1 Positive Node, Mastectomy...did you do Rads?
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Hi Colt45,
I'm so sorry you had such a dreadful experience. I had multicentric breast cancer, and they didn't even know I had three large tumors until I had the mastectomy. I agree that it was probably best that your wife did the mastectomy instead of lumpectomy due to the fact that her cancer was multifocal. As for the rads, did they give you a timetable of when it would need to begin? They didn't want me to wait long after chemo before having mine. I also did not have my axilla radiated as I had no LVI - a complete miracle with the size of my three tumors. I also had two rad onc consults and both recommended rads. I hope you can come to a decision that you feel confident about. I am praying for you and your dear wife. -
Goodness, Colt, what a bummer of an experience! I guess if one good thing came out of it, it's that you know for sure which RO you will NOT be using or recommending!
I think I would seek another opinion if I were you. In my case I had 3 positive nodes plus one more with some micro cells. So rads were recommended even though I had the MX. I researched it and was comfortable with it in the end. If there had been only one positive node, it would have been a tougher decision.
On the one hand, if you want to feel like you did every possible thing to kick cancer's butt right now, then do it. I'm almost done with rads now and it has been much easier than chemo. But on the other hand, if you are told that it would only give a tiny % difference, maybe it's not worth the risk. One consideration is that you can radiate a part of the body only once. So if you did it now and the cancer still somehow came back later anyway, that option would not be possible. -
I had bilat BC. On my node negative side, I had LVI. There was no consensus when my case went to the tumor board. My RO said, his colleague "the guy from Harvard, thinks it's a good idea" to radiate that side (half joking). So my RO(from UCLA) gave me the pros/cons & i decided to go along with the idea. Partially because I finally found a doctor I liked(not the best reason). I was going to be getting RADs to the other side anyway & it could be done at the same time(not a good reason). Like you & your wife, I was exhausted with all the decision making. That being said, I don't regret having RADs. My LVI side is problem free post RADs. Having some minor issues on my node positive side.
I did doctor shoppng throughout my treatment planning & there was never any consensus. Mastectomy vs Lumpectomy, ALND or no ALND, chemo or no chemo, RADs or no RADs. Now i'm just stuck on Tamoxifen with a MO that I'm not entirely happy with. Just don't want to shop around for another. Just need him to write my perscription, right? Only for 5yrs, right?
Hope you come to a decision soon. I was so glad to be done with active treatment.
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Colt,
I realize you have probably made a decision by now but just in case you are still looking for another RO opinion I highly recommend dr Alison grann at St Barnabus. I had 3 RO opinions and decided to go with her. I've given you my story on choosing radiation before so won't rehash it. But I did want to let you know that I am now 7 months out from radiation and am quite happy with the cosmetic results. I just had my tattooing done and they look good. And my PS commented that he couldn't tell which side had been radiated and which hasn't just by looking. He is usually a Debbie downer so this was as high a compliment as he gives I think
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My story is a little different because I did the exchange to implants before radiation (Sloan Kettering seems to be doing it this was now too) but my skin has healed very well.
Best of luck whatever you decided!
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Hi,
I had a double mastectomy with tissue expanders put in during surgery.
I had one positive lymph node and the rest were negative ( Thank God) , I just went to see my oncologist for the first time this week, My surgery was done on April 23, 2013 .
He recommended for me no radiation, I have to get chemo
My treatment will begin June 3rd, it consists as follows for me:
15 Minutes IV chemo treatment in his office 2 times a month for 6 months , total of 12 treatments, including a pill to take in between the IV treatments. Just in case a few cells are roaming around my body in which he droughts very much , he is doing this for precaution due to one positive lymph node, no radiation, he said that can react against my heart or my lungs.(due to previous ablation and asthma in which I have) Then after 6 months he is Putting me on Tomoxifin for 5 to 10 years, I think I spelt the Med correctly. So by January my expanders can come out, if I don't flip by then with this pressure caused by the expanders..... But seek out advice from at least 2 oncologists due to the fact that she had one positive lymph node. That can be a bit scary, you do not want any cancer roaming around her. But my Dr.s all say not to worry they caught it on TIME. One node is not terrible it was only the beginning stage so she will be fine , we just have to get through all of this. Also the chemo he is putting me on is a very light dose , I will NOT lose my HAIR, so ask your Dr. To see if they can give your wife something similar so she doesn't lose her hair us women do not want to lose it, also it shouldn't give me to much nausea, it is a light dose, if it does there are Meds he can give me to off set the nausea. So good luck and ask questions it doesn't hurt to ask. Lots of luck to your wife, she will be fine, we need to think POSITIVE.
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I have to do radiotherapy, my first session is tomorrow, the dry run, measurement appointment. I had about 2cms all up of cancer, both invasive and cribriform, but the invasive part is tubular, which has a low recurrence rate, so maybe I don't need radiotherapy and I am just being lumped in with everyone that has a lumpectomy . . . sounds really horrible having not seen laid eyes on a machine at this moment, but I will have by tomorrow night.
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Hi I am an Aussie girl diag almost 5 years ago I had a bi-lat mastectomy as I had grad 3,1/2cm idc on left side and DCIS on right side. It went really well and I waited 18 months to have expanders and then implants put in. I am glad I didn't have to have rads as I have heard of so many women with terrible side effects also I have very little breast tissue left so more peace of mind no mamagrams good luck Delvzy Aust
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I'm starting ac for 4 than T for 4 treatments how did everyone do? I have 4 days left till treatment:(
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I wanted to thank all of the women who responded since my last entry (prior to these last 2).
You are wonderful human beings and beautiful ladies. Rocket, Jennie93, coraleliz, Doreen12, Delvzy and Rose d.... bless you all.
I was taking good advice---make your decision and don't look back... so I haven't been back.... but I got a PM from a woman who was looking for help, so I bumped this thread for her.
For the record, my wife opted against doing rads. I support her 100%. She decided to go with the doctors who took the time to know her case best----which are also the doctors she trusts most. The explained benefit of doing the rads IN HER SPECIFIC CASE as explained to us by her most trusted team members was not worth the risk(s) to her.
I hope we all made the best decision for our specific, individual cases. God bless you all. -
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Thanks so much for bumping me this thread. Has been informative and helpful reading. I have researched this thing to death and it appears that I am under the line (just under it with lump size) for every reason they could say the def recomend. I am going to take your advice and talk to a rad onc..however, my town..not small and considered a city..is some behind times..did not know what cold caps or icing was. My oncologist is from Sloan Kettering, and is all for radiation, but debated a bit with him..to the point we were like well thats a bit off. So thanks for the advice and will speak with rad onc..its good to know that they are not all about it..so to speak. Oh..my surgeon said he didn't see the point..but he did say he wasn't looking at it as a oncologist just from what he had seen in his years as surgeon. Anyway, one mans opinion.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wifes..also, with the ladies in this thread. Thanks so much!
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Colt, I am glad that you and your dear wife feel at peace about your decision. There will always be pros and cons either way. I pray that your wife will experience complete healing both physically and emotionally. The whole BC experience is exhausting. Even three years later, I still struggle emotionally and physically with the effects of treatments. May God give you His continual mercy and grace.
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Rocket, you're one of the many incredible ladies here. Thank you for your support.
CKMoss: I hope you have made the best decision for you and have a completely successful outcome no matter what you choose. I believe you will be ok! -
Colt, I feel it's safe to say that many on various threads think you are an awesome husband. I am also married to a very caring husband. He has stayed beside me throughout this ordeal, offering support, prayer, comfort, and holding me when I cry. He has remained steadfast, like you. Blessings to you and your dear wife.
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hi colt , i had 1 node with a little in it , they took 12 out and i had a double mast , ,i take tamoxifen a hormonal drug everyday and dr says im 96% everyone is differnt so just see what the onocologest says those radition dr are all about giving radiation so , hang in ther i will pray for your wife , lara
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So no rads for you, laralee67?
I just wanted to confirm.
Prayers to you, too. -
Rocket,
You're so kind. You deserve the most loving support.
Thank you. -
44 yo. Stage 2b, grade 3 one node:
BMX, lost 14 nodes and chemo, no rads.
Onc felt tx sufficent however I am having oophrectomy 9/23
Best to you and wife
Edited to add I take Tamoxifen
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