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Jenny98223
Jenny98223 Member Posts: 13
edited July 2014 in Just Diagnosed

Im 58 and I was diagnosed two weeks ago with bc. I think I may still be in denial about it.  Ive told my family and my friends its nothing and the docs will remove it and I will go thru radiation and it will be over. Im reading that it may not be that easy. There has never been breast cancer in my family anywhere. I just dont get it. Best of luck to all of you that have bc, my prayers are with you.

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  • ckmoss
    ckmoss Member Posts: 613
    edited August 2013

    Jenny- I was the exact same way. Except not only denial ..I felt ANGRY.  I am in a good part of my life..good job, husband, home, etc..I was like..."I'm going to do what the Dr says but other than that, I am going to basically ignore this ..get done..and be back to my life"...HAH...!.. The Cancer beast laughed then slapped me down!...I did lumpectomy..only to find all the margins weren't clear..had to go back and do MX..had issues with that..am finally into chemo.  You will go through so many emotions..and I think the best one is acceptance as the others just make you cry.  My advice is to read as much as you can..and don't skip ahead to say like..chemo or radiation..its too much to take in..just concentrate on educating yourself on all you can about whatever treatment they are talking about now.  My mistake (granted, it all happened so fast)..was not slowing for a bit and finding out info on everything.  Honestly, the best info I have found is reading through posts on this website.  I settled into Surgeries-before , during and after..with the month I was having it..That was sooo helpful..you had ladies going through it with you and you can complain, pout, whine, inspire (for those coming behind you in the month) and laugh..we joked about different parts, that would normally be awful.  There are about 14 of us that are very close and have moved onto a group in facebook..and I wouldn't trade anything for the bond I have with these ladies.  When I first was diagnosed, my breast advocate said I would need a support group..at which I scoffed to myself...believe me, you will need it.  It helps too your family..as they go through stress with you..and it takes some of that off them.  Good luck to you!  Healing hugs your way!!

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  • RMlulu
    RMlulu Member Posts: 1,989
    edited August 2013

    Jenny - welcome, glad you found this site, but oh so sorry that you must join us here...ugh c:(



    It is overwhelming at first all the emotions and waiting and decisions, but breathe.

    You will be fine and we will be here for you. Do not get ahead of yourself...stay focus on today! No need to rehearse something you may never need to do...today...grateful for today:)



    Stay here...no Mr Goggle...read understanding your diagnosis and questions to ask your Dr

    Update your profile the best you can from your path report...it will help others come along side you.



    Set up a BC file, find an appointment buddy to be your ears and support, make 3 copies of your questions (1 BS, 1 AB, and 1 for you), at each appt or dr office write down the names of staff ...helps so much. Waiting is the hardest...just sort of in limbo, but use it to your advantage. Choose the best BC team, check out services at your BC center, find a support group and then go blow bubbles, hug family, LOL! I recorded a short 20 sec video clip of my with 22 mo GS giggling...luv to hear that giggle:)



    Sending calm confident thoughts and prayers

    You will be fine brave warrior

    (((Hugs)))

    Cindy

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  • Jenny98223
    Jenny98223 Member Posts: 13
    edited August 2013

    Thanks ladies. I am looking forward to being here to find the support I will need, those that will understand.  I have 4 special friends that will be with me thru this physically. I finally have a man walk into my life that doesnt want to be anywhere but with me and now this.   He is so loving and caring and compassionate and supportive and has vowed to be at my side thru it all. Im not sure its fair to him but at least thats a choice I dont have to make. I should be meeting with my team in the next week or so to know what the plan is. Right now Im waiting for my phone to ring and its not.  I feel pretty aggravated. I think this all hit me this morning and now i want things to get moving and to get this out of me. Thank you all for the hugs.

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  • denise4603
    denise4603 Member Posts: 132
    edited August 2013

    Hi Jenny,

    I am 55 and received just about the same diagnosis as you at almost the exact same time.  Hope we can support eachother through all that is to come. Good luck.

    Denise4603

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  • KBeee
    KBeee Member Posts: 5,109
    edited August 2013

    just diagnosed today...did not know my username was so close to someone else's. A lot to take in. I was frustrated trying to get doctor's appointment, but once that was done, I felt a little better about it. A very good friend of mine went through this a year ago, so I am glad to have her expertise on what to expect. For now, I am just trying to keep my head up, keep a good attitude, and take each hurdle as it comes. We will all be here for each other and I am so thankful to have a place to vent with people who understand. I have another friend...wife of a coworker...who was diagnosed 3 days before me...just found out.



    one day in this journey down, many more to come....

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  • msphil
    msphil Member Posts: 1,536
    edited August 2013

    I too went thru a roller coaster of emotions as I believe we here all, I didn,t have a history of breast cancer in my family either,I was in the process of making wedding plans when I was diagnosed at 42, my second marriage to this wonderful man who stuck by me thru it all, I didn,t want a mast. had option of lumpectomy, But I wanted to go into this marriage with both breast,But my docs and Fiancee at the time suggested the mastectomy, so I didn,t have to go back and (Praise God) I am now a 19 yr Survivor), so when all treatments are in place things will settled down we are here for you and All of US are daily in my prayers. msphil(idc, stage2, 3 nodes, L mast, chemo and rads and 5yr on Tamoxifen)

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  • Jo6202
    Jo6202 Member Posts: 372
    edited August 2013

    Hi Jenny,

    I just received the bad news on August 8th. I am not sleeping and found this site. I go tomorrow to meet with a surgeon who will go over my biopsy report so I am just starting this journey too. I am 63 years old and just told our five adult children and my extended family and two close friends. Thought I was being very brave until my sister-in-law who has been through this said " it is ok to cry". Well that opened the flood gates!



    Good luck on your journey. I will post more as I learn more about my bc.

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  • dlm425
    dlm425 Member Posts: 209
    edited August 2013

    Still numb omg I'm numb and have 3 poisons left. I am 47....2 beautiful girls 17 and 20 my husband passed from leukemia 11 years ago and still cant believe it'd my turn to suffer from this disease but Ladies you will get through this its only temporary and sucky journey what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!!!!! Prayers for strength

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  • dlm425
    dlm425 Member Posts: 209
    edited July 2014

    ok ladies here goes I'm just about a year and a half since diagnoses and IT SUCKS FROM THE START BUT I WILL TELL YOU IS THERE IS A KIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL I finished chemo Sept 12 and took off my wig at work end of January with a short hair cut THAT IS THE WORSE PART LOSING MY HAIR EYEBROW AND EYELASHES BUT ALL IS BACK HAD 4 surgeries and just had my last July 7 2014 

    ALL IS WELL AND IM STARTING TO FEEL MYSELF LONG JOURNEY TO TRAVEL BUT I DID IT

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  • Redheaded1
    Redheaded1 Member Posts: 1,600
    edited July 2014

     DLM-isn't it amazing what we can go thru when we have not much choice?  I was diagnosed in Jan, had surgery Feb, started Rads in

    April (day after my 57 birthday) and am now on my 2nd bottle of Anastrazole.   Still worry about every little twinge, or change in EVERYTHING to do with my body.  My MO says it will take at least a year before I believe that the cancer is gone........So we  just keep plugging along and believe the worst is behind us.  (((Hugs and HIGH 5's)))

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  • bluepearl
    bluepearl Member Posts: 961
    edited July 2014

    I have had two bouts with breast cancer bit fortunately, not very advanced disease. The second time around I was less shell=shocked I guess because I knew the routine and also knew the second cancer was smaller than the first.  I also found out that worrying doesn't change a thing...it robs us of our good moments! Everyone here has good prognostic factors and wish everyone well and be HAPPY!!!!

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