I have been brushing my teeth often with Biotene toothpaste, 4 times already, garglilng with Biotene, gargling salt and soda water before the Biotene, and once a day, rinsing with a flouride rinse to protect my teeth. I have all of my teeth except wisdom and one molar. I don't want to start losing them at this late date. I am not taking the Claratin until I feel pain to see if it is really what helps or if I wasn't going to get it in the first place. Everyone's prayers were felt on Monday during my infusion. I didn't get sick at all. It was like resting in an easy chair. But that dumb cluck chicken soup did me in. I'm freezing the rest for next week when I can tolerate more fat. That was really bad. No throwing up, just nausea. I slept well after taking that whole pill rather than 1/2. It says it causes sleepiness. It caused double sleepiness for me. I hope that the others who had infusions Monday, that you are feeling spunky and sexy and on top of the world. I am praying for those going to their first it infusion on Thursday. Being prepared and knowing what to expect helps tremendously. I'm going to rest alot tonight and see what that shot does to me. I may work a logic puzzle, one of my favorite puzzles, but I picked a long one, so I don't know if I'll get it done. Have a blessed night. Sharon

  • LisaSp
    LisaSp Member Posts: 253
    edited August 2013

    Sharonanne: Sorry things were tough last night. I was worried about the 2nd infusion I got today but it was easy and I've been good since then. Unfortunately due to these steroids I can't rest though I'm tired.



    The Neulasta was fine. Remember

    if you feel aches take ibuprofen.

    This morning I took an Aleve before the shot and a Claritin. Also took Pepcid AC which is controlling the heatburn. So I'll start out tomorrow with a Claritin, Aleve and Pepcid along with the steroid, the Zofran and the Ativan.



    Welcome sgyukon, I plan definitely doing both as they seem to help. Lighthouse, the Neulasta is a small needle and syringe that goes in the back of your arm so no worries about the port.



    Man I hope I can sleep tonight w all these steroids. I take an Ambien too. Wait and see I guess. Well it's off to the store to get a scientific calculator for the 7th grader.



    Regarding head shaving, I had to shave it by day 16 or so since it was coming out in huge chunks and looked awful. Turns out I still have a lot of very short hair that will probably be all gone near the end of the cycle.

  • lighthouselady
    lighthouselady Member Posts: 752
    edited August 2013

    OMG! I need to vent! My MO's office just called to confirm that I am on the schedule for Thursday chemo. I went through my list of questions to see if she could answer them (most she couldn't... said to ask at my chemo class tomorrow). One of them was how long my premeds would be, since I'm going to use cold caps and have to wear them for 50 minutes before actual chemo drugs start, then it's just up to us to time changing them out the rest of the time. She started laughing and said, "I'm thinking it would just be easier to lose your hair." Seriously?!?!? You work for an oncologist and you say something like this to a cancer patient? She may not approve of cold caps or think they are a quack or whatever, but it's MY business that I am going to try them. Holy cow I am so mad. Hubby says maybe she was just trying to keep it light and be funny, but no. She was seriously amused and pretty much making fun of me that I'm thinking the cold caps will work.

    Normally I'm not a quick on my feet thinker, but I immediately responded with, "Ok, how about you lose your hair and I'll keep mine?" Would she still be laughing if SHE was going to be bald in two weeks?

    I'm trying to stay mad so I don't cry. I hate this whole thing so much.

  • gavinsgrandma
    gavinsgrandma Member Posts: 407
    edited August 2013

    Welcome sgyukon, I had my 1st infusion on 8/15 as well and I will have 2nd one this Thursday, I will try the Claritin this time, hard for me to tell due to my shingles flairing up but MO okay'd it if I wanted to take it so I will see if it helps, also no hair loss yet but I do expect it after Thursday.

    Lisasp, I hope you have minimal SE'S and I give you ladies that have children at home a lot of credit, this is not an easy thing to go through in and of itself.

    Lighthouse, praying for good results on your PET, the waiting is the hardest!!!!!! I hope by now you might know when you get to start treatment.

    For all of us having treatment Thursday remember to start really hydrating good now, it really helps and to anyone I missed having treatment tis week, good luck and wishing minimal SE'S



    Shary🍁

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  • raynaj
    raynaj Member Posts: 236
    edited August 2013

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY HVV: I'm sorry you had such a bad time this last time, I will pray that you have a better time with SE's with the next infusion.



    As Naan1004 said above to take your anti nausea pills from the day before regularly for the whole time, once you are sick it can't catch up easily, I was instructed to take them regularly whether I was nauseous or not and I haven't been nauseous or vomitted once since this started. Don't know how long yours lasted but I know that you were sick in the beginning.



    Love, Rayna

  • raynaj
    raynaj Member Posts: 236
    edited August 2013

    Hockeymommy and Batcatlady: You both have your 1st TX on Thursday, wishing you both luck and will say a prayer that you both do well.



    Make absolutely sure to start the water consumption on Weds, I drank 3 - 4 litres of water a day until Day 5 and I think it really helped, Well lets just say that I'm not going to drink none just to find out what would have happened! LOL

    Also, take your anti=nausea and heartburn pills regularly and dont stop them because you feel you are doing better. Once the symptoms start its hard to get a handle on them.



    Good Luck and let us know how you both make out.

    Love, Rayna

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