Help! Any Nutrition Experts?

Hi, Linda ~ I'm not a nutrition expert, and it certainly sounds like you have some unique and complex diet challenges.  What I can tell you from personal experience is that eliminating wheat, which I did after a naturopathic doctor ordered something called an IgG Food Antibody Assessment test that showed I was highly sensitive to it (borderline celiac), made a huge difference in my IBS symptoms.  I've also eliminated most dairy because there's plenty of research showing that it's not good for us; but I do stick with lactose-free non-fat milk and Greek yogurt if I do have some, and that has also helped me a lot.  I would think that a highly qualified naturopathic doctor could help you with diet and menus, and perhaps even RX some natural supplements to ease some of your food sensitivities, as well as maybe a good, plant-based protein powder for to help with weight gain. 

Have you seen a naturopathic doctor?  Mine suggested this association as one way to find other NDs who are highly qualified in oncology:  http://www.oncanp.org/

Good luck!  

Special K, I just re-did the link.  Otherwise, you can Google Oncology Association of Naturopathic Physicians.  It's an organization my ND belongs to, and when I once asked her if she could recommend an equally qualified ND in another area for someone here, she gave me this assn. as a resource.      Deanna

I don't know a lot about some of your conditions and how they might further limit your diet but can respond a bit to the allergies/specific food restrictions...

Can you eat avocado? If so, that's a good source of healthy fats & is calorie-dense. You can put slices or guacamole on chicken, in a veggie wrap, on a sandwich, etc. There are also some recipes online for avocado pudding, which you could make with carob powder instead of cocoa powder.

Quinoa is a good protein source and is also high in amino acids. Use in place of rice in recipes. 

Does coconut count as a "fruit"? If you can tolerate it, it's very high in calories too, and there are tons of coconut-based dairy substitutes available now (coconut milk, yogurt, ice cream, etc.)

I see you are ER+ so not sure you want to rely heavily on soy but it might be something to consider short-term while you get your weight up (soy milk, tofu, soy "meat" subsitutes, soy margarine).

Chicken, turkey, pork, fish... along with starches like potatoes, wheat bread or pasta, brown rice... 

You might want to google "paleo recipes"... the Paleo diet is based on the cavemen diet and is free of grains, legumes, dairy, sugar, etc... might give you some meal ideas that would work. Vegan recipes might be helpful too. 

Can you eat wheat? If so, baked goods might be good snacks. You can use flax meal in place of eggs (there is also a tapioca-based egg replacer you can buy, NRG) and non-dairy milk. Savory recipes might work better if you can't have sugar, but if natural sugars are OK then try using honey, molasses, etc.

Seeds and seed butters are another high-protein, high-calorie option -- sunflower seed butter is a favorite here. Tahini is good too if you add something to flavor it.

Hope that gives you a few ideas, I'm happy to brainstorm more if it's helpful! 

If you can have wheat then I'm thinking something like calzones would be good to try... take bread dough & spread on whatever you like (mustard, or pesto, or whatever condiment) and layer deli meat, maybe some lactose-free cheese or your favorite veggie, and roll it up & bake. 

Something else you can try is seaweed, it's packed with nutrients and you might tolerate it better than some other things? It's good in salad or you can get the flat dried pieces and roll things up in them (rice, avocados, carrots, cucumber, fish). One of my favorite dishes is seaweed with steamed veggies -- sweet potatoes, beets, potatoes, carrots, etc. and rehydrated seaweed -- top with garlic & fresh grated ginger, drizzle with seasame oil & olive oil, serve over rice.

Ohhh speaking of olives, that's another source of healthy fats. Snack on them alone or you can also make or buy olive tapenades/spreads to put on crackers or use it in place of pasta sauce.

Try different kinds of flours (use in pancakes or bread or whatever you would use wheat flour in) -- some are much higher in protein & nutrients. Examples: buckwheat flour, amaranth, chickpea flour, quinoa flour, teff. I know you said no sugar = no baked goods but there are sugar-free baked goods like biscuits, tortillas, rolls, herbed flatbreads, dumplings...

Meatloaf (use ground turkey to avoid red meat)... you can also make mini meatloafs in a muffin tin so you can have it as a snack or freeze individual portions. 

I hate to suggest deep-frying because it has such a bad rap but maybe it would help you get your weight up? You could do french fries, sweet potato fries, croquettes, clam cakes, You might also want to add oils (olive oil or some other healthy oil) and/or maragarine to everything you eat to add the extra calories. Another way to sneak in extra calories without feeling like you're eating a ton is smoothies or meal replacement shakes... might be hard to find a recipe that will work with your restrictions but also worth it to have a go-to drink. One to start with would be some kind of dairy-free milk (coconut milk, rice milk, hemp milk, lactose-free dairy milk, whatever) and blend with oats and flavor however you like (i.e. vanilla extract, carob powder, cinnamon, or coffee). You can also blend in avocados, oils, tofu, protein powder, etc.