The Hermit Club

Spookiesmom Hi---after lurkdom comes hermitude--so we are here. LOL

Welcome newbies, to "The Hermit Club" thread!

Ipc,



Welcome! You have found a safe place with us here. We are all hermits and understand. Please vent however you feel.



XOXOXO

Laurie

Glad you found us lpc. Welcome! I'm fairly new here too and these fellow hermits are great ladies.  They have helped me so much. 

No hermitude for me today. Getting ready for first chemo treatment. Oh wouldn't it be nice if I could stay burrowed in bed and receive treatment here!

Yep I am a newbie...dose dense every two weeks. Glad day is finally here...sad day is finally here.

Hi Skittle,

Thanks for the reassuring words....I am halfway through the first of the two months of chemo.  The week following has taken a toll on me physically. Emotionally it is difficult dealing with the intense fatigue.  So I try get through it the best I can, although it is hard for me to reach out. I do see a therapist which helps me tons. I have a caring husband who is doing his best to help me.  I go on this site...funny how even writing this is hard. No one knows me and it is safe here...not sure why its hard....It is clear to me that there are some very kind caring people who want to help....

Welcome LCR and Spookie! We hope you will feel comfortable here with us.

Blessings to you Lori.

XOXOXOXO

Laurie

Back home. So far so good. Tired with headache but that is probably from lack of sleep. Back to the nest in my bed and hopefully some sleep!



My sweet 18 yr old son showed up with his head shaved bald. Brought me to tears.



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I just got a call from my MO's office about the MRI last week - no evidence of reoccurance.

I wasn't overly worried, but it feels good to know for sure.

I do like being a hermit. I like being alone with my fur kids. I resent going to grocery, I have to leave the house!!!!



When I feel the need to see humans, we go to the dog park, and that solves that



I prefer to hang here, and on the LE threads. Everybody here gets it, no explanation needed.



Tomorrow I am doing something way out of character. Some go on vacations or cruises after tx finished. I'm going to a Maltese show in Orlando. I can't wait!!!!

Hi all love and hugs and welcome to the new faces. My mom has entered Hospice, not sure if I mentioned that before. She absolutely is so much happier. It's hard to believe that they have given her 1 week because she just seems so much happier than at the hospital. They are still taking her to get her brain rads every day, because that's what she wants. I've asked her as kindly as possible that she doesn't have to continue with them if they are making her uncomfortable or tired. Honestly, I think she enjoys the ride to the hospital I have tried to tell her that she can quit them, but she isn't ready. Her body will tell her I suppose. It's a beautiful facility and the nurses are wonderful. People bring their pets, children, and the views and gardens beautiful.



This whole experience has really put life in to a whole new perspective for me. I am definitely not a hermit anymore- by force. I'm trying to be kinder to other people that have really ticked me off the last couple of years. I'm trying... My mom was a hermit too, but many of her old friends have shown up. My natural response is to say, where the heck have you been for the last 3 years? But I'm trying to be kind.



My girls are my biggest worry. I'm so busy that I forget about their sweet innocence.



Distant hugs and air kisses to itchy skittle

Thank you Lily, I agree about the hospice. If I'm ever in this position, I've told DH that I think I want the same thing. She very well could go past the week. I hate that too. She seems so much stronger, but her she is so yellow and her kidneys are going from what I've read about the swelling her legs and feet. But mentally, she's totally holding on. I haven't requested any support yet because I've been on over drive trying to make sense of my mom's lovely filing system. It consists of piles scattered throughout her apartment. Right now we are trying to find her car title. I've heard that it is too late for her to appoint me her Power of Attorney. So... I do need to have a heart to heart with the hospice doctor to find out her new timeline.



Anyway, have you found out about your scan yet?

Markat- my mom passed away in March of 2012, not from cancer, but from a decline from a series of things that began the summer before. She lived a good full life and was 86 when she passed. We had Hospice come in at the end to help with her transition and they are wonderful. You are already seeing that in the facility your mom has moved into. I think Hospice makes both the patient and family feel as comfortable as possible during a  difficult time. I know they will be of great service to your mom and your family. I am really sorry about all you are going through here.

What I can share with you from my experiences with my mother the last year of her life is that those little rituals (like going to the hospital for the rads treatment), are probably what keeps her going. My feeling here is that it is not the ride to the hospital but maybe the time with you and others that may be taking her there that she is embracing. If you are the one taking her, enjoy those rides, conversations, etc. Those times you spend together will really help you both right now, and you later on.

And about other people- I have always wondered where people disappear to when things get hard? Whether it is death, a job loss, cancer, etc., not everyone shows up. I have had a change in thinking about this in the past year about this after going through a few things. I have just come to realize not everybody can do these things. Not an excuse, just perhaps the reality of their limitations. I find these days, I am grateful for the people that show up no matter what is going on. People who don't show up I don't even think about anymore. I hope there are kind, compassionate, and caring people that show up for your mom and for you during this time.

My thought are with you, your mom and family today.