In shock

Benny......I think it's your birthday.....a new year, a new outlook.....blow out those candles with a smile on your face!

Hi nihahi, been up since 5.30 am as DH is road drilling !! wait til he gets up I dug one  of my gelaced nails ( like little daggers ) right in his back, that moved him onto his side, still raoddrilling.
Mug of tea calling so came downstairs. As you come into lounge we have a side light Edi leans forward to switch it on forgetting i have half a glass of water in crook of my arm. Splashing noise ensues, look down to see his mobile phone and spare change floating around on the side table.
Oh SxxT panic stations, wrap phone in kitchen towel, mop water off table, dry coins and put notes on radiator, they are now dry but a bit curly.
Everything replaced as if nothing ever happened, good job I watch criminal minds lol. Phone working too.
Thought of your DH in your kitchen making my little bit of hair stand on end.
Get a roll of sticky labels and put them on edge of shelves or inside cupboard doors. Better still photo contents of cupboards and stick pics inside doors. Did this with dishwasher when I went away on cruise with my bessie friend. Just wish I had done it on everywhere else.
When we did the bedroom I put masking tape labels above each set of his clothes, ie short sleeve tops, shirts, sweaters etc it WORKED now he puts everything back under right label and can find everything without the " Wheres me shirt ? " line.
Your DD is just being comfy with Mom and Dad just close the door on her room.  I rememer ED's room when she lived at home !!!! she would just step over piles of clothes, clean and dirty eewww, to get to her bed.
One day didn't have time to put clean bedding on her bed so left it in neat pile at foot of bed. Next morning looked in to wake her and she was sleeping on the bare mattress and pillow with uncovered duvet over her.
Now she has her own place only tiny bit better but house full of love and laughter, maybe when remo done she will become all neat and tidy.
My DH does the piles on cupboards bit too, followed by the " Why do we need so many mugs, dishes, tupperware " lecture. His shed is stuffed to roof with a million useless ( to me ) things and I keep quiet, also any spare cupboards full of drills screws etc.Tongue biting time.
Got blonde GD today as Mom Dad and her moving into other Nana's, she has dormer bungalow with spare rooms so they are going to live there for next six weeks or so to get away from dust.
Think I will take my own advice and get GD to help me label cupboards for when Papa does the crashing around kitchen bit.x

Liefie, replied re skype on pm. MEN !!! think they pass tips onto each other on how to freak us out.x

Where are all fellow warrior sisters ? xx

Laters xx

Sleep well, eyes drooping here too xx

Websister...so you say its Bennys birthday Monday 1st...however, you forgot to mention it is YOUR BIRTHDAY on TUESDAY 2nd!!! :-)

Happy Birthday to you! Hope you get to relax, eat lots of birthday cake and get spoilt rotten. You truely deserve it. Enjoy your day ♥



Benny, i honestly hope you have had an amazing birthday filled with joy and laughter. I hope you've been spending time with Di and are all prepared for rads! ♥

Happy birthday web sister !!!! Hugs

Hah....gotcha Websister....Advance Happy's to you too!

Dakota, it would be a wonder if the cockroach can even stand to look at himself in the mirror. So sorry for your kids, though, not even saying a proper goodbye/hug!!!!!! It's wonderful though that his family supports you. Wasn't it your daughter that was worried she wouldn't be able to keep connected to her cousin??? Sounds like your future still has a place for those people, cockroach excluded, of course. 

How's your countdown coming? 11 days for us....what are the plans for your kids while you're in hospital and re-cuping?

Happy Easter my Breastfriends!!



I know I have been missing in action, sorry all, taking a well deserved cancer break!!



I read back a bit and Edi I was brought to tears reading about your meltdown in the kitchen. I think we have all done it. I think we are all suffering PTSD, post traumatic stress disorder. I think thats why I needed the cancer break. Your Grandaughter is a little beauty, you are so lucky to be living so close to her. Your bathroom looks awesome!!



Nihahi I wanted to tell you a while back you posted pictures of snowy owls, they were beautiful, those beautiful pictures have a calming effect. When my DH and myself got married 36 years ago he told me if a eagle flys over your car it means good luck, I don't know if it is true but it makes me feel better. I may have missed something, last I heard you were fighting with the alien boob, I hope you are feeling better, and good grief, I hope you can get a better sleep than 30 min....



Traii, I was thinking of you yesterday when I read in our newspaper that some guy who is a talented marathoner from Prince George, B.C., died in a Melbourne hospital after a tree branch fell on him during a storm. He was only 58 and fit as a fiddle, go figure! I bet Easter with your little guy was a blast.



Websister I hope your mom is doing better, and they didn't rush her back to the lodge.

Is the snow in Calgary starting to go, this was a horrible winter for us, we got tons of snow in February and March, It felt like everytime i had a appointment in town it would be a whiteout.....I told my DH I wasn't going to retire here in 3 years. I think we have agreed that somewhere on Van Island would be just right. I was meaning to ask about

the herceptin, I am having number 7 on April 10th, I just worry so much that my heart won't make it to the 17th one. My last muga scan had my number at 58. I started at 63. What number of herceptin are you on and what is your left valve ejection number. I will keep my fingers crossed that I can make it through all 17. I also had a young guy for rads, I actually have given up who is looking at my chest, it feels like everyone has!!



Liefie I am envying you on the island, I hope you are feeling well.



I have been watching the Jodi Arias trial for the last 2 months, it takes my mind off cancer, and I booked Disneyland for myself and my daughter and her 2 kids. We will be leaving Mother's Day for a week! We are super excited. This trip was cancelled last year as I was Dx a few weeks before the trip. We were going to RV down the coastline but this year we are just going to fly.



To all the girls on this site Happy Easter, may you all have a beautiful spring, we sure deserve it and some peace of mind. XOXO

Hi ladies -

Welcome Laurie !!! One day at a time my friend. We will help you !!!

Bearcub nice to hear from you!!

Web sister- yes it was easier not crazy tension with him around

Nihahi - I am getting anxious for surgery. They said only 1 1/2 hours so day surgery the kids will still be with me. They are such good kids I wouldn't have it any other way

Welcome Laurie, these ladies are wonderful.

Happy Birthday wishes for Websister and Benny!

Dakota you remind me so much of my oldest daughter, she is 35 and going through the same as you, her DH is an ass. She is doing mediation for the legal separation they have lived apart since Dec. 2011...and she is still trying to get things worked out. I could not imagine her having to deal with BC and that. She did go for her first mammogram about 10 days ago and got a call back, had a Ultrasound, and is waiting the results. I am praying she gets a good result. The RO was leaning towards cyst. I will say you sound great and I think your frame of mind has you in a good place. You can do this.



I will say my next door neighbour called me about 10 days ago she also went for her first mammogram, (shes 48)..got the callback and now has been given a appointment with the surgeon and has to have a biopsy. I am praying she gets a B9 result.



Liefie you are so right, we are alive, I will live with my loose neck and tummy pouch. Yes, Jodi Arias is a psychopath, scary...I sure hope the victims family gets justice.



Take Care All

BEARCUB!!!! So good to hear from you again. Breaks sometimes are needed..and healthy! OMG what is going on with the callbacks from mammo's in your "circle"? Keeping all those ladies in my thoughts. 

Laurie...as the others have said so well, sorry to meet you, huge hugs (((((((X)))))))) we will help however we can. There are some SPECTACULAR "breastfriends" on this thread.

Liefie....turkey skin...too funny, just about christened the keyboard with coffee again, just like back in the mooseball days of yore!

Traii...you have yourself an incredibly fun and terrific holiday with hubby and son. Yes, you and your whole family have earned it, big time!

Dakota....you can do anything, gal! Exchange surgery....snap....after what you've been through! I agree with Websister, though. It is ok to put yourself at the head of the list, every now and then. I went out for a long walk today, just shut the door on daughter's "stuff" and left. Tomorrow it is supposed to be even nicer, Wednesday, back to the cold, snowy/rainy crap....enough already!!!!!!

Edi...what's up buttercup????? Are you eating Benny's cake all by yourself?????

Hello all my lovely ladies!

It sounds as though all had wonderful weekends(even the cockroach cooperated-but not saying goodby to the kids...what an arse!) I cooked for my DH, my 96 year old Mother Edith, my DD and her DH and 5 children.  I didn't get to cook a St. Paddy's Day Corned Beef and Cabbage, so since I was doing the cooking, I got to choose the menu.......I had to explain to the GKs that corned beef is a "little" like ham (lol) and that the Easter Bunny likes cabbage and carrots.....  In the end, they loved it, and I made a peach cobbler for dessert.  Defo. not typical Easter fare, but everyone loved it, so I guess that's okay. It is the first time I have really cooked for a larger group since surgery, and I was exhausted afterwards

Nihahi, did you get some decent sleep last night?  When my DH starts "road drilling", as Edi describes it, I just very undelicately kick him super hard and fast.....he wakes with a start, but by then I am safely pretending to be sound asleep with my back to him.....he sits up and looks at me sleeping so soundly, and then turns on his side and goes back to sleep....works like a charm every time!        Wow!  your SX date is fast approaching.....excited for you to be on the other side. as far as kid-debris goes, I am like Edi and Liefie....I just have to shut the door when the kids are in one of their "living at home" stages, otherwise I would have to be committed.....

Edi, love your sweet family-those GDs are so cute!  I have 5 GKs...only one GD.  Makes me sad!  She is always wanting to come over for a sleepover.....I havent been able to have her since early January b/c of my surgery.....I am finally starting to feel like 60% of myself, and on  Easter I promised her a sleepover date sometime in the next few weeks. I wanted her this coming weekend, but she is in ballet, and is taking the Royal Academy of Dance exam for level 2 on Saturday, so she said she would have to take a "rain check" - her words not mine.  ( I thought I was going to burst an incision stitch or two with that one, I was trying so hard not to laugh out loud.....) Kids are so funny.

Traii, I would imagine that you would be beautiful no matter the length of your hair-your avatar photo is lovely.  You are so lucky to have such a supportive family surrounding you-with all you do-work, take care of a little person ( your DS), cancer treatments.....and you are so upbeat!  you are amazing-hope you really enjoy your time away from the "everyday" on Philip Island.  You promised Penguin pics.......   

Dakota, it does sound as though your weekend went well.....isn't it nice to know that cockroach's family support you?  They know what an Arse he is!  You amaze me as well-with everything on your plate, you remain positive, and you are totally involved in your children's lives-that's very impressive to me.  I love your sweet smile on your avatar- a beautiful person inside and out!

Websister-so glad your DIL won!  She deserved to!  I voted as often as it would let me.....I'll bet she is thrilled to have won!  Now I (sort of) know someone who has won something!  How is Mom?   was she able to enjoy Easter with you yesterday?  I am going to wish you an early "Happy Birthday" too.....in fact, why not just start celebrating a day early?  You surely deserve to!  Anyway, I hope you have a wonderful day!

Liefie, I'm glad your Organ playing was a success- as you said, 20 years....but honestly, I could play for 20 years, and it would still be the same old refrain.....frozen fingers!  Anyone that can play organ is impressive in my book! You are getting all techno on us.....you and Edi skyping!  lol    If you ever get down here to Portland, I'll meet you (in person)!  I am going to just show up on Edi's doorstep one morning....scare the he** out of her.... 

Bearcub-nice to hear from you! I just live to the south of you a few hundred miles or so..... I hope you have a wonderful trip to the Magic Kingdom with your daughter and her kids....sounds like so much fun!  I would love a break from this cancer stuff.....but I am due for more surgery sometime in the next few months....kind of puts a damper on the planning....  Tell me, are you a black, or a brown bear cub?  I am partial to Brown (Grizzly) bear cubs myself.......

Laurie-welcome to the very best group on the boards!  These ladies are the best! I too, had "just" DCIS, but as you can see by my signature, I had both breasts removed....the post-surgical path. report said I also had DCIS in the "clean" breast.....breast cancer is a b***h.....no matter what stage you have, it's still cancer.  I have had some down days, and these wonderful warrior sisters have been there to pick me up and put me back on my feet! I would be lost without their support......

All the rest of you wonderful ladies-take care, and have a great day!

Last, but not least, a Happy Birthday shout out to Benny, whose post started all of this, and whom I have yet to be on the board with at the "same" time......I hope you are doing well, and that your treatments are going smoothly....I really do wonder about you, and would be so happy if you popped in to tell your good friends here that you are doing okay......any woman who can handle a horse had my vote!

Tomorrow I am going to the airport to pick up my DD who lives in Japan.....she is home for a 3 week (only) visit.....will be nice to see her, but I will find the time to check in with you all.....you're my "breastfriends"! XO

Namaste and God Bless - Jackie

Crossing posts----they're flying fast and furious!!! 

Websister....so hard about Mom, been there..no easy answers, in the end, you want them safe and as content as possible.

Movie.....BACK THE TRUCK UP!!!! What other surgery????? Unless you're referring to a stage 2, then I can breathe again....! Love the Easter menu, sounds yummy and exhausting! There's a new lady on the Diep 2013 thread who I think could use your help???? Similar dx, I think, maybe not. You've probably already gone over there while I'm typing this, just thought I'd give you a heads up.

Websister....I may be in the minority here, but I think there's a time for gentle hugs, and a time for a gentle "kick in the arse (to quote Movie)". If you connect with Benny, my vote would be the gentle arse nudge to get her back to some supportive craziness on this thread. She created us, we owe her so much, and we miss her. Plus, seriously, if she doesn't come back soon, it'll take her another century just to catch up!!!!!! IMHO!!!!!

Hi gals !!!

Bear- please keep us in the loop about ur DD!!!

Traii - thanks. Can't wait to hear about the trip !!!!

Web sister - hope ur birthday was fabulous u deserve it!!!

Movie - thanks for ur kind words. I hope u have a great visit with ur daughter

Nihahi, liefie, Caitlin, Benny, luvmy, all u lovely ladies. Always thinking about u and praying for the best day for all of us !!! Hugs

Hi girls, cpouldnt post first thing as DH was up and about early    Had second part of cmf it was done and dusted in 15 mins. Just having to wait 40 mins before worst part, started a book my best friend bought me and time flew.Latte andsnack then onto Rads also running 40 mins late, more reading. ED and GSD picked me up and we went for tea and scones at local cute homely tea shop.
Her phone goes, it is you know who for me, signal no good for my phone, Wrinkly butt only had the shower door to hang and all finished. When DH comes to see how it is going glass everywhere !! He says it exploded in his hands ?? Of course DH doesnt believe him.
Hopefully supplier has a spare door, praying it fits. Wrinkly covering the cost but DH going on and on, just what I need lol

Traii, hope DS slept eventually,looking forward to Penguin pics. Mum and Dad are adorable but with you as their Daughter can understand why. They must be so proud of you.
My wig pxxxxxg me off too, pulling on new snow white hair.
Keep well x

Dakota, you coped sooo well at Easter, glad family on your side. Poisoned egg would have been my present but you are much nicer than me lol.xx

Websister, Happy Happy Birthday, hope you are having a wonderful day.
Thrilled for DIL.
Hope Mom improves very soon

Glamorous cake for glamourous lady xx

Laurie, WELCOME we are all here for you, you will be fine and if not we will support you in your ups and downs xx

Bearcub, Hiya !! lovely to hear from you. Meltdowns under control at moment fingers crossed.Snowy owls are beautiful creatures aren't they ?
Van Island looks like paradise, hope you do end up there.
Hope heart ok sure it is strong and beautiful like you.
Disney sooo jealous one day want to take GD's but it is for me really.
Prayers for your daughter and neighbour. xx

Liefie, Skype was such fun, will do again soon.xx

Movie, you sound better and better with each post. Corned beef and cabbage oh yum.
Going to do for dinner tomorrow.
Even a little bit of entertaining floors you, glad you enjoyed it.
Hope GD comes for sleep over when she can fit you in lol.
Love you kick DH, don't inflict too much pain as might wake him up then the sxxt would hit the fan.Roaddrill easier option.
You land on my doorstep anytime you like, kettle always on.
Have a ball with your DD xx

Nihahi, how you doing fellow druid/hippie. Hope twcbm not too bad xx

DH like a man possessed. vacuming up remnants of glass with much huffing and puffing and crashing about. Beam me up Scotty lol

Love to everyone always in my thoughts.

Liefie - you are a wonderful singer as well as organist! Talented lady



Edi - I can honestly say that that is the most elegant cake I have ever received for my birthday!

Hope part two of CMF treats you well! Oh no - re: shower door! Will keep my fingers crossed about the replacement. Hope Scottie was at the controls and got you out of there



Nihahi - another beautiful day today! Hope you are out enjoying



Love and hugs to all!