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oops...hit submit too soon.....Websister you snuck in between my posts....meant to say, hope the herceptin goes well, and that you are showing that bronchitis to the door!!!!!!!

oh....thanks for the suggestion.....tried things like that for YEARS with both my kids, who are both depressed and ADD, to different degrees. I even tried things like pick up just 3 toys, or if in her room, put away just the clothes that are yellow, or.....just the socks.....nothing would work, and still doesn't. She can sit like buddha until she is ready to actually do something...........MORE than annoying when she was a child, I'm uncertain how it will work here while I'm fresh out of surgery and low on patience and energy. She can be highly organized when motivated, but almost too much, as she also has OCD to some degree. If the box isn't just right, nothing more happens. yikes!

PS: Just voted for your DIL Websister - hope she wins!



Oh, forgot to say to Liefie that I hope your Easter celebration, including playing the organ, goes well - wish I could hear you play!

Nihahi - you definitely sound like you've tried it all. I have a friend like that, very frustrating to try to help her, I get too impatient. She takes for ever to sort through things, can't throw anything away and while sorting counts it all, including paper clips etc. Sending hugs - and yes, the picture for Benny is beautiful!



Caitlin - glad this time was better but sorry that you are still singing with Johnny. Sorry to hear about your mother-in-law, how far away does she live? You do need to look after yourself also.



Traii - getting closer



I went to see my Mom earlier today, she is looking good and in good spirits. She has three roommates and I think she is actually happier at the moment than she was when she was staying alone in her room so much at the lodge. One lady at the hospital stopped me and said she wished she had my hair . I tried to assure her that no, she didn't but she was quite insistent and said it suited me. Little does she know ...

Morning peeps xx
Six hours again last night in wonderful proper deep sleep. Slept on and off all day yesterday. Just going to go with the flow and rest when body says so.
Still flippin cold here, They have just announced it will be coldest Easter in 50 years !! -10c in parts of England.
Rads was wonderful yet again yesterday, DH took me as too tired to even drive my little car.You have to tell them if you feel yuck and they were so empathic I wanted to cry. Took Immodium before I left and Johny Cash was subdued.
Hopefully off to my darling baby brothers house today, only 35 mins away and DH wants to stay at home and do MAN things i.e. keep an eye on gas man fitting some kind of thermostat which should save us money on gas bill.( happy DH )
ED is driving her Mum there, at last payback for all those years of taxi ing them about. lol.
Made a diaper cake yesterday for my dear friend to give to her boy and girl twin grandbabas for easter, will try and post pic.
Wrinkly butt having Easter break, so shower room has come to a halt, looking good tho. Glad I stamped foot about modernising it.
When in the middle of Ring of fire yesterday couldnt believe that there was a plunber in both loos !! Edi in bit of panic to say the least, DH asked one of them if he could take a quick break, I was mortified as when that bxxxxxd hits can be in there for ages,
You really do lose all dignity and inhibitions with BC.
ED's remo going smoothly now thank goodnes future SIL had a meeting with them and went over every point  think they got a shock as he is one clever lad and he calmly told them that if anything goes wrong due to them not following things discussed to the letter he will SUE their butts off
.ED said they went white lol.
Yesterday all plans etc came through their letter box and things now galloping safely ahead.

Dakota, chipped teeth oowww are they his grown up ones ? hope he is ok.Have a lovely Easter with your little chicks. Keep well x

Nihahi, Poor Kristina, she must be sooo weak, glad something they can sort.Must be hard to motivate her right now but she will soon be safe with you and DH.
When my son was born my iron went with him, a nurse used to arrive every morning with the biggest syringe you have ever seen and harpoon Edi's butt. Top of leg was black for years after. I was told to eat lots of tangerines and my husband used to post bottles of Guiness thru hospital window and I drank a bottle before breakfast every morning   YUK. Took a while but got there eventually with you caring for her sure she will be bouncing around very soon.
I have one more cmf next Tuesday  then LAST CHEMO end of April.
Hope twcbm is keeping chilled x

Websister, hope you picking up energy wise and Mum too. Have voted for DIL what an angel!! no wonder u love her so.
Hope herceptin not affecting you se wise ?x

Liefie, I too love your plan as kids not there, Skype is magic isn't it. If you fancy a face to face natter one day will send you my link.
Your food sounds sooo yum my tummy rumbling.
Have a great time x

Movie, big hug from me and Sergie, he is smiling today as meerkats like eggs choc or not lol x

Traii, you keep relaxing and get those feet up. Edi doesn't get to do Easter eggs due to diabetes, small piece of DH's will have to do  or maybe BIG piece when no one looking.
Envy you decent weather really cold even in the house today waiting for central heating to kick in x

All you warriors not mentioned, you are in my heart and thoughts every minute of every day.
Have a wonderful Easter and hopefully lots of chocolate xx

Just popping in to say good morning. Doing a "shoulder season" hike today, not quite a mountain fix, but a day of playing outdoors with an incredibly supportive friend. Hope it is a "Good" Friday for everyone. (((x))))

Hi ladies. - still Friday here !!! Kids are off of school but I am at work . Easter dinner at my house lucky anything hopefully the cockroach if he comes will behave. Both sides of the family over.... Always been that way so decided to keep it that way. DS teeth looking good thank god!!! Second time since dec. boys will be boys told him he had to wear his hockey helmet on the playground from now on. Hehe that didn't go over well... Lol

Websister - will go and vote next on the list to do. So glad for mom

Lie fie- enjoy your guest!!! Good for you !!!

Caitlin- so glad this round is better for you!

Edi- have a blast at your baby brothers so nice not to have to drive sometimes

Movie, Traii, luvmy, Benny - everyone hugs and happy Easter if u celebrate it. Busy day tomorrow with sports so I will be reading right along not sure if I will have time to post !!!

Laters ladies .... Muah

Hi ladies....popping back in to say "Hello" and "Happy Easter " weekend! 

Edi, you NEED to write-I love getting your descriptive postings on this thread.  You are one funny lady, and I love your wit....reading your posts really brightens my day. (well, except for the times when things arent good for you re: SE's.)  I love, love, love your sense of humor....although I am not British, I have always had that wry sense of humor....a bit like a fish out of water over here.  Americans don't do subtle humor....it requires too much thinking, and being quick on your feet.  When I was much younger, I discovered the Benny Hill show, and knew I was home......

I also think you are a very talented "Cake Lady".....love the diaper cake!  I am for keeping things simple, so my suggestion is call yourself the "Cake Lady"...if I lived nearby, I would def. hire you!  :-)

Give Sergei a hug from me, will you?  He is SO cute! Have a wonderful Easter with your family! (And no wrinkly butt....)

Nihahi, so glad you are getting out and taking a hike today.....the farthest I have gone since surgery is 5 1/2 miles, and I was exhausted!  Think it will take time to build up to a"real" hike....hopefully by May/June!  Hope you took your camera and you will be treating us to lovely photos! (?)  I think about you and your daughter a  lot, and hope that moving in with you and DH will be a positive for her, AND you.  If she can do it, her help will be invaluable to you as you recuperate from DIEP.  (I'm out a little over 2 months, and I still wake up some days feeling like a truck has run over me, then backed up on me!)  But, overall, I am good.

Traii, I hope you enjoy your holiday to  ???? Island....you deserve it.  (I don't have Chemo brain, but I DO have Anesthesia brain.....I am always a little fogged over!)  I would love to see a Penguin someplace other than at a zoo!  How nice that yu can just go to a beach and see them!

Do you have a surgery date yet? ( I can't remember!)

Dakota, sorry about the chipped teeth!  These kids......my four girls took damage like that as a badge of honor.....thought it made them look tougher than the other kids.....  I just hope he is careful from now on out....you have enought distractions!  :-)  Enjoy the transition from Hockey to Soccer for me....I miss those days!  My 27 year old DD is coming home from Japan for 3 weeks, and has been recruited to play in an Adult Indoor league (as a ringer...she played D1 in college) so I will get to watch my kid play once again, and to be honest, I love it!  If I wasn't so worried about injuring myself severely, I would sign up for the over 55 team.....since I had my DIEP surgery, I've become very protective of my "adopted" girls.....wouldn't want any harm coming to them, as I paid dearly to get them!  :-)  

Hope Cockroach behaves himself this weekend, after all, it IS Easter....one can hope!

Lieifie, have a wonderful time this weekend with your dinner guests!  I think it is great that you are having friends over to celebrate Easter.  If I didn't have at least one DD and family in town, I would do the same.

 I am in awe that you play the organ at your church!  I become seriously paralyzed whenever I try to play ANYTHING in front of others!  My fingers feel like cement, and my brain goes into hibernation mode!  I can direct music, but even that is a little dicey in front of others!  I hope all goes well for you during the Easter service!  :-)

Websister, I hope your mother is faring better.....life is never uncomplicated, is it?  While we worry about our own situations, we have parents that need us, and children that may become adults, but still require us for so much.....it's difficult to balance all of it sometimes.  I hope your cold is better, and that your Se's are managable.  Hope your Easter weekend is lovely!  

Thanks again for the Benny update....I owe her alot, because her first post is what brought me to you wonderful women. 

Caitlin, Carlads, Luvmy, and everybody else, I wish you all a wonderful weekend!  You are all such incredible, strong women....I fell blessed to have stumbled upon this thread! You really bouy me up......  :-)

(((Hugs))) to you all!

Namaste & God Bless - Jackie

Thanks, Jackie - Namaste and God Bless

OMG, am I ever tired!!! We planned on a short, sunny, hike, along the dry side of some foothills yesterday. Ended up doing 10.5km through mud, deep, but soft snow, so that you sunk unexpectedly while stepping along, and one "foot dunk" in some pretty cold water, when the ice gave way crossing a stream. Exciting stuff!!!!!!! Lots of fun, but a real workout...never did get much in the way of photo ops either, sorry, next time! Great way to leave the stress of the week behind, though. 

I've got the day to myself, so am going to try to get some stuff moved around in preparation for bringing all of our daughter's things over. It will take some "creative" stuffing, as we are just a month short of our one year anniversary of moving from a 4 bedroom full basement and garage house, to a 2 bedroom condo with 1 storage locker!!!!!! Before the events of last week, we were still full to the rafters, will a few boxes left-over, but everything at least had it's place. Now....I think it's going to be living like those poor souls you see on tv that are hoarders, and have to create tunnels through the house to get around!!!!!! OMG, so not my style, I like things "open and simple". 

Oh well, gonna pour that second cup of coffee and get to it.

Dakota....you are amazing, doing the Easter thing to try to keep things normal for the families. I'm sure it will be good for your kids to have the "connections" continued, and cockroach's family can only admire what strength you have, and what an awesome person you are. Do any of them know about the exterminator process yet? Sure hope you have support people in your corner. 

Jennie...good to hear from you, sounds like you'll do great through rads....it's just getting the steps started, sometimes, isn't it. 

Benny......if you are reading, you must be aware that we have not left you......and are thinking of you.....hope you surface soon. Sorry I won't be able to physically help you out soon, because I would, if I could, if you asked for it. I hope that you DO ASK AND ACCEPT SUPPORT from others. You are not as alone as you must feel. 

Coffee, boxes and bags are calling for me.....love to all.

Jenny, congrats on reaching the rads stage - this is the last station on the way to healing! Also happy that you at least got some reward in the form of a handsome young male assistant - lol!

Nihahi, good for you on that long, mud and cold water hike. Good to move at least. Hope you can find a home for all the boxes. Can't stand clutter myself, and is an open space person like you. Always gets into fights with DH because he puts down all his mail, papers, etc. on the kitchen island, and it looks messy and untidy. He has a small office which is only three steps away from the island, but nooooo, his stuff has to go in the kitchen. Sometimes when I can't stand it any longer, I just bundle it all up into a basket and plunk it down on the floor in his office. Some papers are never found again . . . doesn't make me very popular - lol.

Edi, pm me that skype link. Hopefully I will manage to connect with you as I am technologically challenged, but skyping is not difficult, and I'm looking forward to speak to you in person. Will be just lovely! So sorry for that girl you told us about. So young to battle like this! Just read here last night about a 28-year old doctorate student who was diagnosed with bc in 2010. After treatment she was fine. Then this week she went to the ER because her chest was a little congested from a cold. They did a chest X-ray, and BAM! There were metastases in her lungs. More scans, mets in her liver too. I sat here crying when I read it. She is now stage 4 at 28. What? I have no words, just profound sadness and a gnawing fear for my daughter who is 30.

Today it is 18 degrees here, a glorious, warm sunny day. Went on a mini local nursery tour again today, and I bought some parsley and cilantro plants, which I will plant in a container myself. Just love to quickly run outside for fresh herbs when I need it. If I can only get a lemon tree to grow here. Lots of apples, pears, blueberries, nuts, etc, but no citrus fruits. Oh well, can't have everything. We've been invited to friends for dinner tonight, looking forward to visit.

Have a good day, everybody!

Happy Easter to everyone one of you. Amazing how that little bunny can drop those chocy eggs all over the world in one go!!!!

We are doing an Easter brunch, so an easy day for me. Cool and cloudy here, hope some of you have it warm and sunny. Thinking of you all!  ((((((((X)))))))))

One more post today before I 'hide' my iPad



Today is the last day of the contest for my DIL. If you are voting please vote one more time today and thanks so much everyone! Here is the link again-

https://offerpop.com/FacebookContestEntry.psp?c=326045&u=1184648&a=448952861833126&p=143896322336993&rest=0&offset=0&sortby=recently_added&id=1106368&rest2=0

Edi, I just sent you a pm back. Yes, those men could have been triplets indeed. Another thing my DH does, is to fill every bowl or hollow object standing around the house. Within a few weeks, it is filled with all kinds of junk that I may not throw away. Organ playing went well as it should after 20 years of doing it.

Men.....I am DREADING what mine will do to my kitchen while I'm in hospital. I think it'll take me a month to put things back where they belong! No matter how many times I've shown him where things "go", if he "helps with the dishes, or empties the dishwasher, he'll leave half the things spread out over the counters, claiming he didn't know what to do with them. I think it is deliberate sabotage, so he won't be asked to help!!!!!

Edi...your granddaughers are just lovely. You Brits sure have gorgeous complexions! Must be all that rain!!!! Liefie, bet you look pretty sparkling too, with that Van.Island weather! 

Tried to go to bed without "medical assistance" tonight, as I don't want to get hooked on needing pills to sleep, but hubby is snoring up a storm (Edi's hubby's twin, I guess), so now waiting for the pill to kick in. This is his busy time of year at work, so feel guilty poking him all night to roll over. 

Daughter seems to have finally gotten the message about "getting on with the packing", but then she was supposed to bring a bunch of stuff with her this weekend, and put it away while she was here. Checked "her room" after she left.....brings back the teenage years....can barely see the futonbed or the floor. OMG....please help me get through this without biting her head off! 

A new month already for most of us, and soon for those on the west coast. I'm thinking April will be a good month for us all. ((((x)))).