The Hermit Club
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Yea Lori! WooHoo!
DD is a teacher, school started yesterday here. I know she's pooped. I worked in our district for over 23 years, food service and bus driver. The first week is hard on everybody. Glad to be retired, don't miss it. -
camillegal,
Right!
However, health insurance did cover some of the expense for me in the Clinical Trial.
Example: infusion room.
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OK teka than Lori got to watch her billing--we get so much billing it's sometimes hard to keep up with.
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I insisted on a cancer center case worker being a buffer for me with cancer center, hospital & health insurance during the Clinical Trial.
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CCFW,
I even had cancer center & hospital give me a copy of all paperwork showing what health insurance was billed & had paid.
I wanted to be sure that health insurance hadn't been billed or paid for Avastin.
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I never knew this stuff--I was originally asked to be in a trial at first, but then they said I wasn't eligible so I really never asked anything about it so I didn't know. Wow u have to be careful about everything. Too much stress.
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My understanding is that if you agree to a trial of any sort, there is NO cost to you or your insurance or any other form of financial obligation. You are basically doing them a favor by agreeing to be a part. No cost to you. period.
Yes, I teach. First day was Monday. Today, I was told at lunch to pack up all my books, binders, everything, remove every item from my bookcases, clear out... They are putting in new carpeting. (I have informed them of a mold issue for months and months. And second day of school, they act.) My room has thousands of books, so I am exhausted... much less having to teach with no supplies in a "foreign" room until given the green light to return. soooo tired. The custodial staff stayed late with me, and my things are now all over the building... stored in lost and found, the computer lab, every nook they could use. I hope I get my file cabinets back! sigh. Off to collapse, then get ready for day 3 of students. Tomorrow will be a challenge.
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Skittle,
I had to sign paperwork at the cancer center to get in the Clinical Trial.
Maybe a free lunch, but one whopper of a tip!
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Oh, sweet Teka. I didn't mean free of woe or free of ouch. I just hope no one is paying to take part in something like clinical trials. I know I'm a guinea pig and have to pay for surgeries and such, but the "cutting edge" (no pun intended) technologies have to have "pioneers" as my bs says... I hope no one took offense at free. No disrespect meant toward anyone brave enough to accept those options. Hugs...
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Skittle that's the stupidest thig I ever heard, they had summer to take care of this--Oh I know they disn't hire anyone to do all this work of moving everything (school budget) so they wait and everyone has to do all the work cuz they'd be there anyway. I bet. U poor thing--It's hard enough to start back without all this confusion. Geeze---U rest well
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Skittle,
Maybe a free lunch (Avastin), but one whopper of a tip (health insurance paid for infusion room).
If I had been self pay, big bucks!
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Good Morning,
No I don't think Laurie has posted recently...she is the one who had the nerve damage from an i.v right? I have a hard keeping some people straight. But seems like I have missed some posts, as the case with Lilly.
I am feeling good cami, thanks for asking. The past seven days has been busy with going to iowa and all, so dh goes back to work tonight. I am looking forward to some alone time. He is so type A...go go go....I just want to putter around with my art project and catch up on some calls.
Thanks Teka and C.C for for the advice, I will most certainly watch the billing. I don't know how wide spread this vaccination is. I am sure they are doing it everywhere else right? Or maybe my cancer center want to be know as the inovaters of cancer prevention?? Wonder about the politics of things.
SKittle ..wtf...god what a bunch of Ka Ka. I hope you just relax tonight, take some slow deep breaths, and enjoy the last days of summer. Its too bad they had to dump this on you...besides that mold should of been taken care of from the get go, when you complained. Take Care Hermits.....Hugs to you...
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I read that she posted somewhere...
Hermitting.....was supposed to go out but not much gas....so will stay in and don't have to go out til Friday...apparently the DD's are supposedly taking me out for dinner, I think something is going on, like they are having a 60th bd party for me, this is my week off....anyway...
how is everybody?
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Lori I'm glad u'r getting some alone time--it's needed sometime -I personally like it alot but I do go out when I want so it's all right.
Blondie that's so funny--u'd better act suprised now===Oh u'r still a young un. I hope u'r feeling better.And feeling extra good Friday.
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markat & LaurieParr, haven't been on-line in over 2 weeks.
I hope enjoying the end of Summer!
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August18th, I stopped reading posts on the "Active Topics" threads. Way to much drama!
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Hi hermits- I realized yesterday after a week of being back to work on my consulting contract that I feel like I never went on vacation! One of my yoga teachers did say this week she thought I had a hawaiin glow though.....
Went to see the gyn this week and most everything okay. Next is the mammo on 9/3 which I am getting nervous about. Fingers crossed.
Some interesting things here about a clinical vaccine. I thought to myself when I read it "wouldn't it be wonderful if women could get a vaccine to prevent this problem?" Like so many other terrible diseases through history? And I think some good advice here to be careful about the $$$ around this though, along with our general medical care. We all have stories of things we were told that would be paid for that were not.
Lori- you sound better this week and hope you are enjoying your hermit time at home.
Skittle-what a drag about the rugs, they should have done that over the summer as Cami says.
Blondie- you are having a milestone birthday! I hope you have a really great dinner/celebration out!
Teka- what is in your garden late summer?
Cami- glad you like the funny pics I find for you all!
I know Laurie is going through radiation therapy right now and no doubt pretty exhausted from that so we hope you are dong okay Laurie. Try to get lots of rest. I hope your daughter is doing okay, tough pregnancy for her.
To all the rest, hope you are doing okay with whatever you are doing this week!
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Just woke up-way to early--so this is my first Good Morning.
It's funny how we miss people we know they have lives, but u can't help but hoping everything is going OK. Jazzy u must be exhausted a vacation is rough to come ack from and then go to work. Well It's Friday Eve so that helps.
OK I'll be back--enjoy resting everyone.
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Just a little something to have with u;r coffee
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Gawwjus
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Is that a younger George?
Cute kitty!!
Coffee time!!
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Cami- now why didn't I see THAT wash up on the beach in Hawaii? LOL!
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Looking for advice from all current or past hermits - here's my story. I work with special education students in a high school. I have been off work since my surgery in December. (Finished rads just a few weeks before school ended, and just decided to take the remainder of the year off, to heal physically and emotionally.). I just had exchange surgery and fat grafting two weeks ago. I am still very fatigued and sore. Could care less if I leave the house or get of of my recliner, but I still do a lot of running around with my two preteens. Tiring!
I do NOT want to go back to work. It is already causing me stress ( it is a high stress position, with little pay anyway, but cancer bills are piled sky high.). Everyone thinks I am the same person who left, that I had a wonderful long time off, that cancer is over and I should move on. Ugh. I am not ready to move on. I am dealing now that exchange surgery is done with all the feelings I kept bottled up. Pissed off about losing a year of my life, pissed that other people's lives seem so care ( and pain) free. Etc. I do not want to leave the safety of my home. Don't know how to be "super mom" again with school starting.
How did all of you handle this? Tips? I am scared. I am tired. I am not coping well. Sigh. Where do I find the strong woman I once was? Is she still here? -
Bayoubabe- sorry to hear of your difficult journey. First of all, I am glad you were able to take off a good amount of time to get through your treatment and recovery. But it sounds like you are still healing from some recent procedures and not back to where you were, and now dealing with the "new normal."
Maybe the work you do is too stressful to consider anymore. We are different after all we go through physically, emotionally, etc. It is clear you have bills to pay from treatment (have you looked into setting up payment plans to ease the financial pressures?) One thought is, can you find some different kind of work that is part time? I was able to go back to my work (consulting self employment) but had to work PT for three months to ease into it. It may not be that working is out of the question, but the job you have been doing is?
I am sorry your community sees your time off as something pleasant, and that you should be all better. We all have commented here on this thread about family, spouses, friends, co workers, etc. who are not very empathetic about our situation. Some folks here have shared their process with many, others of us with just a handful of folks. Yet we have all felt dinged, stunned, or otherwise dismissed at times by others who cannot deal with the word "cancer." Unfortunately, we can't make people get it, but we can open ourselves to being around kind and understanding people who truely care about us, won't judge us, or push us, or make us be something for them to be okay with where we have been. I suggest you look around to see who those people are and spend your time with them.
Please remain here to share with us as it is a lovely group of women who are kind and respectful of one another and try to help. We are glad you found us!
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BayouBabe,
Welcome!
I am now 3.7 years out from diagnosis & 2.5 years out from last treament, but only during these last 4 months starting to feel like old self.
Again Welcome, to "The Hermit Club" thread.
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Teka- good perspective. It takes a long time to recover from everything.
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Thank you both! I know I will get through this, just tired of having to get through things, which I'm sure you both get. A new job is definitely in order, but will take my time figuring out just what I want to do.
I did something today that is totally out of the box for me, just to let myself celebrate getting this far. Others will look at it strangely, but maybe that is what I wanted, not quite sure yet. Just went and got my hair colored for the very first time ever, however, I wanted to celebrate being a warrior. Thus, my hair is now a very pretty shade of purple! So not me, but I am loving it. Not sure what my principals will think next week, but the kids will love it. Maybe I am crazy on this end of things! Midlife crisis/cancer crisis? Either way - fun!
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