April 2013 Chemo Group
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OnaWing - looks like we're both pulling all nighters, although for EDT you're morning paper might be there already. We're still at 4:30am here. Sorry to hear of all your SEs. I'm on carboplatin instead of cytoxan, but YES i think the extra saline makes a huge difference.
I ask my MO for extra for tx#2 and got 1000ml. Ask him for extra again for #3 and got 1000ml through out the day mixed between the chemo drugs and an extra 1000 ml at the end. My tx#4 is next week also. And I'm going to make sure I have that extra fluid again. I went in for a PET/CT today and they put in a needle so nuclear could use the port. I even had the MO arrange for infusion center to run another 1000ml this afternoon before they took out the needle. It takes about an hour for 500ml - so 2 hours for 1000ml, but if you have the time I'd recommend it.
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Onawing, sounds to me like you figured out your own answer!? Definitely bring it up to the doctor, and TELL the doctor you did not get all your fluids.
I've been reading a lot of our stories...it is "funny" (NOT,) how the nurses decide what is "best "at the time...but they aren't seeing the after effects, WE read about them here!
The only other thing I could see them saying is the effects are cumulative (get worse) over time. Now I could understand that if nothing had changed during infusion. I wonder how many of us had had "cumulative" effects because the nurses change how they do the infusions!
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kerri -- my 16yo reacted a lot like your daughter when I shaved my head. He was angry because I shaved it when I "didn't need to". I think part of it is that teens don't want to stick out -- they want their mom to look "normal". Anything that draws attention to a teen, can be uncomfortable. My guess she is worried that her pictures at graduation will look "funny".
If you can hold out until graduation, that might be good... otherwise, ask her opinion and get her help in chosing how you will look... shop for a cool hat together, etc. Hopefully, if you get her involved in the process, it will help. (but maybe not, my 16yo is still ticked that I shaved my head! LOL)
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Lynn-
I think its more of if I have no hair, then I will look sick..She's seemed to be in denial about this whole thing. Doesn't like to talk about it- The day I had the pain from the Nulesta and couldn't walk, she was crying to see me like that. She is almost never home, but I am sure part of that is her age too..
When I told her I ordered a wig about a month ago- she said I wouldn't need it. Ive talked to her about this whole process and the things that happen, but she doesn't want to seems to accept that. Ive decided to leave my hair be and see what happens ( for now). It does seem like its coming out more and more- and today my scalp feels really tender. Can't wait to see what happens when I get in the shower! I am going to pick up my wig today and I have a few hats... But I may get frustrated with this hair...who knows! One step at a time!!
Kerri
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OnaWing -- I agree that your problems might be related to the amount of fluids you got during infusion. However, I have worked fairly successfully in dealing with the mouth sores. My doc is anti-vitamin/supplement. I researched what vitamin deficiency can cause cracked corners of mouth, mouth sores, etc. What I found was that the B-vitamins seem to play a big role. I started eating pasta and/or bread (both are b-vitamin enriched) at each meal, ate other b-vitamin rich foods and it took care of almost all my problems (except I put on some weight).
Additionally, I continued the doctor recommendations... salt+baking soda mouthwash/gargle up to 4 times daily, magic mouth wash (swish & swallow) up to 4x daily, spectazole 1% cream twice daily in corners of mouth (Rx, prescribed by dermatologist), and Aquaphor ointment in corners of mouth whenever I noticed they were dry. I also have dentures, and the doc said to go without them whenever I could -- so I look like granny part of the time!
Hope this helps someone -- the spectazole cream really helped clear up the remaining cracks in the corners of my mouth!
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Aargh! Its sex again... it seems that about once a week it comes up on this board. My DH decideD that I'm "not feeling well enough" for sex and then refused me! The thing that gets me, is that when I feel good, I expect him to take advantage of it!! Just irritated today, he said, "its not you, its me" -- hard for it not to feel its about me.
It seems since I was diagnosed, we take life so seriously... I'm ready for flirting and teasing... but instead am being constantly evaluated on whether I hurt too much, whether I have too many SE, whether I'm too tired...
This too shall pass... just needed to vent for a minute. Thanks everyone for being here....
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Went to doctors Thursday got the ok to start chemo again on Wednesday! The viral meningitis seems to be cleared up!! What a ride that was. So finally last ac will be done and over!!!! Then start taxol and herceptin for 12 weeks. Has anyone that has started taxol had much se with it. I just want this over with and give me my life back! I quess by November most will be behind me. Just the herceptin left until next July. I can and will do it,I just dont have to like it.
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Well I am finished with chemo. Last treatment was Wednesday, my poor veins didn't want to let the IV in & it took a lot of painful sticks but they finally managed to hook me up & last infusion was quick & uneventful. I expected to feel so relieved & jubilant but I've mostly been crying a lot on & off. I'm feeling really crummy this round & just want to skip ahead a week or two to when I start feeling human again. I hate chemo & I hope I never ever have to do this again. I'm emotionally & physically wiped out.
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Onawing, it can't hurt to ask for the fluids. The one thing I noticed was that no two rounds were exactly the same. My first was terrible with lots of SE's. My second hit the day after infusion and went for 7 days and then I felt pretty good. My third brought increased shedding (I'm doing cold caps) and bone ache. My fourth was fabulous and I never got that hit-by-a-truck stage and had virtually no SE's at all.
But if your instincts tell you the fluids are the difference, then you should definitely request them. Instincts do more for us than we realize. Good luck
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6cats - what is spectazole cream? Is it prescribed?
Indenial - Yay for you!!!! "Finished with chemo" are magic words.
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Indenial, glad you are done! Soon you will be feeling better! Yeah!
I had heard that a lot of people become "down" when treatment is done. We've ridden this roller coaster, some for longer than others, and then suddenly it stops. There is an adjustment period to getting your "land legs" back. I think of it as planing a wedding (without the joy!). , busy making appointments and doing all the stuff to get there, then it is done and you wonder what you used to do with your "spare time". Forewarned is forearmed.
6cats, if my husband turned me down I would be in shock. Seems he is always raring to go...even after funerals! Sorry you were turned down.
Anne, I haven't had those treatments, I'm sure someone can answer sooner or later, or go checkout the April Chemo board. Glad your meningitis has cleared up!
I am freaking exhausted. Oldest had two regents this week. Middle guy can't get his papers together to study, went through his folders today, as he had no school,and discovered there are no study guides??? So an email into the teacher , awaiting a response. Went to weight watchers today and could not decide to stay or go...i had taken off 25 lbs, then purposely put weight on thinking I would lose with chemo...played the game and i lose! lol. I have gained weight with chemo. so finally decided to re-up and will continue, hoping I'm not throwing my money away, as i will be having surgery in the fall and also have Tamoxifen to start....Have my final Girl Scout meeting tonight and am finding half the girls might not all be there because this lousy weather has pushed softball championship to tonight. And I have the local Relay for Life I am going to go and check out early evening...which brings up a whole other emotional piece. I'm drained. Started taping off sons room to paint and I also wound up priming. Now I ruined the manicure I gave myself last night, still need to finish cupcakes for meeting and get badges, plates, cups etc ready..... This is my Last weekend to "enjoy" myself before chemo #3 on Monday and final exams all around for the three kids next week. Uuugggghhhh! And I wonder why I am tired?
Time for coffee, while I can still enjoy a cup. Oh, guess I better take my vitamin D as supposedly it will give me energy? LOL
Pat -
When I went in for my Neulasta shot this week, the nurse mentioned that she was warming up the Neulasta before she injected it. She also said that their policy is to inject it slowly. Since I haven't had any SE from the Neulasta (not taking any Claritin), maybe the warming and slow injection is the reason. Those of you having reactions might want to ask about this.
Lynn, a big sympathetic hug to you. Keep the lines of communication open with your DH as much as possible to let him know your feelings and try to understand his. Glad we can be here for you to vent.
Indenial, Yippee! Keep up the positive thoughts and enjoy knowing chemo is behind you.
Had a very busy week and got too tired. Cancelled my fill with the PS this morning to rest and relax. Pat, hope you can find some time in all the chaos for yourself. Wishing you all a SE free weekend!
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annie11595 -- so glad your viral meningitis is cleared up. Looks like we will be on close to the same schedule on Taxol+Herceptin (I'm one week behind you). So glad you are feeling better.
indenial -- congrats on being finished! This is such an emotional journey -- no wonder you are wiped out! Feel better soon!
shipsgirl -- 1% spectazole cream is prescription. I think it is used for thrush and similar types of yeast overgrowth. Got it from the dermatologist.
Pattysmiles & PamelaKay -- exhaustion! That seems to be my word for the week -- and I'm only on day 5 post chemo. If I were creative, I'd write a song or poem about exhaustion... but I'm too tired.
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Congratulations on getting it done to all who finished chemo this week. I'm right behind you, Indenial and hope we never walk this path again.
It's settled, extra fluids for my next (last) chemo. I'm going to need all the help I can get with the next one. Have an energetic 4 year old arriving the day before my infusion and staying for 11 days. Now that I think of it, I'll really need extra steroids too. Thanks to all who responded.
On the subject of sex, one of my all time favorite subjects. I often think we take it far too seriously in our relationships. So flirt, tease, be playful and have fun with no expectations of sex. This is a tough time for our men too, and I think most men would be at ease with the playful approach, but keep the heart to heart talks about feelings out of the bedroom because feelings in the context of sex scares the crap out of most men. I've always found it best to let my husband know in advance when I want a conversation about us and feelings. Found it goes much better when he is prepared for it and not surprised and it forces me to think about how I want the conversation to go instead of just putting all that emotion on the table and waiting for his response. Hugs and kisses from an old gal who's taken a few bumpy rides down this road. (love the pun) -
Indenial-- congrats on being done.. I CANNOT WAIT to say that!!
Today I'm having a little "pity party"
My hairs coming out more and more... Head hair in clumps, leg hair and even hair "down below"..
I knew this was going to happen- but still having a hard time..
So- I'm sitting out on my deck- in the beautiful sunshine-- and drowning my sorrows in the one glass of wine I'm allowed to have..
Hope all are having a great weekend!!
Kerri -
Indenial, I can't wait to join you. It won't be soon but it will be! That is something we can all claim.
Kobrien, pity is a strong emotion but we are stronger than it and the rest of this crap, and it's that strength that will carry us to the other side. Ask Indenial she has fought the strong fight an has come out on the other side!
You all rock!
Keep up the strong fight!
Mo
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Now that I'm done with chemo my MO will put me on tamoxifen, I suspect. Just read that hair loss is a side effect. To me that feels worse than losing my breasts!
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Just started Paclitaxel. This is day 3. I have had very strong hip and back pain (haven't started Neupogen yet this round). Today, I got so dizzy I was sure I would pass out. Has anyone else experienced this?
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I love you gals, just reading all the Congrats etc. has really lifted my spirits. I made it past my worst day and I think it's all going to just get better from here. It's still sinking in that I'm really DONE!!
Katie, I am also starting Tamoxifen in less than a month. I have so many questions/concerns about post-chemo stuff, Tamoxifen, supplements, etc. but trying to take one day at a time & first fining recovering from this last round & stay healthy 'til my WBC goes back up.
I also feel compelled to shave off these little stray hairs so I can start from scratch with non-chemo hair but then I realized everything is chemo-tainted now & probably will be for the next year or so. Very curious to see how my body recovers from all this. Having a chronic illness for the last 7 years has made chemo easier in many ways. I am used to being sick, used to having limitations... but part of me is so hopeful (yet afraid to hope!) that chemo killed the chronic illness too & maybe I can be healthy & myself again for the first time in nearly a decade.
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The other thing I wanted to mention is, I had awful stomach pains with rounds 1-3. Really awful, unlike anything I've felt before. Then a couple weeks ago I took some glutamine between rounds on a "good" week & felt the same pain... Hmmm.... So I didn't take the glutamine this round, and I haven't had the stomach pains this round! (Well, aside from constipation-related pain...) So just throwing that out there, take a look at any meds or supplements you're taking because sometimes the things we're taking to help can cause their own side effects! (Unfortunately the neuropathy is indeed worse without glutamine but it's preferrable to the stomach pains for me!)
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Indenial, are you going to have the test done to see if Tamoxifen will be effective for you? I think it's a genetic test of some sort... It's called CYP2D6
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Hi Katie,
I asked my MO about the CYP2D6 test at last week's appointment. He said three years ago he routinely did it but no longer uses it at all based on the results of a study (not sure which one). He is very thorough and research based. I'm also in Virginia so I'll be interested to see what your MO tells you.
INDENIAL, congrats on being done with chemo!! That's a huge step!
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When I read that chemo SE are cumulative I didn't really understand what that meant, until treatment 4 - uggg. I've had such a difficult time coming out of the doldrums, aches, pains, constipation, upset stomach and extreme fatigue. I've been sleeping a ton in order to cope and that helps but I have no appetite which means further weakness etc. I hope I snap out of it today. The thought of two more treatments with similar SE is depressing but I am hoping for good news today. I had a PET scan Saturday and my onc promised she'd call today with results.
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Thank you!!
Katie, I'm not having that test done (to my knowledge). I was going to ask for it but some of the research I read suggested it may not be a reliable/predictive test. Not really sure what to do!
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@BeHereNow- were you able to by-pass radiation? if so, congratulations(: on that --
Is tamoxifen the five year pill and is it considered chemo as well? And so you lost your hair during chemo and things in that ares are not looking much better with this pill?
My head is swimming.. I hope to get a definite treatment plan on Friday. I have a Pet scan on Wednesday and the results from that along with my pathology will determine what my treatment will be exactly-- I am trying to educate myself but it is not easy without all the facts...I am gaining new knowledge on this site from all of you every day..just not sure what to do with it just yet-- I'm trying to build an arsenal of tips and such that will help alog the way...
You are all so brave!!! My prayers and positive rays are with each and every one of you going through the recovery trials of this monster disease...
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Hi AmyQ and best wishes that this will be your last day of the doldrums. We are at the exact same place with our chemo treatment. I just had #4 last Tuesday. For me # 3 was the a$$ kicker...but I still had all the same SE that you mentioned just for more days with #3. So I thought I would share with you that #4 was not as bad as #3 for me, so we shouldn't necessarily expect each one to be worse, right? I also have 2 more treatments and just want this over with. So sick of walking into an infusion center feeling great...knowing that a mack trunk is going to run me down in a few days. I have not had constipation with my treatments...instead lots of diarrhea. Not sure which is worse, but it doesn't matter I guess. I also have lost my appetite and lost weight. As of today, am down 14 lbs. I had heard that I would gain weight, so I am not sure what is going on with me. Nothing smells nor tastes good. I heard that sweets and carbs tasted good on chemo (explains the weight gain?), but I am not finding that to be the case. In fact, sweets are nauseating to me. My DH is constantly trying to find ways to "fatten me up". I told him to be patient...pretty sure the anti-hormonals" will solve that problem. My DD tries to get me to focus on the future..when chemo is over. That just reminds me to google all the SE's for radiotherapy. People don't realize that breast cancer is never "over".
Sarajaneeva...My onc considers anti-hormonals to be chemotherapy but I think she only does that so she can make "chemo" seem less scary when she is going through all the treatment options. I am post-menopausal so I will be on some type of Aromatase Inhibator. Since I have to finish chemo, then radiation, I haven't done much research on the anti-hormonals....one scary place at a time is my motto. I'm not sure if my MO will put me on AI's right away or wait until after rads are done. I've heard that they cause bone density issues, thinning hair, etc.
I hope all my sisters on chemo are having a wonderful, SE-free day and that your treatments are kind to you.
Sandra
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MsPharoah,Thanks for the post. I am post menopausal as well. I will be having radiation following the chemo and then the pill for 5 years too.. scary stuff....
My sis in- law, and well meaning friends keep sending me alternative treatment options, drops to take , juice to drink.. I am trying to wade through that information as well-not sure how to react to it, or how to respond to them-- have you run across this during your treatment? Can anyone weigh in on this? thanks...
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Well today is 2 weeks post final chemo and I feel great. The SE's from this last round have been nothing compared to round #3. Only complaints I had was loss of taste buds for a few days where everything tasted like crap and severe hot flashes. The fatigued kicked my butt last round but this time I'm fine. I even went to the gym this morning and felt great although I couldn't do as much cardio as usual but I know I'll have to work up to that. So hang in there ladies, there is light at the end of the tunnel. I just got back from getting blood work done and it looks good so no more Neupogen injections. YAY! I go for my first consultation with RO tomorrow. I'll report back on how that went. I've heard that once you go through chemo, radiation is a walk in the park, we'll see.
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sarajaneevans -- I had friends and family bringing me pills, concoctions, recommending chinese medicine, etc... all with an air of authority. Some seemed very logical to me... but honestly, I would recommend you wait until you talk with your oncologist before taking anything. I've always been a vitamin popper, and I immediately thought that supplements would help. At my second visit, I talked with her about it... she said, take nothing but the calcium & vitamin D I was already taking, and if I couldn't stand it take standard multi-vitamin like Centrum Silver (not a multi-vitamin formulated for women or anything like that).
When I asked the reason she said that there had been a study that showed that Vitamin C inhibited the effect of certain chemo drugs, and that there wasn't enough research to know what was safe and what wasn't. She said that the goal of chemo therapy was to kill cells -- and the drugs kill both the bad and the good. If I were taking a supplement, the goal of that would be to build up the body, the cells -- and that supplements potentially could feed both bad and good cells. I actually found the study she referred to and she was right (sorry I didn't save the link).
I made the decision to use normal everyday food as my supplement -- but only foods I could buy easily at our small town grocer. I can't afford to feed our family organically, or I'd probably switch to that. Except for the fatigue, most of my side effects have been managed by changes in my diet. I've almost doubled my intake of fruits and veggies, had to add back bread and pasta to up the B-vitamins, had to cut back on milk shakes and the like. Now... if I'd eat liver I could probably get rid of some of the fatigue!
You seem like someone who is frantically trying to gather as much information as possible to try to stay in control of an uncontrollable situation. Remember you can fight this best if you are mentally and physically healthy. I ran into an acquaintance recently who had mets to the bone... she said, that she had worked herself up so badly she was sick -- she finally decided that if her doctors were worried about something, then she would worry... but she wasn't willing to worry herself sick about something her doctors weren't worried about. It was refreshing to hear her calmness and acceptance of a stage 4 cancer. She actually gave me joy and strength when I thought I should be the one to give her comfort.
I hope this helps....
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Hi Jen... Thanks for reminding us all that our side effects may not necessarily be worse each time.i Very comforting. Please don't leave us when you move on to rads...would be very interested in what you find out.
Sarajaneev...I have a pat answer for well meaning folks who offer medical advice....."that is sooooo not helpful and makes me worried that my doctor doesn't know what they are doing." if you appreciate the input, then I wouldn't recommend my response.
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