How does one cope?

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brightestday
brightestday Member Posts: 19

Hello Everyone,

My mother who has terminal stage 4 breast cancer, does not have much time left on this earth.Seeing her suffer is tearing me apart.

Right now, a torrent of emotions and "what-ifs" go through me day in and day out. I know that my heart is completely broken.

How does one cope with the death of a family member? What is it like to live with such a reality?

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  • Nel138281
    Nel138281 Member Posts: 2,124
    edited June 2013

    brightestday,

    I am sorry to hear about your Mother.  Both of my parents have passed, tho neither from cancer.  I don't think it matters how they go, it is very difficult to watch.  Are you working with hospice?  They should be able to help your mother not suffer and support you and other family members.    There is no good way thru or around the death of a parent.  Say what you have to say, spend the time you want to with her.  Make sure you have no regrets about how you supported her during this time.  And take care of yourself.  Wehn they are gone it is so very difficult, more so at first, but hopefully you will have many good memories from earlier years.   That is what will get you thru. 

    Be well

    Nel

  • brightestday
    brightestday Member Posts: 19
    edited June 2013

    Thank you, Nel.

    I guess one day at a time. Its a brutal fact of our daily lives and we see it on the news everyday, but never really think about it, until it happens to one of us.

  • Fifi834
    Fifi834 Member Posts: 9
    edited June 2013

    Hi and I am so sorry about your mother. I feel your pain, because I'm going through the same situation. It is so difficult to watch my mom like this. Growing up, I think we all know that we will have to deal with our parents' passing, but there's no way to know what it is like until you are thrown into the reality of it. I don't want to remember my mom like she is now. She is feeble, mentally confused and frail - total opposite of what she was like before she got sick.



    It is not easy, I know. Hang in there ... thinking of you.

  • brightestday
    brightestday Member Posts: 19
    edited July 2013

    Thank you Fifi. They say, misery loves company. But I would not wish this misery on anyone. Likewise, thinking of you fifi.

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