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regbeach what a terrible decision you have to make for your mum. It's bad enough to make it for ourselves let alone for somebody else. If she is unable to communicate she may be very very scared as we all were. I feel so sorry for your mum and you. Why not try just the one treatment. She can stop if she wants to or you want her to but at least you may know how it will affect her and she may be just fine. Remember what they say "we only get what we can handle" and I hope its true in your mum's case. My thoughts, prayers and hugs are with you both at this awful time and I hope it works out for you both. xx
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regbeach....my thoughts are with you both...whatever you decide will be the right decision I am sure.
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to regbeach - We often "second guess" ourselves about our treatment plans. How hard it would be to have to make the plans for someone else. Just know that your friends on this forum are aware of all the hard decisions you've had to make, and we know you are doing the best you know how for your mother.
The doctors are doing the best they know how, also.
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Nothing like a last minute new decision....
First, thanks for your support in my decision-making regarding Mom and her chemo. I was mentally ready to start it, felt I could (as her caregiver) deal with the side effects, picked up the prescriptions and Claritin, left a message for the doctor with a dozen final questions (making sure he knew she couldn't feel cold on her leg -in case of neuropathy, asking about B vitamins for it, asking if she should sleep in recliner in case she throws up at night because she can't sit up herself, etc.)
Half an hour later, mom woke up. She looked really tired. I reminded her we were going to hospital in a few hrs, re-explained the whole situation, she said no, was visibly irritated. I talked to my brother. We cancelled it. Talked to the doctor. He said either choice would have been a good one. So, we are hoping for the best.
And, yes, I am still thinking about those rampant cancer cells, wondering if they will multiply "too fast", and sort of wishing poison was attacking them. Hopefully, those thoughts will pass. Off to schedule radiation.
Good luck to everyone on this forum. Your ability to manage counteracted my worry each time I found some horror story elsewhere. Thanks again! Since she is triple negative, I am sure I will check in now and then.
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regbeach - maybe radiation is the way to go. It is not like she is not getting anything at all, radiation maybe all that she nees, keeping fingers crossed. Radiation will kill the suckers. Everything that happens, happens for the best, although while going through it, it is difficult to believe. Best wishes, my dear, and don't forget to take care of yourself too.
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regbeach - what a difficult experience for both you and your mom. My Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer (not TNBC) when she was 80. She let my sister and I accompany her on all her doctors visits and said "explain everything to them and they'll explain it to me later". She went through mastectomy, chemo and radiation and did really well throughout it all. But, be forewarned, during the radiation, be sure to moisturize, moisturize, moisturize. We thought Mom had gotten away clean with the radiation but, after the treatments were done, the burn started to show. She ended up with pretty bad and painful burns on half her chest for quite a while. My Mom wasn't one to complain, so when she said it hurt, it must have been really painful. After the cancer adventure was done, Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's so I also know how difficult it is to make decisions for them when they really can't tell you what they want or how they feel. You just do what you can and know that, even if you make what turns out to be a wrong decision, you made that decision out of love - that's all you can do. Good Luck to you and your Mom. We are all sending HUGS to you both!
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Mags - glad it sounds like your latest surgery was successful.
I am so very sorry to hear about your young friend's diagnosis -especially with a brand new baby. I am extremely saddened to hear about the young women with small children. I pray that she will get quick and very effective treatment and will be able to leave all this behind her and enjoy her little girl fo rmany, many years to come.
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Mags sorry to hear of your friend and what she has to go through. Hard enough at the best of times without a young baby to care for. I hope she is getting plenty of love and support.
On Tuesday nights on TV here there is a medical program that I always watch. Last night there was an 18 year old girl with breast cancer. She elected to have bilateral mastectomy. Nothing showed in the nodes and the operation went well with an immediate reconstruction. Each story is over two weeks and just as it ended last night the surgeon told her "we have some news" and the next thing you see the young lady crying and so was her mum. My heart went out to that wee sole. 18 years of age. Cancer can attack anyone now. You think at least the young are at least safe but not anymore. Cancer sux at all ages.
Thinking of you all with side effects, treatment and even just trying to live a normal life. My prayers to you all. xx
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I don't want to change the subject, feel bad talking about hair in the midst of so much pain.
My hair after chemo changed so drastically. It has become like rope, not shiny hair as it used to be. Actually, it is not like hair at all. And it completely stopped growing. The top hair has still not reached the bottom, so the bottom looks so very thin. It is becoming hard to dress up in the mornings with this hair. So, I went to this showroom close to my house where they displayed hair extensions. I have used extensions before, when I had beautiful hair, so I thought it would work again. I went ahead and bought one for $144 called the voluminizer. You just tease and hair spray your hair a little bit, and then put these 4 clips and they should stay, giving volume and length. This was such a bad purchase and I shouldn't have done it. I have always been a thin haired girl, now I look like a full haired monster. They say on their return policy that if I had not cut the main clip then they would refund within 14 days. I doubt they will give me anything back, what a waste. Does anyone have any ideas how to deal with very fine thin hair, what to do after chemo takes your hair away. The clips are falling off, it won't stay in. I might try other types of extensions, but they charge a ton of money to install them. My concern is even if I am willing to pay for it, what if I am most uncomfortable after a $700 job is already done on your head.
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Lovelyface, I look like a monk right now. My hair used to grow too fast. Now it's on strike. Back to the scarves, wigs, and ball caps when I go out. Someone suggested nioxin treatment. If I get the energy I might buy it. Still so tired...it's only been two months since chemo and bilateral mastectomies/reconstruction so shouldn't complain!
Peggy -
my hair is falling out quickly see a lot of empty spots on myhead...i'm praying it grows back ok...with everything we go thru, its a shame we have to worry about this too....hope everything works out and your hair gets better.
sending positive thoughts
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My last chemo was 4/2 and my hair is slowly starting to grow back....super slow though. My newest issue is my eye lashes are falling out!
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jenjenl- Don't worry about your eyelashes/eyebrows... It happened to me too, 1 month after chemo ended! They grow back pretty quickly.
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Glad to hear your hair is growing back.
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Today is a great day! Starting to emerge from the chaos cancer has caused. First, my cancer is GONE! I had the MRI with contrast and it is not there. My surgeon said this is the response you hope for. Second, she said she can still do the lumpectomy as she compared my two MRIS's and feels confident that a clip can be placed before surgery where the cancer used to be.
She also felt that she would not need to take much tissue because there is nothing there. Basically a hole, where the cancer used to be.
I smiled a very large, real smile! Considering last Friday how down I was and how weak. I had to have a blood transfusion as my blood counts were dangerously low. I thought that feeling was the new normal.
Everything is looking up!
Thank all of you ladies! Your being here is amazing! I don't post a lot but I read everything, everyday and feel connected to all of you!
Lisa -
Idawson01 good to here your good news. Isn't it funny how we feel so down and fearful and a little bit of good news regarding ourselves or others make up feel so much better. Yep everything is looking fine for you thank goodness. Have a good day as well. Hugs xx
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Lisa - that is wonderful news!
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Lisa, that is incredible news. So are you planning to do the lumpectomy? Really in my opinion, lumpectomy is not that complicated, pretty simple, really! In my case, the surgeon took out quite a bit tissue, so my left has become smaller than the right, but still it does not make much difference at all. And I am really glad to get very good margins.
Feeling bad all the time is NEVER the new normal, no way ladies. I am almost 3 years out, and sure enough I have had lots of ups and downs, many seems to be related to just the normal body changes at age 50. I think a huge part of it all is FEAR.
I feel great ever since I have been using my CPAP machine and getting good night sleeps. I thought it was all thyroid related or even cancer come back, but I don't think so, not anymore. I scrubbed my kitchen floor today and have lots of energy again, just from sleeping the last 3 or 4 nights. From now on, my new motivation is to get lots and lots of sleep, with that CPAP machine, in order to relax all my sleep-starved cells. I will report back to let you know if this good energetic health continues.
Good Luck and Best Wishes, Lisa
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Lovelyface, et al regarding hair - It is so interesting how varied our bodies respond to virtually identical treatment. I had thick mildly wavy hair before chemo. It came back in about the same, after some super kinky areas around my neck that shaped up after a few months. I think my hair is a bit finer now, but just as thick. My hair started coming back about 2 1/2 months post chemo and now I am 17 months out and it is about 4 inches long with a few trim shapings by my stylist along the way. As others commented, the eyelashes and eyebrows tend to fall out post chemo, but in my case they grew back in as quickly as other lashes were falling out so I was never completely without, though very sparse, for sure. Big benefit
is not having to shave legs and underarms! For me now underarm hair is rare and very sparse on non-rad side and non-existent on rad, affected breast side, and legs are just now starting to need more attention if I want them perfectly smooth.
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There was a recent comment about applying moisture to breast with rads. This is important and there is only one product that has been developed specifically for this situation and it is called Miaderm. Your rad onc should be able to provide free samples for you. I had some redness, like a mild sunburn (it turned to a "tan") but no blistering or serious discomfort. Warm saline soaks to the affected breast should also help. You can make your own solution and apply with a washcloth or get your rad onc to provide a 10% saline solution for you.
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Today we are taking the kids to the zoo, I am sure I will be asleep like the kids on the way home. I had a breast MRI on Thursday no results yet. I was confident going in but now starting to worry...only a teeny tiny bit. Yesterday I cleaned my house top to bottom. When I went to bed it looked like a magazine now it's destroyed.
I am really starting to get into my groove at work - while working during chemo I was unfocused and nervous bc of my lack of memory. Now I am busting chops and getting stuff done....fast and good! They see it and I'm getting the bigger projects again, thank goodness doing skunk work was killing me. This months will make it 10 years working there.
I hope everyone has a great weekend.
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Jenjen- Awesome news! Glad to hear that things return to normal eventually.
Im recoverying from left msx surgery and should get path report on Monday. They took three nodes also in the surgery. If I get the all clear then I have right msx and diep for both sides next friday. Woohoo, hoping to get this all behind me soon. -
Hey Gang,
Can you all tell me how much your radiation cost? I know it will be different everywhere but just a ballpark. My chemo is ridiculous at this new place and I think I am going to have to go elsewhere. -
** Townsend Antioxidant Organic Berry Blend at Costco - Recall - Linked to Heptatis A Outbreak **
Hi Everyone,
Has anyone seen this story on the news, and have any of you been eating these? The Townsend Antioxidant Blend from Costco. I use this brand a few times a week in my morning smoothie. The CDC is recommending either a vaccine or a short-term shot for those who may have been infected within the last 14 days of receiving the shot.
Is anyone in this position, and if so, what are you doing? Are you calling your Onc or Family Physician?
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SBoob - Oh that sounds like a scary question and I don't know the answer. I'm sure it is shockingly expensive, as is every medical thing. I wish you luck, and hopefully someone will come along soon with some helpful information.
Debra - I've bought that brand many times, too. I haven't been to Costco in a long time. I think I'd call my PCP first thing Monday morning. But your oncologist should be able to help you, too. What about your county health department? Good luck and keep us posted. J
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Awww, so cute!
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Hello everyone, long time no post! 5/22/13 was my 1 yr since my last chemo. Just cking in to say all is good. Finished radiation last year Oct and am under observation every 3-6 months by onc/surgeon. Hope everyone is doing well. Needed to take some time off from here and just enjoy life with friends and family. I never forgot u all though, always in my thoughts and prayers! Bless u all, and hope u all who r mothers had an awesome Mother's Day! I did, my youngest had her First Communion on the day, was so precious and I was so thankful to be here to be part of this special time in her young life!
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This article is long but I believe worth the read. Interesting perspective on the BRCA gene and mastectomy.
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Good article, Wrenwood. I've had mixed feelings about Angelina J. PBMX. This helped clarify what I couldn't put into words.
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