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Dazed74
Dazed74 Member Posts: 5
edited June 2014 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

I am finding myself getting very sad....& very lonely now after all is done and things are settling down..... My year long battle w stage 2 breast cancer.... And now I know I should b happy and love life but I just can't seem too.....



Please anyone help...... I have been looking for help in anyway

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited June 2013

    Hi Dazed,

    While you wait for the ever-helpful advice from the other members here, you may be interested in checking out the main Breastcancer.org site's page on Depression. Depression can also be a symptom of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, which is also a common side effect of breast cancer.

    We hope this helps!

    --The Mods

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  • mrenee68
    mrenee68 Member Posts: 383
    edited June 2013

    Dazed have you tried to speak with your Drs? At my breast center they have a psychologist who specializes in dealing with BC patients. I totally get that feeling alone, even though I am not alone. I think we have to make so many decisions before during and after treatment, do we reconstruct or do we not, maybe chemo or radiation. Our body and mind change and before we can get used to one thing, it changes again.

    It's no wonder we have depression. My new normal just keeps changing.

    Hopefully more ladies will post with more thoughts for you. I just want you to know that you are not alone and this to shall pass. Just look at all you have been through and your still going strong. (((Hugs)))

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  • Dazed74
    Dazed74 Member Posts: 5
    edited June 2013

    I have trying for a week now... Trying to find online help or emotional group.....



    I feel as I fall deeper and deeper into this sad part of my life no one hears me or listens...... It's to the point where I am not leaving house and my partner who added to it... Doesn't seem to understand I don't know what's going on with me.... I truly don't and I am not liking it whatsoever....



    I wish I just knew what to do

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited June 2013

    Dazed, 

    It sounds like you could benefit from talking with a psychologist, and perhaps exploring therapy and even anti-depressants (depending on what the professionals think). We are so sorry to hear what you are going through. It is not uncommon, and you are not alone. 

    Please get some professional help.

    Thinking of you, 

    The Mods

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  • Lily55
    Lily55 Member Posts: 3,534
    edited June 2013

    Dazed i totally remember feeling like you and still get down days - please talk to us here too.....and be kind to yourself.....

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  • mamglam
    mamglam Member Posts: 178
    edited June 2013

    Dazed,

    I too felt very lonely and afraid after my treatment was finished.   Since you will not be seeing your health care team more frequently as while in treatment, the anxiety level reaches high.  At least it did for me!!  I did resume going to the gym as a way to have the adrenalin rush and have also started yoga recently.  The breathing, meditation and flexibility is relaxing.  I hope that you start to feel better soon.

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  • Dazed74
    Dazed74 Member Posts: 5
    edited June 2013

    Thank you everyone for your advice and insight....., I am trying my best to push forward and not let these dark clouds cover over me....



    I have been looking around for a support online group for me...& at the same time find some fellow people who have felt or feel like I do.....



    B

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  • Dazed74
    Dazed74 Member Posts: 5
    edited June 2013

    I am on state ins. And trying to find a counselor who will help but I haven't found anyone and ACS hasn't gotten back to me on trying to find me someone near me who will help me.....



    I was hoping to find groups online to help also



    B

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  • auntienance
    auntienance Member Posts: 4,216
    edited June 2013

    I too, went through a very uncharacteristic depression after finishing treatment. Part of it was that I really didn't feel 100% due to some residual stomach issues from chemo, but a lot of it was being left out in "limboland". I really didn't know how to pick up my life when everything had changed so drastically. It dIdn't help that to my friends and family, I didn't look sick (other than the hair thing), and I got the feeling that everyone expected things to get back to"normal" and that I was "over" BC. They still don't get it really.



    Anyway, I was prepared to take an antidepressant offerred by my pcp, who assured me that my feelings were quite normal. Once I started feeling better physically though, my mental state improved as well. Just know that you are not alone and lots of us have been where you are now. This is a great place to find support. Most cancer centers have BC support groups that may help you find what you need. My very best wishes to you.

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  • gonegirl
    gonegirl Member Posts: 1,871
    edited June 2013

    After treatment was done, I read something that said, You survive, then you cry.



    That was happened to me. I had a rush of emotions. I finally found a counselor and went back on my antidepressant.



    There are also organizations that will help. One is Cancercare.org. they have support groups and limited phone counseling.



    It is hard, but you will get through it. Keep talking and reaching out.

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  • Dazed74
    Dazed74 Member Posts: 5
    edited June 2013

    Thank you everyone for kind words and everything (;



    I am trying on a daily basis....

    Trying to not let it get to the point where sad days outweigh my good... At tikes I feel like people airnt listening or hear me...... Like how I feel.

    And trying to get back to work even if limited hours.... I think not working for over a year... Not being able to really go out of house besides Dr appt.



    Thank you everyone



    Hugs



    B

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  • mrenee68
    mrenee68 Member Posts: 383
    edited June 2013

    Keep pushing forward one step at a time, one day at a time, whatever it takes. Each day will get easier. Be kind to yourself and if you have a bad day it's okay, don't beat yourself up. Tomorrow is a new day. ((Hugs))

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