The Hermit Club

Thank you Jazzy and ladies. I understand now. I knew I could count on you. Love and hugs.



XOXOXOXXO

Laurie

Thanks for the warm welcome to "Hermit Haven" ...  It is definitely good to be here!  And, by the way - I agree completely with cvmarilyn - we must learn to be true to ourselves!  A true friend will understand even if it takes a little while!  LaurieParr - at least your friend offered to help and you managed to keep her at bay!  Whilst I've been on this whole BC journey, I have most definitely found out who is important in my life, who cares about me and who I care about ...

Hi SoLinda. You are such a good reminder to us that breast cancer crosses the generations as well as the continents.

I think bc has finally taught me who cares about me and the relationships I need to nurture. I am at much more peace in my life with my family and friends, having let go of some people who really don't care about me and never will. All I have gone through took those blinders off once and for all.

We are glad you are here with us!

Skittle u r always so positive and cheery with all of us--sweet skittle.

Jazzy I'm glad u have weeded out the people in u'r life. If we have loving families and some wonderful friends that's all we need. We value the very good ones. I have een so blessed going thru all this crap everyone stuck right with me and are still there. But I weeded mine along time ago LOL

Joey's staying home a few days with his broken ankle but I'm selfish enough to like it. Not that he's got a broken anything just that he's home and I get to help a little cuz he's always helping me.

Markat (((HUGS))) for u and u'r mom.

Oh Markat I hate when decisions have to be made, I like when the Drs. make and enforce them. It's such a difficult time. But now u say u'r mom is better? Tht's a good thing tho. Can she actually go home and a nurse comes in or is that not practical to do? How old is u'r mom???

I didn't find out my ER/PR Her2 status until after my surgery.  They determined it from testing and looking at the slides of the stuff they removed from me.

Gonna take tomorrow off from work and go out to a Japanese buffet with my boyfriend for my birthday.  

@camillegal, LOL!!! I am 57 and still not married. Are all those cats going to show up at my house next?? Oh well, better a cat than a terrorist!

Thanks you guys, am drinking propel...

jazzy never done....on chemo forever or unless it gets me stable then will go off and take hormonal....

taking vicadon, he gave me percocet...not a fan of it but will try it.....

chemo tomorrow again, my week off was ok.....

BBL and thanks for caring.

Markat... Prayers for best decisions for you and your mom.  Such a difficult time.  Perhaps a hospice advocate or family directed person can guide you to alternatives.  Sometimes all it takes is asking the right questions.  Like--what have I forgotten?  or What alternatives are there that I might not have thought of?  With all the mess we went through with my fil (blind, Parkinsons, dementia), it was a matter of speaking to the right person who was willing to offer resources.  Love to you.  Strength, if possible.

Camille... Joey is wonderfully lucky to have you.  His mind can be on someone he loves rather than the ouch in his ankle.  He'll heal fast, and enjoy looking back on the time spent together.

Jinkala... happy birthday!  Good for you, taking a day off!  Enjoy.

Blondie... Hoping chemo is not too rough.  Will be thinking of you tomorrow. 

Jazzy... hugs.  Concerned for you.  Wishing I could doooo something!

Teka...    will be at the beach in less than a month!

Laurie... Hoping you can have some me time.  Be kind to yourself so you can charge those batteries.  Your clients can take a back seat for a while.  Let your family surround you with care (and Puffs, and tea, and whatever your heart is comforted by.)

bgirl, FL, solinda, lori, all... Hope your midweek brings at least a moment of laughter.

Hi hermits- just checking in to let you know I am doing okay! I stayed home monday, took it easy, took some naps, went to bed early and doing better. Yesterday, I left work for about 90 minutes to go have some lunch at one of my favorite places outside to enjoy a good meal and catch some southwestern rays. I had something happen at work last week that made me realize to just do better at self care and self management. So thank you for your concerns but I have made some adjustments and sticking to them! 

Markat- this is hard with the decision you need to make for your mom. Maybe check in to home health options with whatever insurance she has. They can provide care to a degree but if she needs pain management support through time, that is where hospice at home comes in. I hope that the right solution comes to you so you don't have to struggle with this.

Will check in again soon. Love and hugs to all the other hermits here.

OK!  A bumpy dirty crappy road till u finally find pavement.

Thank-You for the kind words Skittle...I continue to be so touched at how sweet people are on this site. I need to make it a habit to go on here while I have the time (before going back to work).   I feel a connection with the beautiful women that post honest thoughts and feelings, all on different but yet similar paths..Isn't it amazing how strong we are?  One of my biggest fears was being diagnosed with cancer, and thought I would lose my mind if I was faced with this dreadful disease.  Well its now almost twelve weeks since being diagnosed and I haven't lost my mind.  its all hard, but I am doing ok.

Jinkala hope you had a fabulous bday!!!



Thank you all for the kind words and thoughts. Mom is still in the facility but tomorrow night we meet to discuss her transition out. She is stable and had blood tests today to check her bilirubin. She just turned 61 last month, a few days before this whirlwind began. She's stubborn, and I don't blame her. She fell tonight there, which was scary. She absolutely does not want to go to a nursing home. Her siblings are swooping in and trying to help but they are busy. I'm thinking that I may have her convinced to come to my home, but that could change. I just want her safe, happy and pain free.



I hope all getting treatments are feeling good or dealing with it as they can. Hugs and love to you all.

Markat OMG I forget u'r so young so of course u'r mom would be young. Al this happening and so young to have all this sickness. I'm so sorry. Everyone has given u such good advice and doesn't hospice cometo u'r home and help thruout the week. I remember nurses coming for my mom during the day and helping out. OH Markat my prayers are going u'r way, this is difficult.

Markat- keeping you in my thoughts and prayers for your mom, you and your family. If coming to your house is what you think is best, then do it. I understand her not wanting to go to a nursing home either. Keep searching out the best options.