Rib and Collar Bone tenderness

Thank you for your reply...I know, sometimes I worry sick over nothing and I know that everyone's side effects are different, but I'm sure as you know this whole journey is one big scary rollercoaster. Despite all my fears I really try holding it together for my mom and I always try to think positive. Some days are just harder than others. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. Xo

Aw thank you. My mom also had 7 positive nodes like you did.

Thank you Fran. My mom has made some changes to her life style. Before she was diagnosed she always ate well, she bought most of our foods organic, she exercised....she was otherwise healthy and always kept on top of her doctors appointments and physicals...so that's what is a little frustrating. You do everything you're supposed to do and then you still get hit with something like this. However now, she's doing everything she was doing before, just a little more vitamin D is so important, her and I both take it daily and her doctor told us that that's something that helps with preventing breast cancer.



I know it's okay to be scared, if I wasn't scared that probably would not be normal. Maybe part of why I am feeling this way is because her treatment is now coming to an end? How did your DD handle your diagnosis and how is she now?

Sandiddstn, Thank you so much for your reply, it brought tears to my eyes. It helps so much to talk to people who have been through this because I don't feel alone. This is the scariest and most difficult thing I have ever been through but no matter what I will be there for my mom forever. She's my best friend and I will do anything to help her and make her feel better, I just wish I can take this all away frm her but obviously I can't. I am the type of person who likes to be in control, so the fact that I don't have control over this is what I am having trouble with. I'm glad it's normal for the collar bone to feel bruised or tender during rads. It's weird because the area that hurts my mom is more red and almost has a brown undertone to it? Like when you look at her you notice it and it looks like a brown/red spot on her collar bone and that's the tender area. I hope you are doing well now. I notice that you had the same number of nodes positive as my mom did. How is your daughter now? Have things gotten a little better now? I'm sure the pain and fear never completely goes away I just hope in time it gets a little better with time. Xoxo

Thank you jennyboog...all the best to you

Thank you Racy. I have been talking to a counsellor and it has been helping, I can't imagine how I would feel if I was not talking to somebody, however I just feel that unless somebody has experienced this its hard for them to understand your fear and how you're feeling completely. Talking to somebody has been helping though, but I think since her treatment is coming to an end every little pain or weird feeling is scary. I hope that gets a little easier over time...all the best to you!

Today was a little bit of a better day actually. I am thinking a little more logically I think lol. My mom is super burned from rads, today seemed to really do her in and that spot in her collar bone is 10x darker than what it was a few days ago. Its the darkest spot in the whoe area being radiated, you could notice it from a far distance! It's raw, itchy, dry, burned....all that crap lol, it only makes sene that she is sensitive there. She said its the most painful part out of everywhere being radiated, and her underarm of course. I'm so happy you're dancing with NED and I hope you dance with NED forever I'm glad your DD is doing a little better now I finished college (for now) and I honestly can't even begin to imagine what it would of been like had she got diagnosed while I was in school! I would not have been able to finish, in a way sometimes I think it happened for a reason since she got diagnosed a few months after I finished. However, had she been diagnosed while I was in school this stupid thing would have been found a little earlier oh well, I guess we will never know and there's nothing we can do. I'm working now but took some time off at the beginning and I'm fortunate enough that they let me take off any days I need to go to appointments with her. My mom has been resting since she is so tired from rads...I just hope soon enough things get back to normal, and I guess it's normal to panic over every little pain at the beginning?



Jessica

Thank you for your kind words Racy. You know, as horrible as this has been and I never want to go through this again because it really sucks, cancer has brought many positive things to our lives. It's very strange. I mean I was happy with my life before lol and I don't think we needed this but there has been many great things that have come out of it. I already feel stronger as a person, and I didn't think my mom and I could get any closer than we were before but this has definitely made us have an even more special bond. She's my best friend and I don't know what I would do with out her. So looking at it in a positive way it's done some great things, but I think we all could have done with out it haha. I'm sure you understand where I am coming from.

Oh wow thank you so much! Couldn't find many women who have also experienced this and I have been petrified, so thank you for replying to me that's so wonderful that you're 7 years out!!! I love hearing those stories thank you again