what's the best thing people have said to you?

My wife's Onc said before he sat down after meeting with us for the 1st time after her surgery: "First of all, I have reviewed your pathology----and you're going to be fine... the cancer is out... the rest is just insurance... we are going for cure---and this is the way we get there."

"you want fries with that" lol I got nothing. My onc says scarey stuff to me. maybe I should see you'lls.

My neighbor invites husband and me to have dinner with them.  If I'm too tired, she brings a plate of leftovers to me.  She hugs me and tells me I'll get better even on HER cooking.

I have a few...



When the radiologist did the ultasound and core needle biopsy, but before I had the results, my biggest fear was not being able to get in with really good doctors. The radiologist said, "if this is positive, you'll be able to go to anyone you want." He was right...and I have had complete confidence in my doctors. (Not to say it's all perfect all the time.)



The breast surgeon said I needed to start chemo "right away" and I started eight days later. She got the lab work, MRI, sentinel node biopsy and port placement all done that first week that I met with her so that I was ready to start chemo the next Wednesday.



Right after the breast surgeon gave me the pathology results (triple negative, grade 3), I was as anxious as I've ever been. The coordinator was on the phone getting all of my tests/SNB set up. Meanwhile, the nurse was sitting next to me reassuring me about the many triple negative patients they had treated who had had good outcomes. She said the same things multiple times until I started to feel better. She even threw in a couple of jokes. That may not have gone over well if she hadn't been very experienced and knew just how to do it.

I was seeing my MO for the first time since being hospitalized for 10 days with typhlitis, ascites, etc. and feeling overall lousy he said, " I think you will be feeling a lot better in 3 months".  I didn't believe him at the time but he was right!

Another time when he was leaving the exam room with his NP I could hear him saying, " She looks good.  I am optimistic."

The NP said the reason I see her frequently and not always the MO is because I am doing so well and the sicker patients see the MO.  She referred to me as their star patient.

Great topic, New Direction!!  Lisa

My breast surgeon, at our first appointment: "If you have to have cancer, yours is the kind to have." (Too bad my onco doesn't seem to agree lol! I'm going with the BS's assessment, I like hers better. )

My husband: "You have survived worse things than cancer. You will survive this."

My 4 year old: "When do you get to have chemo and be bald? I can't wait for you to be bald, I'm so excited!" Everyone who has cancer should get a complimentary child to cheer them up.

My husband told me he was so proud of me.

My 12yo DS when I started losing my hair - "you will always be beautiful to me".

My Husband said, among other things,"You don't need two boobs to be gorgeous!"

Love this thread for its positivity!!  Sweet comment by your DH Ariom!

Just completed an appointment with my RO. There was a display stand holding business cards facing my chair and someone had written on the front card for one of the doctors: "Whoever is sitting in that chair, know that I am praying for you".

It was the very very beginning, December 20th, 2013. I was in the waiting area for my diagnostic mammogram.  They were running behind and the group kept growing and we all began to talk and share.  I remember this one woman who said she was glad she was back to regular mammograms.  I now know what she means.  As we talked, I learned she worked at a special school for kids with emotional/behavioral issues.  I told her about my friend's son's challenging situation.  We spoke a bit about it and I asked for her card.  She was called in and as she got up she turned around and said, "Your friend is lucky to have you."  The feeling of aloneness has been the most difficult part for me  The women's kind remark is a reminder that I matter.  That we all matter. 

Gave me goosebumps too. I pray that this kind and caring angel stays safe.

We are so lucky to have family and friends and even strangers care enough to reach out and touch.

Out of the mouths of babes-who else could celebrate baldness?