Sorry but... Sex during chemo??

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Alibeths
Alibeths Member Posts: 656
edited June 2014 in Chemotherapy - Before, During, and After

Anyone?? Don't need to b graphic!! Just wondering if anyone is still active during treatment.

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  • MaxineO
    MaxineO Member Posts: 555
    edited May 2013

    I am two years out from chemo, but my DH and I stayed sexually active during chemo.  Nothing specifically should prevent that for you.  We were not active in the day or two immediately after a treatment, but certainly the rest of the time. It meant a lot to me because it made me realize how strong were my DH's love and attraction. Bald, hairless, and lopsided, and I could still turn him on ;)

    Some have issues with dryness, sex drive, etc., but there are possible solutions to those issues as well.  If you and your partner are feeling it, go for it!

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  • SpecialK
    SpecialK Member Posts: 16,486
    edited May 2013

    I was specifically advised by the oncology nurses to use condoms - this was not for birth control as I have had a complete hysterectomy - but for prevention of infection for me as the soft tissues are easily injured, and prevention of exposure to chemo drugs for him by use of a barrier.  I say if you both want it - go for it!

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  • Katja83
    Katja83 Member Posts: 9
    edited June 2013

    We avoided sex in the time of chemotherapy.

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  • IsThisForReal
    IsThisForReal Member Posts: 384
    edited June 2013

    My Dh and I were active during treatment.  It was one of the things that we both looked forward to, the intimate bonding.  It never ceased to amaze me that he was still interested during treatment with me being  bald, puffy, pale, etc.  

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  • Alibeths
    Alibeths Member Posts: 656
    edited June 2013

    Thank you!!

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  • msphil
    msphil Member Posts: 1,536
    edited June 2013

    I didn,t have sex during my treatment, was very, tired during that time, so fatigued, plus do to the chemo I had painful intercourse,when I did try so I stopped till I felt more energy. msphil(idc,stage2, 3 nodes, chemo and rads and 5 yrs on Tamoxifen)

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  • NancyHB
    NancyHB Member Posts: 1,512
    edited June 2013

    Sex was the last thing on my mind during chemo.  We tried a couple of times, but my SEs kept me from enjoying much.  It's not that we didn't want to, nor that we didn't want each other, and sex was something we talked alot about, but I simply couldn't seem to do it.  Instead, we focused on physical contact and emotional intimacy, and for many reasons this was actually very good for both of us.  Lots of snuggling, hunkering down in bed for the day watching movies, relaxing and simply "being".  In many ways it was wonderfully intimate, and really brought us closer together.

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  • Basia
    Basia Member Posts: 790
    edited June 2013

    I didn't have the energy or drive during chemo.  Being put into  chemo-pause really did a number on me.  It took about a year after last treatment to have any drive at all, and even then it was painful. But at about the 2 year mark, everything went back to normal. 

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  • christina0001
    christina0001 Member Posts: 1,491
    edited June 2013

    DH and I had sex through the first three months of chemo off and on, probably every 10-14 days. But we had to stop towards the end as I was having vaginal dryness and it got painful even with lubrication. 

    I've been done with chemo for a year now and things are about 70% back to normal. 

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  • Kruise
    Kruise Member Posts: 330
    edited June 2013

    I have just finished my 4 AC treatments and starting Paxlitaxol in next couple weeks. The chemo has definitely affected our sex life. However my man also has been ill and had surgery over this 3 months so we have both been 'broken' so to speak. We used to have sex 4/5 times a week - and have probably only had sex 6 times since chemo started. We both know it will get better and it's just a stage! It does feel strange that this part of our life together has taken a back seat but our love is still strong and we will get through this. It is definitely a challenge to feel sexy when bald, a surgically scared body, a blue boob (dye still there 4 months after SND), nauseous and tired. :)

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