what's the best thing people have said to you?

@ new_direction:

That IS great. That's the kind of stuff I like to hear.

As I drove to the hospital for lumpectomy, the song playing on the radio was a song that I haven't heard in decades. It was GHOSTBUSTERS! As petrified as I was, I burst out laughing uncontrollably. I went into surgery singing I AIN'T FRAID OF NO GHOST!! Lololol. It's my new theme song.

I have had several dreams over the last few years, before my wife's diagnosis that had me waking up in a sweat.



In the dreams, I wasn't with my wife. Either I had never met her, or it didn't work out.



Each time I was devastated... only to be relieved it was just a dream. I once asked my wife if she thought she married the right man. Her reply: "How could you ever wonder that. Look at our girls".



Then came the diagnosis.



I began thinking that maybe the dreams of being without my wife were a premonition that I would lose her.



I have had some recurring dreams about places I never saw----only to see them later. Years later. Since this began happening, i have wondered if some of my more intense dreams had true meaning. But that's another conversation.



After wondering if my dreams meant I would lose my wife, I had another dream: I was standing near a figure atop a mount. I did not know if this was a man or spirit----but it silently looked out over a mass of people below where we were. I just stared at it. I could not recognize the face. He turned to me slowly and looked right into my face and he said only this: "She is NOT leaving you".



Then I woke.

That's great, SaturnRing! I love the positivity.

I am humbled and somewhat embarrassed by a very kind person who wrote a wonderful thing to me the other day. I do not feel much like a superstar, rather I am at a loss that there is not more I can do to ensure my family's safety. But I DO love the positivity of the message:





" I'm thinking your wife was treated with the very best in medical advances, has a superstar husband, and with that type of treatment and love, she will experience a very long healthy life!"

I had my tile floor repaired a few days ago. The lady who came wAs Spanish ( glad to see a women doing a labor job $$) I told her about my cancer and before she left she asked to say a pray for me. I said yes and she held her hand and I put mine in hers. We closed eyes and she said the pray in Spanish. I felt calm holding this strangers hands. When it was over and I opened my eyes there were tears in her eyes.... I was moved!

Two weeks ago I missed Wednsday night Bible Study at my church. I rarely miss. The next day 2 different people called to tell me, that the speaker that night had mentioned me by name. She talked about my great faith. She said, I may mention what the doctors have said, but I never own the cancer.



That really blessed me. From the beginning of dx I asked people to pray that I be a blessing to others and that I glorify God.



Paula

"You've come through an awful experience.  Now... NOW... is not the time to be afraid to live."



A friend from these boards told me the above. I like the idea that we've 'come through'.

rubylily2-I sooo agree!  I feel some treat me with kid gloves and are well meaning but...one of my co-workers said I was "wonder woman". I said no, I am not wonder woman, I am just me!  I really want ME back.

I just delivered the toast as we celebrated my parents' 50th wedding anniversary this weekend and a friend said to me: "we will be doing this for YOU in 40 years".

Colt, I love it! Thanks for sharing.

Paula

i had cancer it was past .its is a big difference its not the something i am carrying around its not my identity.i do need to correct people sometimes

My hematologist told me that my breast cancer chemotherapy has put my blood cancer into remission!

The other "best thing" said recently was by my own words, as I handed over a bag containing my wig, prosthetic and a bunch of mastectomy bras ... "I've finished with these" ...... I paused, then said, with a sense of wonder that it was the first time I had remotely felt like this: I'VE FINISHED WITH BREAST CANCER!!!

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