not sure about dating

S H,

Wow! Finally someone mentions the lack of hair. Due to an oopherectomy at 40 I lost my hair and most of my labias when I was about your age. I remember feeling naked down there and finally taking a mirror to check. Was I ever surprised...  I started on Vagifem which helped me feel better, but no visual change.

I'm 63 and just before my diagnosis last year I thought about dating again. I went to my GP (A Woman) and asked her how unusual I was for my age. I could tell she was lying when she said I was just about normal. God/dess bless her. Now between Arimidex and arthritis, even thinking about sex hurts :>0.   I would love to have a very close companion though. I hope you don't give up at your age.

Hi all,

I'm having the same issues: double mastectomy in February, still going through chemo with no hair (yes, the flooring matches the ceiling - no carpet...), am 53yo, and single after my partner of 27 years left in '05. I've had a few short-term relationships since the break up, but none have worked out, and it's been very hard to meet single women my age no matter what the circumstances. Not to add this into the mix... I've chosen to not even try to date while I'm going through treatment, just no energy to give to meeting someone new at this point. I'm sure I will be very upfront and open with whoever I do date, if and when that happens. Reconstruction wasn't an option for me, and I have a friend who lived with a double with nothing for 9 years and finally opted for reconstruction because she wasn't happy with nothing, so I'm going with implants once I finish up with all my chemo. I don't know what that's going to be like - the expanders that I have in now are very hard and stiff and uncomfortable. I'm told the implants are much softer and more realistic, and not uncomfortable - I sure hope so! Anyway, I've been nervous about dating anyway, and now I'm doubly so. It's helpful to talk about it here - I appreciate this forum! Thanks ladies!