Care Pacakge
I am a survivor just over a year now (history below). My MIL a 30+ year survivor was just diagnosed with ILC in her remaining breast (had a mastecomy 30 years ago no reconstruction). At that time she did not need radiation,chemo or hormone therapy.
The current cancer is in her nodes as per the petscan but no other evidence of spreading. She will need radiation but the doctors are saying no chemo as she is 82 and the cancer is very slow growing.
She is in Florida we are in NY. So my question to you ladies who have had radiation is - my kids 18 & 15 would like to send their grandma a care package, what would you recommend we include.
I want to get her a small pillow ( mine was given to me by the hospital I was at and I'm going to Try to find out if I can purchase one from them and a seat belt cover). I've been reading a lot of posts and noticed you mention creams, is this something we can send or is she best getting whatever the RO suggests. If we can send, then is there a specific brand I can pick up at a local drugstore. My kids got me queasy drops and they worked. Is nausea an issue with radiation. I noticed a lot of women said fatigue towards the end.
Any suggestions you have would be great. Her surgery is a week from this Tuesday and even though I know radiation won't start right away I'd like to get the care package to her before surgery.
Thanks for your suggestions.
,
Comments
-
I only have 3 boosts to the scar tissue left, out of 33 total. I am green eyed and fair skinned. my radiation oncologist was impressed with how well my skin is coming through, and asked me what i used. Miaderm, liberally, and it is cheaper where i am being treated than it is on line. Plus at night, and all weekend, i will use aloe from my plant. hopefully, she might have acsess to that in florida. straight from the plant. I also appreciated soft soft soft cotton tees, phone calls, and cards. best of luck to the both of you. also, the purest soap you can find.
-
I second the Miaderm suggestion. And maybe some very soft camis or tanks that will feel good against her skin. Some very lounge wear that she can wear around the house, and maybe even out, would also be nice.
A little good chocolate might also be a nice touch. :-)
-
I didn't have radiation so can't speak to that. But after surgery a lot of times it is difficult to raise the arms so comfy lounge wear or pajama or robes that can unbutton, unzip or step into are great. She will be resting for a while for recovery so maybe a throw blanket for the living room. I also think it would be nice to send puzzles or games or reading material. How about a fruit basket so she has healthy snacks like edible arrangements.
I wish you and your mom the best. My mom went through the same thing she had a unilateral mastectomy and then 30 years later they found a new cancer in the other breast. This is what made it easy for me to take my healthy breast instead of jsut the cancer one. She was nervous but after said that this time the surgery was way easier. She was back to her same old self in 2 weeks.
-
I realized after the first few txs that I would like my own personal hospital gown to wear for tx. You can buy nice gowns on amazon and ebay. You probably can buy them at medical supply stores as well. I even saw some that were handmade and quite nice looking. I bought a package of three so that I didn't have to wash everyday. It was so nice to wear a new gown that smelled pretty and looked fresh. The gowns they provided at the rad center were well used and very uncomfortable. The rad techs loved my 'new' look and were going to recommend others to bring their own.
-
I saw a hand-held massager at CVS for $7.99. It had four little legs and resembled a cute headless creature. You hold the "creature" on its back, turn it on and the legs vibrate, giving a little tickly tingly pleasing massage. I would have liked that. I would STILL like it but I couldn't bring myself to buy it. (My mother taught all her children that the Great Depression was going to return again so pinch our pennies until they give birth to more! LOL)
-
In addition to the suggestions already made, if you could arrange for food to be delivered (or if she has a husband who doesn't cook, maybe gift cards to places that do take-out) so she doesn't have to worry about cooking. Or if she does her own housecleaning (my parents do and they are similar ages), maybe arrange a cleaning service to come by so she doesn't have to worry about it.
Obviously you can't relieve the fatigue, but if you can help alleviate other responsibilities so she can rest, it would probably be appreciated.
-
my best present through my treatments was a homemade teddybear my mom made for me.
the box of carnation instant breakfast drinks was good too.
and the microwave popcorn.
little things, word find puzzles, a blankie, homemade items all good.
-
My mom had a metalic taste after her radiation treatments, so maybe an assortment of hard candies, mints, etc......
Categories
- All Categories
- 679 Advocacy and Fund-Raising
- 289 Advocacy
- 68 I've Donated to Breastcancer.org in honor of....
- Test
- 322 Walks, Runs and Fundraising Events for Breastcancer.org
- 5.6K Community Connections
- 282 Middle Age 40-60(ish) Years Old With Breast Cancer
- 53 Australians and New Zealanders Affected by Breast Cancer
- 208 Black Women or Men With Breast Cancer
- 684 Canadians Affected by Breast Cancer
- 1.5K Caring for Someone with Breast cancer
- 455 Caring for Someone with Stage IV or Mets
- 260 High Risk of Recurrence or Second Breast Cancer
- 22 International, Non-English Speakers With Breast Cancer
- 16 Latinas/Hispanics With Breast Cancer
- 189 LGBTQA+ With Breast Cancer
- 152 May Their Memory Live On
- 85 Member Matchup & Virtual Support Meetups
- 375 Members by Location
- 291 Older Than 60 Years Old With Breast Cancer
- 177 Singles With Breast Cancer
- 869 Young With Breast Cancer
- 50.4K Connecting With Others Who Have a Similar Diagnosis
- 204 Breast Cancer with Another Diagnosis or Comorbidity
- 4K DCIS (Ductal Carcinoma In Situ)
- 79 DCIS plus HER2-positive Microinvasion
- 529 Genetic Testing
- 2.2K HER2+ (Positive) Breast Cancer
- 1.5K IBC (Inflammatory Breast Cancer)
- 3.4K IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)
- 1.5K ILC (Invasive Lobular Carcinoma)
- 999 Just Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastasis
- 652 LCIS (Lobular Carcinoma In Situ)
- 193 Less Common Types of Breast Cancer
- 252 Male Breast Cancer
- 86 Mixed Type Breast Cancer
- 3.1K Not Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastases but Concerned
- 189 Palliative Therapy/Hospice Care
- 488 Second or Third Breast Cancer
- 1.2K Stage I Breast Cancer
- 313 Stage II Breast Cancer
- 3.8K Stage III Breast Cancer
- 2.5K Triple-Negative Breast Cancer
- 13.1K Day-to-Day Matters
- 132 All things COVID-19 or coronavirus
- 87 BCO Free-Cycle: Give or Trade Items Related to Breast Cancer
- 5.9K Clinical Trials, Research News, Podcasts, and Study Results
- 86 Coping with Holidays, Special Days and Anniversaries
- 828 Employment, Insurance, and Other Financial Issues
- 101 Family and Family Planning Matters
- Family Issues for Those Who Have Breast Cancer
- 26 Furry friends
- 1.8K Humor and Games
- 1.6K Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts
- 706 Recipe Swap for Healthy Living
- 704 Recommend Your Resources
- 171 Sex & Relationship Matters
- 9 The Political Corner
- 874 Working on Your Fitness
- 4.5K Moving On & Finding Inspiration After Breast Cancer
- 394 Bonded by Breast Cancer
- 3.1K Life After Breast Cancer
- 806 Prayers and Spiritual Support
- 285 Who or What Inspires You?
- 28.7K Not Diagnosed But Concerned
- 1K Benign Breast Conditions
- 2.3K High Risk for Breast Cancer
- 18K Not Diagnosed But Worried
- 7.4K Waiting for Test Results
- 603 Site News and Announcements
- 560 Comments, Suggestions, Feature Requests
- 39 Mod Announcements, Breastcancer.org News, Blog Entries, Podcasts
- 4 Survey, Interview and Participant Requests: Need your Help!
- 61.9K Tests, Treatments & Side Effects
- 586 Alternative Medicine
- 255 Bone Health and Bone Loss
- 11.4K Breast Reconstruction
- 7.9K Chemotherapy - Before, During, and After
- 2.7K Complementary and Holistic Medicine and Treatment
- 775 Diagnosed and Waiting for Test Results
- 7.8K Hormonal Therapy - Before, During, and After
- 50 Immunotherapy - Before, During, and After
- 7.4K Just Diagnosed
- 1.4K Living Without Reconstruction After a Mastectomy
- 5.2K Lymphedema
- 3.6K Managing Side Effects of Breast Cancer and Its Treatment
- 591 Pain
- 3.9K Radiation Therapy - Before, During, and After
- 8.4K Surgery - Before, During, and After
- 109 Welcome to Breastcancer.org
- 98 Acknowledging and honoring our Community
- 11 Info & Resources for New Patients & Members From the Team