My Supervisor - Going thru BC

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momtoog
momtoog Member Posts: 5
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer
AT this time my supervisor is going through chemo. for her breast cancer. She has 2 separate tumors (1 in each breast) they are not considered a metastisis. She is currently getting A/C chemo every 2 weeks and will have 4 Taxols when they are done. She had #3 of the A/C last week.

At the end of chemo. will be a double mastectomy with reconstruction, followed by radiation.

She has been finding the chemo to be exhausting. She also has a 7 year old son who is having a hard time dealing with all of this. On top of this her husband has to travel a lot for his job, and so cannot always be home.

I have tried to share with her practical advice about BC as I remember it from my own treatment (4 years ago).

I will retire from this job in September 06 and have encouraged her to keep in contact with me even at that time.

Is there anything in particular that I should be sharing with her? Thank you.

Pamela
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  • KariLynn
    KariLynn Member Posts: 1,079
    edited June 2006

    Just be supportive. Maybe drop by a meal or something (McDs or pizza would be good for the son!) on days when you know she'll not be feeling up to cooking. Let her know you're available if she needs you - after that it's up to her. She might be uncomfortable talking about this with an employee.

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  • momtoog
    momtoog Member Posts: 5
    edited June 2006
    At first I felt she might be uncomforable speaking about it to one of us also. You need to understand, though, that SHE sought me out and starting asking many questions about my BC experience and how she could start to prepare for her own.

    Additionally I'll retire in September and still want to be available to her if she needs it and then I'll no longer be her employee.

    Pamela
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  • KariLynn
    KariLynn Member Posts: 1,079
    edited June 2006
    Just let her know you're available. I read somewhere (this board I think) that one of the ladies friend just showed up at her house and said give me your shopping list! If you can tell it's not making her uncomfortable, just go and help - do a load of laundry or dust the house or any of those millions of chores we don't have the energy to do.

    Might also ask if you can take the son swimming or something with your kids/grandkids. I know I'd be happy if I knew my kids were having fun even if I didn't feel up to providing it for them.
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  • cowgirl
    cowgirl Member Posts: 777
    edited June 2006

    Seeking you out is a good sign!

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  • purplemb
    purplemb Member Posts: 1,542
    edited July 2006

    Pam, its so great that you are willing to share love & support with your supervisor...just keep in touch with her and let her know that you may be available whenever...she is a lucky person...MB

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